Sometimes I wake up with an idea for a post.
Except it doesn’t feel like an idea I had, but rather one that was given from above while I was sleepy enough to hear it.
This is one of those posts.
Which is why it seems angels want someone here to let the beginning of 2017 be even better than they were thinking.
Here’s the idea delivered this morning as best I can sum it up …
You’ve probably got something in mind about how your new year’s eve is going to go, right?
Whatever you’re imagining, how about we upgrade it a titch?
Because whatever we imagine is what we’re a match for experiencing.
And I guarantee just about every one of us has an even better new year’s eve in store than we’re allowing.
In fact, here’s a recent personal example:
I had RSVPd yes when a love interest invited me to his place for a holiday party.
I’m not normally a party kind of girl. As an extreme introvert, I actually consider parties torturous. Truly torturous.
It is not my idea of a good time.
Especially when I don’t know anyone there. I was in a state of dread every time I thought about it.
But cancelling didn’t feel good, and I stopped myself from conjuring every legit excuse I could imagine that might prevent me from attending. (Sick dogs, bad weather, broke down cars – you name it, I had to curb myself from going there mentally. Because I know I am completely capable of conjuring that stuff.)
So apparently I’m going to this damn party I don’t really want to go to.
(Trust me, the guy was super hot, and I didn’t know him well enough to explain that I’m a homebody who doesn’t do social gatherings, or I would not have put myself through this!)
On the way there, I used my magical powers to rethink the night. (Conscious creators know I’m just talking about my imagination. It’s the single most powerful tool we’ve ever been given.)
And I decided to use mine for good instead of not-so-good.
Here I’d been conjuring up painful and strained conversations. Awkward interactions with people who were drinking too much. Tense feelings in general. Imagining how soon I might make my escape.
And I switched it up to imagine myself feeling comfortable in this gathering. I imagined huge genuine smiles and lots of fun. I imagined delightful people that I was happy to talk with. I imagined laughing so hard I was doubled over.
I imagined myself having a good time.
Yes, it was a stretch, but I’m good at engaging my imagination for my benefit instead of my detriment.
I’m not going to lie – I circled the place three times before I could bring myself to park and walk in. (When I say “extreme introvert,” I’m not exaggerating.)
But within minutes of making it through the front door, I felt comfortable. These were good people. They were friendly and welcoming. And they were mostly sober, which is a good thing in my book.
They were open and engaging. They were interesting and funny. I was having fun! With them!
I wondered why I ever worried about going to a party! I’m a party girl! This is my idea of a good time! We should totally do this again – soon!
The smiles were big and genuine. I laughed so hard I maybe embarrassed myself a little. But I love that about me, so it’s okay.
I loved these people in a rather inexplicable way. I adored them. I enjoyed getting to know them and loved their stories. They were amazing! Such good people! I felt lucky to have been invited into this circle.
Believe it or not, I was the last one to leave, that’s how much fun I was having. I would have stayed longer if anyone else had.
I hoped that they were having a new year’s eve party and that I might get invited to it, too. lol
Isn’t it cool what unfolds when we use our creative powers for good?!
You’ve probably don’t have the kind of new year’s eve handicap I had for that holiday party, but regardless of what you’re imagining about your new year’s eve, maybe give Universe a chance to make it even better by imagining it so.
Imagine yourself having even more fun. Or more peace. Or joy. Whatever you’re in the mood for.
See yourself smiling and loving and enjoying. Or sleeping contentedly – if that’s more up your alley.
Feel the empowerment or satisfaction or positive anticipation – or whatever you’d like to feel.
Conjure up the vibrations of excitement and delight, or love and connection – even just a super cool surprise! – and Universe will coordinate that manifestation for you.
Let’s at least put aside any negative expectations we might be holding, and make room for something even better.
Seems like a great way to start the new year to me.
It might seem like “observation” isn’t something we have to practice or get good at.
After all, it just happens. We don’t have to practice it – it’s automatic. We see, we hear, we smell, we perceive.
It just happens – it’s not something we have to direct.
Or maybe the muggle view of observation skills is about being able to notice details that others might miss. Like in Sherlock Holmes fashion.
But it means something else altogether for conscious creators.
Because we know that observing something makes it real. (Whereas non-LOA savvy folks think it’s real, therefore they observe it. They’re passive witnesses to what’s so in the world.)
Not for us, though.
Conscious creators know that whatever we look at, we bring to life. The way we see things serves as a vibrational instruction as to what comes next.
That’s why observation is a skill.
The Observer Effect tells us that the act of looking at something changes what we see. The act of observation quite literally creates our entire world. Our reality depends on what we look at and how we look at it.
From Joe Dispenza: “… our observation has a direct effect on our world. If we keep it very simple then people can get about the business of beginning to practice the skill of observation.”
So what is the skill of observation? And how do we practice it?
Here’s my take on how we become highly skilled observers:
For one, we learn how to spotlight our favorite parts, and dismiss our not-so-favorite parts.
We know what to bring to the foreground and what to send to the background. Like an artist who knows optimal placement of things for maximum desired effect.
It’s not that we’re down to our last $20 in our checking account. It’s that we have money in the account!
It’s not that a love interest is ignoring us. It’s that there are a handful of other delightful candidates for fun romance! (And anyone who asks about the one prospect gone awol will hear all about the others we are enjoying.)
In short, we have eyes for the gifts.
That’s what my friend Ming did when her money stone went missing during our visit. She didn’t “lose her money stone.” Rather, she left a magical money attractor with me. Somewhere. We don’t know where. Exactly. But it’s here somewhere.
It’s not the seven job interviews that didn’t go anywhere that we get hung up on. It’s the one we’re in the running for that we dwell on. Or the one we know must be right around the corner that we think about.
In fact, that’s another skill of observation – being able to see what isn’t so yet.
We see the success when everyone else thinks it’s a pipe dream. We hear the applause before anyone has gathered. We smell the mountain air while we’re still breathing city fumes. (Or vice versa, depending on your dream!)
In short, we know how to recognize a topic or perspective that doesn’t serve, and are willing to turn attention elsewhere.
Like when a friend is getting riled up about a subject that isn’t likely to have a happy ending, and we gracefully change topics. Or when we’re scrolling online and see a facebook friend post, “This made me sick to my stomach,” and we scroll right on by. Or when an ex makes insistent attempts to engage drama, but you just let it go.
We don’t get stuck where some people do. Skilled observers are very conscious about where we invest our attention.
Bottom line, conscious creators know how to powerfully engage our imaginations and tweak our perceptions to make our dreams manifest. That’s the skill of observation.
How are you practicing it today?
Sometimes we paint ourselves into an unhelpful corner when we believe we can’t have what we want.
Like a reader who wrote last week who wanted to enroll in a new course, but didn’t want to spend the money.
Or like my guy friend who wants to enjoy a monogamous relationship with his sweetheart, but still wants to be able to have other fun as inspired.
Or the way I’d love to join a few friends on a crop circle trip with Freddy Silva, but I also really want to just stay home.
There are some things that seem like they just don’t go together, and that we truly have to choose this desire or the other.
Here’s the thing. Conscious creators know anything is possible that we can imagine.
Nothing is off limits unless we make it so.
So what do we do when we’ve got conflicting dreams?
Here are four tips to remedy the situation when you’ve got contrary instructions running:
1. Recognize where you’re doing it.
Often we don’t even realize we’re buying into limiting beliefs. We just think that’s how it is. (Like, “what’s done is done.” You know what? Not always. You’ve got options.)
A sign that you’re thinking small or that you’ve painted yourself into a vibrational corner is feeling frustrated, confused or stymied. When you become aware of your emotional indicators that you’re not letting yourself have what you really want, question the thoughts involved.
Once you recognize the beliefs running that are holding up your party, then you can engage one or more of the following tips …
2. Rethink the situation.
Give up thinking it’s impossible, because as you think, so shall it be. As long as conflicting thoughts are in place, you’re blocking your desires from manifesting.
Be willing to think it differently. Give Universe some room to work on your behalf. You can take higher power off its leash by simply releasing your limiting thoughts that you can’t have what you want.
A simple way to do that is to ask yourself what you really want. What’s the true desire (or desires) flowing here?
(Hint: it often boils down to a feeling.) It’s just your physical mind that’s not capable of conceiving how that could happen.
3. Practice the satisfaction or success of it.
Once you know what you really want and how that would feel, all you have to do is practice feeling that now.
What would it feel like to have your cake and eat it, too? If you could have the best of all worlds, how would that feel?
That’s the vibration you want to activate now.
4. Get out of Universe’s way, until it calls you.
Once you’re feeling it (the vibration of what you want when you get to have it all), all you do next is whatever sounds good.
Follow your inner guidance and do whatever higher power calls you to.
It is seriously that simple.
Here’s a personal example of how this played out for me some time ago:
Shortly after ending a three year celibacy streak, I found myself in the company of two fabulous men.
Not at the exact same time, mind you.
But they were in my life at the same time. And they were both amazing. I could gush about them endlessly. I was seriously head over heels for both of them.
The only problem being that I wasn’t in my personal integrity to see two men at the same time.
Yes, they knew about each other, but that didn’t help me feel fine about it.
I knew I had to choose. But I couldn’t! I wanted both of these amazing men to be in my life!
I didn’t want to cut anyone loose. I wanted to enjoy them both!
I had already tried seeing them simultaneously and it absolutely did not work for me.
To really feel like I was investing in an intimate relationship, I needed to focus energies into just one love.
But I wanted both!
My body even started to show signs of stress from the situation, with a bout of insomnia and a mysterious tooth pain that came and went randomly.
On my way to the dentist, I looked up teeth in Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. “Indecision.” Yikes, she nailed that one!
When the dentist was unable to find the source of anything causing the pain, I blurted out that I knew what it was. “It’s indecision! I love two men and had to choose one!”
He didn’t miss a beat. “That easy,” he said. “Who has more money?”
Sigh. If only it were that simple.
So there I was in a quandary about loving two men and knowing I could only have one.
I also didn’t want to hurt either of them. And they were both into me, too – the last thing I wanted to do was break anyone’s heart.
Finally I realized I was doing it.
I had painted myself into an impossible corner with my thoughts.
Once I was in my right LOA mind, I realized I don’t have to know how to get what I want.
All I have to do is be willing to feel it now.
Pretend I got what I wanted – how would that feel?
I reflected on it …
What I really wanted was for everyone to be happy. Just for all three of us to love each other and to be happy. To have this love triangle resolved in a harmonious way.
And Universe, I have no idea how you’re going to do it – but that’s what I want.
I conjured the vibration of happiness and relief and satisfaction (just by imagining that all three of us were ridiculously happy together), and let it go.
Guess what happened next?
One of my guys had his head turned by a very special friend in his life. He never knew there were romantic possibilities there, but he felt compelled to check that out.
Which cleared the way without me even having to do or decide anything!
I got to have my lover, I got to keep both of these guys in my life (the other one just as a friend since he passed me up for another woman), and we all got to be happy! No broken hearts (although I did have a bruised ego for a small moment), no impossible decisions, I didn’t have to learn how to be okay with a threesome, and I had a fabulous lover and an amazing friend.
I never would have thought that all three of us were going to be happy if I were only seeing one of them.
But Universe is cool like that.
It knows how to get you where you want to be. All you have to do is be a vibrational match to it and let it do the work for you.
So if there’s something you’ve been believing you can’t have because it conflicts with something else you want, like:
– just get out of your own way and let Universe do the magic for you.
You cue that magic by releasing the obstacle thoughts and being willing to feel now how you would feel then.
That’s how expensive courses end up gifted, or how even better resources appear. It’s how perfect business opportunities are unveiled that allow you to still be the mom you want to be. It’s how the perfect house sitter appears to make you delighted to leave home, or how Freddy Silva shows up in your own home town to study the latest crop circle.
It’s just amazing how Universe can put together what you want when you get out of your own way.
Pretty cool system we’re playing with, huh? 😉
Sometimes we overcomplicate things …
Either because we’re used to thinking we have to pay our dues to get the reward, or just because we really believe it is hard to create what we want.
But the process of manifesting our desires is actually very simple:
It’s just one better-feeling thought or action after another.
It’s just one better-feeling thought or action after another.
Wherever you’re at. For whatever you want.
This is not rocket science.
What feels better next? In thought or action, follow that thread.
It’ll take you straight to dreams come true.
No one else can point your way there, because they don’t know what feels better to you. That’s inside information.
(Maybe someone can help you discover it, but you’re the only one that knows what feels better to you.)
The good news is your inner guidance is already programmed for this routine – and it’s calling you to that better-feeling thing. One after another after another.
It’s what feels lighter; it’s what sounds fun; it’s what appeals to you more. It might feel like relief, or joy, or ease.
All you have to do is follow it. Whatever feels better.
“What about my gremlins/boss/spouse/kids?” you might say. “They aren’t down with my idea of doing whatever feels good. I can’t just go willy nilly traipsing through life following my feel good!”
Well, yes you can.
And if you’re a conscious creator, that’s exactly how you roll.
Find what that is, and follow it.
Whether it’s a new thought or a different action, honoring what feels better is a reliable path to dreams come true.
You know why?
Because however you manage to feel better, that puts you closer in the vibrational vicinity of everything you want.
You don’t have to figure out the “hows,” you don’t have to prove yourself worth, and you don’t have to struggle your way there.
It just doesn’t get much simpler than that.
Lots of folks who want love in their life don’t realize they block it by the way they talk about it.
They say things, to themselves and others, that reinforces the very reality they don’t want.
The average person doesn’t realize that as they speak, so shall it be.
Fortunately, you’re not average.
(Anyone reading law of attraction material is already way ahead of the consciousness curve!)
We know that the way to welcome new love into our lives is to get ahead of it.
That means to speak, think, feel and behave the way we would when we’re experiencing that love.
That’s how we vibrate love (or whatever want) into our lives.
And it might not feel like the most natural or intuitive thing to do …
It can feel strange to appreciate something that isn’t here yet.
It might seem a little crazy to talk to our lover before we’ve met them.
It can be awkward to practice love before love has arrived.
But that’s how we grease the wheels for it.
That’s how we cue Universe to send in the next love.
So if you’re in the mood to call in a new relationship, pay attention to the sorts of things you hear yourself saying about the state of your romance.
Instead of perpetuating your current reality, you can usher in a new one by speaking it so.
That could sound like having a conversation with your lover as if he/she were already in the room with you:
If you’ve been in the routine of feeling like you’re rolling solo through life, those conversations can be a big vibrational switch.
Instead of instructing Universe that you’re alone, you send the signal that a loved one is right there with you.
You may find it easier to engage less reality-confronting thoughts like, “I’m ready for love” or “Looking forward to my next relationship.”
I’ve also heard many success stories from creators who wrote letters to their love as if they were already connected. (That’s a big vibrational difference than traditional journaling about longing for a new love.)
Those of you who have super cool friends can even talk about your new partner with those who get what you’re up to. Together you’re scripting your relationship into existence!
But even if you don’t feel comfortable talking about your lover as if they’re already present and accounted for, at least stop holding him/her at bay by speaking them away.
Because when you say, “I’m so tired of being alone,” Universe has to make it so.
And when you say, “Honey, I’m home!” Universe has to make that so, too.
It will make real whatever you’re willing to speak into being.
Remember Mike Dooley declaring “It’s a good thing I’m rich!” when he got a big bill in the mail he didn’t know how to pay?
Conscious creators are willing to say what isn’t “real” yet in order to make it so.
This means you can talk your way right into your next true love by engaging your creative powers to speak it so.
This isn’t the only way to become a match for a fabulous new relationship, but it is a powerful one.
You’re already speaking your reality into existence, so let’s make sure it’s the one you want.
If you’ve got success stories along these lines, we’d love to hear them!