Co-Creating a Monster (Or Not)
The other day I shared my crackhead neighbor story with a new client to explain the power we yield when we “know” how someone is.
When I know my neighbor to be destructive, dangerous and full of hate – that’s who I get. He can’t be anything else for me when I know that so well.
But when I know something else about him, I get something else from him.
Because I’m making all of this stuff up! It’s all coming from me.
It’s not that I’m a puppet pulling his strings; it’s that there are infinite realities possible and I get what I vibrate.
Which means that whatever I know about my neighbor, so shall it be.
That’s true for everyone and everything in my life. I can only experience what I’m the vibration of. And whatever I vibrate becomes “true” for me.
Those of you who heard my crackhead neighbor story will recall that once I dialed onto peace, love, quiet and appreciation (the vibrations I most missed, after realizing I’d been in battle energy trying to get rid of this guy), once I changed my vibration, my destructive and hateful neighbor became love, quiet, appreciation and peace – for me.
Not for anyone else in the neighborhood, just for me.
They still hated him and experienced his negative behaviors.
But for me, he was transformed.
It got me to thinking of all the family members and neighbors and police officers who “knew” him and his evil ways, what chance did he have of being anything but trouble with all that negative “knowing” in place?
When practically everyone knows you to be a bad guy? That’s heavy energy to buck, I don’t care how conscious you are.
So, there I was thinking about how we all handicapped my neighbor by knowing such awful things about him, and it made me wonder what it’s like to be Donald Trump.
How many of us are using our powers of influence to create what we want when it comes to him?
Many in my circle are just choosing not to pay attention at all, and I respect that! I practice it myself on regular occasion.
Some in my circle are up in arms about all the bad things he’s doing with his new power.
I’ve done that routine before, too. I know how it turns out.
It’s not my favorite story.
I like the one that has peace, love, quiet and appreciation in it.
And I get that not everyone would choose that. Some people like a little drama! They like some excitement! They enjoy a good test!
Or they’re just used to having a problem to focus on. They might not even prefer it, they’re just used to it.
But judging each other’s choices isn’t helpful. All desires are valid.
What I’m interested in is reminding us that we do get to choose our reality.
And for anyone who isn’t interested in co-creating a monster dictator in the world, maybe let’s not do that.
Just for fun. Because we can.
Let’s give him – or anyone in your life who matters to your experience – a chance to be someone else.
A chance to be someone who does what we consider the “right” thing. Someone who shows qualities like respect and compassion and intelligence. Or whatever we’d have a better time with.
Because if my neighbor could roll up on me with peace, love, quiet and appreciation – anything is possible of anyone.
Our thoughts matter.
Let’s yield them wisely.