Contradiction in Manifesting Weight Loss?
An astute reader asked about a conflict she saw in my instructions for using law of attraction to lose weight.
I had written about “loving it to lose it” – saying that when we resist extra weight, that’s exactly what we create. Extra weight.
So to lose pounds, the first step is to get out of resistance and (eventually & ideally) into appreciation.
This reader asked how does that instruction jibe with the common LOA knowledge that what you focus on grows?
She shrewdly concluded that according to the law of attraction, whatever we pay attention to is what we get more of, so why wouldn’t paying attention to extra pounds (even in a state of love) just attract more extra pounds?
I suspect she might not be the only person wondering about this seeming contradiction, so I wanted to post here to give others a chance to “weigh in” with their thoughts on the subject.
My personal take on it is that Universe knows what we want (Abraham would say “it’s in your vortex”). When we find a way to enjoy, appreciate, feel good, and get happy – or even just drop a little resistance and get to neutral – that’s what allows our desire to manifest.
That’s why loving our bodies “as is” can lead to weight loss. What I’m focusing on as I love my body as it is, is love for my body. When Universe gets that signal from me, it sends in results/reasons/evidence to match that love.
It does seem contradictory, though, doesn’t it? “Love it to lose it.”
There is a trick here, though. If I’m loving it in order to lose it – that’s like love with an agenda. And love doesn’t have an agenda.
So you can’t really love it just to lose it. You love it, and then you lose it. (Subtle but important distinction.)
It would be like saying to my boyfriend that I love him as long as he does what I want him to. That’s not love.
I personally know that every time I feel hung up when my body doesn’t look how I prefer, it stems from resistance to how it is. And that resistance stymies any “positive” change. The fact that I even think of it as “positive” change reveals a judgment, though, doesn’t it?
Turning to you smart creators to offer your thoughts, experiences and insights on this subject. Thanks in advance, everyone!