Dancing with Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction Dance between what is and what's next To some creators it seems paradoxical to embrace two apparently contradictory principles of deliberate manifesting:

appreciating what is


focusing on what’s next.

We’re told to learn stronger focusing skills, so that  we’re looking less at our physical reality and more at what’s in our vortex (vibrational reality).

We’re encouraged to visualize the end result regularly, pivot when we’re thinking contrary thoughts, and to develop a strong familiarity with our “dream come true.”

At the same time we’re told that resisting our current reality is a perfect way to stay stuck in it.  So making peace with it, or better yet – learning to appreciate current reality – is a key component of vibrational alignment.

Someone asked me the other day if those weren’t contradictory instructions.

It can sure seem that way sometimes, huh?!

I’ve felt it myself – when it seems like I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time loving my life just as is, that I start to feel a little irresponsible in not giving more attention to the big “vision.”

I can also sense that focusing exclusively on how fabulous life will be when that vision unfolds shortchanges my enjoyment of all the wonderful things in life right now.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Rather than seeing it as a paradox, I see it as a dance:

A dance between loving life now and looking forward to what’s next.

Abraham describes it as “satisfied with what is and eager for more.”

I know from personal experience that practicing even one of these manifesting principles results in more good things. But when we can embrace both – that’s powerful alignment!

Do you have any tips to share about how to love what is while still keeping an eye towards what’s next?

We’d love to hear them!

  • July 28, 2012
  • Nathalie says:

    @Cat I agree with Kim — that gardening metaphor is brilliant! I’m not much of a dancer, but the gardening concept really resonates with me and makes this concept clearer, so thank you!
    @Mara Enid: “I think when I have a problem reconciling appreciation for today with excitement for tomorrow, there’s a part of me that isn’t really believing/expecting that my tomorrow will turn out as I want it to.” YES! This is exactly the issue I’m having. I *know* that I can manifest things, from past experience, but they’ve always been small things. I’m trying to manifest financial independence right now and I’m finding that despite visualizing, and affirmations, part of me just doesn’t seem to really believe that I can do it. And it’s driving me nuts… I had someone tell me that LOA is an emotional exercise, not an intellectual one, and that’s where I get stuck. I *know* intellectually that it is possible for me to do this, but I can’t *feel* that it is possible yet, so I don’t really *believe* that I can make it happen. Very frustrating.
    I also find that when it’s something that I’m not overly attached to I can manifest things literally within an hour (for example, I can *always* find shower curtains that match the decorating “vision” I have in my head).

  • Hi,
    I think we do it everyday without even realizing it. While watching a good movie, we appreciate a great scene and look forward to the rest of the story. While dining at a fine restaurant we really enjoy whats on our plate while also looking forward to the next course.
    Its only when we are not in alignment that we might have cause to wonder about conflicting requirements. When in the flow (Vortex), its just you and YOU as one, no duality,no contradictions.
    Thanks for the thought provoking posts.

  • Dale says:

    As I was reading your post I could feel myself (and my grid) lighting up. It really is so much fun to play with this. It allows for so much excitement of “what is on the way”. I’ve seen the results happen much more quickly lately and that makes me do a happy dance. I love results!

  • Lois says:

    S, you make a very good point. How often I do the same thing when something good happens to me. I think how lucky I am, but never give myself credit for having manifested it.

  • S says:

    for me ive found that i feel more ‘manifesty’ and grounded in the present when i give myself credit for things.
    for example..i was wondering about the paradox for the past one week or so. and i opened you blog today and whoa..here was a detailed analysis of what id been thinking in my head !
    my first reaction was ‘ whoa. i got lucky i chanced upon material of such congruence !’
    THEN i said to myself ‘ no, i dint get ‘lucky’. i deliberately manifested this event, where i happened to come across this article of yours. ME did it. ME. its not a matter of random probability that went right for me or something !!’
    the thing is, i figured i tend to attribute any good thing, however small, to ‘blind luck’. and that invariably makes me think that manisfestation is about ‘luck’ and that its not ‘in my hands’. that sooo..disempowering ! so me avoids it 🙂

  • Kim falconer says:

    The gardening metaphor is brilliant. Thank you Cat! I love it!

  • Cat says:

    Perhaps another good metaphor might be gardening.
    Gardeners enjoy the process of amending the soil (making the best of what you have), planting the seeds (focusing and desire), and watering (appreciating and feeling good now) — but they never lose sight of what’s gonna fruit in that garden someday! Can’t you taste that fresh-picked salad right now?
    And they’re probably MASTERS at looking for evidence… 🙂

  • John Hare says:

    I want to send a big THANK YOU to Jeannette for this posting and also for your blog in general. I discovered your blog just several weeks ago, and I continue to go back to it daily for inspiration!
    Your articles, the comments of your readers and your replies are extremely insightful!

  • Brenda says:

    Oh, yes, that incredible “dance!” What a beautiful metaphor, Jeannette! And, what a timely blog post this is for me. Although I’ve done that dance and know its power, I’ve found with my most recent desire, it’s like I’m having to re-learn those moves/steps with a new partner. And, if I put ANY time limit on when or what date that thing that I want should show up by, my partner/desire instantly feels very, very far away, and I lose step.
    I love how Mara describes it. And I also quite love how Martha Beck describes this dance in several places in her book “Finding Your Way in a Wild New World”:
    “Keep toggling back and forth between Imagining what you want in clear detail, and dropping the Image and returning your attention to the present while keeping the warm glow.”
    “…bathing the moment in a background blush of happiness or satisfaction.”
    “Being in love with both the present moment and the future perfection you’ve Imagined makes you irresistibly magnetic.”
    What a lovely description (thank you, Martha)!

  • Noelle says:

    Oooh thank you, thank you, Mara!
    Huh, been following Abraham and others for over 10 yrs now, and never quite put these two things together with the perfect words like you did here!!! A light bulb just went off in my head! I “really realized”:) that I’m not enjoying “what is” very much while I am envisioning what I want!
    Like, I can appreciate aspects of what is, and I can enjoy imagining what I want, BUT…I don’t think I’ve ever done the two things at the same time with that “logic”!!!
    I’ve never said to myself, “wow, I can really relax, and just enjoy this, since I know it’s only temporary, and even better is coming”!!! I’m a big word person, and when I get just the “right words” I can FEEL it! And your words feel like a revelation actually……kinda subtle, yet “big”, to me anyway! This very well may be my “hidden hindrance” in some seemingly “stubborn” areas in my life!
    THANK YOU again for posting this:))!

  • julie masters says:

    Another great “Koan” (a Zen paradox like “what is the sound of one hand clapping?) to play with Jeannette!
    I’ve always thought of paradox AS a dance, a dance that demonstrates how inadequate logical reasoning can be!! Not that I don’t often try to rationally “answer” the paradox on a regular basis! LOL When I get tired of workin’ it, I find that simply loving the “what can I appreciate now and anticipate next?” question itself, works best to un-kinks my vibe.
    It’s like Contact Improv, a dance practice where the leading and following between partners is always shifting. It’s a very physical (and FUN!!) experience of loving what is, and anticipating what’s next. I think that’s why I enjoy it so much!
    Ease and flow,
    Julie Masters

  • Mara Enid says:

    I actually think the two thoughts go hand in hand. When I’m confident that everything is taken care of in the way that I want for the future, I’m more relaxed and able to enjoy today. For example, if more abundance is the ‘tomorrow’ that I’m visualizing and I truly KNOW it’s going to happen, I enjoy today more because I know all is well. If I know the new career path that I’m visualizing is coming, I can make the most of the current ‘day job’ and even look for ways to enjoy it because there’s nothing for me to resist.
    I think when I have a problem reconciling appreciation for today with excitement for tomorrow, there’s a part of me that isn’t really believing/expecting that my tomorrow will turn out as I want it to.

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