Deliberate Creator or Crazy Person?

deliberate creator or crazy person?It’s not every day I get called delusional, dangerous and egotistical.

But yesterday’s newsletter discussing the difference between powerful manifesting and irresponsible behavior flooded my inbox with the kind of comments I don’t usually get.

Here’s an unedited sampling:

Lisa M writes:

After I had children I would not even smash a spider or bug. I became more protective … no worry and bring in ” lower vibration thoughts”,  but “Common Sense with light”? Besides not wearing seat belts is Illegal. That is close to keeping the change when the cashier accidentally gives you too much back. Telling a white lie – “lower vibration.” Oh I did build a 300Million dollar company … Love to manifest

Kristel said:

It’s one thing to not wear a seat belt – you are just hurting yourself should something happen. But do you really think that you are so powerful that you can control the will of your cats? That borders on witch craft doesn’t it?

you are not God. Your point of view sounds a tad egotistical to me. I would never put my beloved friends in danger. They can’t read, they don’t know Lilies are poisonous. Would you leave out a potentially poisonous substance if you had a baby because you think you are so well protected? If so, I certainly hope you don’t have children.

You seem like a very carring person who truly wants to help people and I have enjoyed reading many of the things you have written. But the direction you are heading is not in line with my path.  It borders on a type of simplistic fanaticism that I think is harmfull.

Kindly remove me from your mailing list.

from Wendy (a colleague):

We are now living in a society that is driven by fear. Some of it is generated by companies that sell us things that will help us allay our fear (like sunscreen), but it has become close to a religion. If you are not living in a way that minimizes all known risks, you are treated like a heretic. I’m glad you wrote a post on this.
There is more to life than avoiding death and I agree living in fear brings in the things that we are most afraid of.

have a great day knowing full well you’re going to die. The choice is whether you spend your life worrying about dying or spend it enjoying your time here.

I laughed when even my friend Croz wrote: “Are seat belts NOT compulsory in America?”

There were also notes like this:

Love this piece! When somebody feels the need to curbside me and warn me about something- I feel like its a good check- in and as you say it’s done (as so many awful things are- out of love, lol!) and then, if I still feel my inner HELL YES-  I keep doing it!

Just wanted you to know I LOVED your recent message regarding powerful creators or irresponsible citizens!  When I read the blog about the guy who was out of work and spent his savings on an Alaskian cruise, I thought how great it would be to have that kind of faith, and lack of fear in one’s life! Wow! I’m not sure I could be that “throw it to the wind” but I admire people who can.

Great post! Went to the blog, looked for it there to comment, but didn’t see it. Thanks for the info. Your insight makes me giggle!!

I refuse to take a flu shot even though I work in a hospital that almost makes it mandatory – I believe in perfect health and as such I am never sick. My collegues who do take the flu shot are always calling in sick and still get the flu despite the so called vaccination. Their belief that they are powerless over germs is their reality not mine.

Love this! Excellent piece of writing and really made me laugh . . . and good point!!!   I love you!!
For those who were asking to see it on the blog in order to post their comment, this is the place.
Here’s the gist of the newsletter that went out, for those who haven’t seen it:

At what point are we being powerful creators and at what point are we just irresponsible citizens?

I wondered that today when one of my highly esteemed colleagues was kind enough to point out on my facebook page, after I posted about beautiful flowers I received, that lilies kill cats.  I promptly decided that the post must go, not the lilies, and deleted the well-intentioned warning.

(I’ve also been known to share chocolate treats with my dogs.  They’ve developed quite the tolerance!)

About a month ago a new member at GVU was intent on alerting me that there was “crazy talk” happening in the archived calls – where someone was nutty enough to say that they didn’t wear seat belts.  She thought I should know immediately so I could take that content down, to prevent others from doing something reckless.

(Um, that was me who doesn’t wear seat belts.  I was the one who said it on a call.)

When I politely pointed out to her that the way law of attraction works is that the vibration of “protection” often attracts the very thing we don’t want, and that we all have different vibrations and thus aren’t all living the same truth, she cancelled her membership.)

So, I’m totally comfortable with chocolate for dogs, lilies in a multi-cat house, and no seat belts in the car.  And lots of other stuff that other conscious creators, let alone muggles, wouldn’t be down with.

But every once in a while I hear something from a fellow manifester that makes me raise my eyebrows.

  • Like when an unemployed friend told me he was spending the last of the family’s savings on an Alaskan cruise, even though he didn’t know where the next mortgage payments would come from.  (Uh, how about from that savings account?!)
  • Or when I read on a blog about a deliberate creator who was intending NOT to contract the aids virus from their new lover, and chose to skip the condoms.

Yet I didn’t blink an eye when Wayne Dyer said he was skipping conventional medical treatments for his leukemia.

So what gives?  In thinking about it more, I realize I truly do believe anything is possible.  And I also know that our ability to step outside strongly held, long term beliefs is something I wouldn’t want to stake my life on. (Funny that I don’t see the seat belt issue as that.)

But I wouldn’t suggest YOU feed chocolate to your dogs, and I personally wouldn’t go condomless with a partner who was HIV positive.  At least, not unless I worked up a strong aligning belief.  (Frankly, I think the condom would just be easier!  Although I know if I was really afraid of transmission, no amount of condoms or even abstinence could help me avoid it.)

I guess the helpful point is that we can’t sit in judgment of another’s decisions about what they can or can’t create, because it’s such a personal process and we all have different perspectives, thoughts, beliefs and experiences.  What’s dangerous to you might be old hat to me, and vice versa.

What I can appreciate is that even when someone is warning that I’m behaving irresponsibly, I know that it’s based in love and deep caring, and that’s all good.


Not that I need anyone to understand or agree with my vibe, but I’ll explain that wearing a seat belt makes me feel like trouble is coming, since the only time we wore them growing up (yes, I’m that old) was when it was stormy or the driver was under the influence. So clicking in makes me feel wary. I know better than to drive with that vibe.

(And I don’t really believe seat belts would save me from disaster. That’s MY job; not my seat belt’s. I do a better job without it, it turns out.)

I will also add that I’ve had many bouquets of lilies (in my multi-cat household) before.

More than ever I see the difference between what feels good to each of us.  We would be wasting our time to judge another’s vibration or think we all need to be on the same page.  In fact, I saw a pin the other day along those lines:
allowing another's different perspective

The good news is we don’t have to agree in order to thrive!

Deliberate creators know we each create our own reality.  And that we all do it differently.  What makes one person feel better puts another at vibrational risk.  I’m not telling anyone else what should feel best to them, and I won’t hold it against someone who thinks they know what’s best for ME.

Whereas some say yes, there’s a line you shouldn’t cross even when you’re consciously creating your world, I say to each his own!  And however you do it, rock on with your bad self!

  • May 4, 2012
  • Barbara says:

    I’m a little late to this conversation, but loving it all the same! Excellent reminder to follow your own “feel good.” There was a time in my life when I would try to push my opinion on others, to convince them that I was “right,” backed up by facts that I thought supported my argument….but I’m so glad that those days are gone (for the most part..LOL). Thanks, Jeannette et al for all these diverse perspectives – as Pernille said above, it keeps us expanding…and I feel it makes life a lot more fun! Warmly, Barbara

  • Mariette says:

    JUST got this daily quote from Abraham in my mailbox:
    “Everyone thinks they’re right. So, the question isn’t who’s right or who’s wrong. The question is, who is most in alignment with their Source? And who is the most allowing? And whose life is really going the best, most of the time?
    — Abraham “

  • Mariette says:

    I am responsible for MY choices, no matter what people tell me to do. Just because something works for someone else doesn’t mean that it will work for me.
    It is my responsibility to “take what feels good and leave the rest”. I don’t think anyone agrees 100% with everything they read(thank gawd) but hopefully you can find your golden nuggets that will help you on your journey towards where you want to be, and that is the beauty of all this:)
    I wear a seat-belt, because if I don’t, I almost feel “naked” in the car. It just feels good to me. I have heard about the lillies, but I also heard about all other kinds of plants that are “dangerous” to cats and I cant separate them all, I leave that to my partner to decide what our cat might eat on and not and so far she is still alive (the cat AND the partner too @@)
    I am all for diversity and to take the good stuff and leave the rest.

  • Berta Bauer says:

    Thanks, Pernille. If only you knew all the times that it was HARD to allow them to make their own choices. I really thought I knew what was best for them. Now in retrospect, I see that their choices were the best for them and I was wrong. Humbling!

  • Pernille Madsen says:

    @Berta – I like your style; you sound like an increadibly wise mother 🙂

  • Berta Bauer says:

    @ Frank–I also am a recovering people pleaser.
    I was raised by two loving parents who instilled their fears (as well as many positive attributes) into me and my siblings. My parents didn’t allow my sister and another girlfriend and I to camp because of all the horrible things that could happen to girls! As a parent and prior to being LOA savvy, I responded to others telling me to keep my kids from “dangers” out there by telling them, “I’m not giving them fears that they don’t have.” I did talk to my children about the spectrum of good to bad that could occur, and then to pay attention to how they felt. I now know I was telling them to listen to their intuition. Both of my kids are fiercely independent, adventurous, and responsible. They both are loving living their own life.
    I remember driving them to school one day when they were 14 and 16. I don’t recall what our conversation was about that prompted me to say something that I’ve never forgotten. In fact my head jerked at my surprise of its profound insight. I said, “You are not carbon copies of your dad and me. You will look at some of the things Dad and I have done or said and say, ‘They were sure right with this or that. But, man, did they ever miss the boat on this.'”
    When they made choices for themselves that I wouldn’t choose for them, I painfully wanted to tell them they were making the wrong choices. I remembered my words and used them to guide me and let them live their own lives. I’m glad they enjoy doing things that turn them on, even if many consider it risky activities.
    Lastly, if they ask for my opinion I give it, and sometimes I ask them to listen to my opinion. But I clearly state it as my opinion.

  • Lisa says:

    Death twitches my ear. “Live,” he says, “I am coming.” ~Virgil (Publius Vergilius Maro), Minor Poems, Copa
    Wondering about spending as much time and energy focusing on the actual art living of life vs. avoiding dieing. Wouldn’t it be cool if everyday came with a warning label that read, “Enjoy everything little thing, because this is as good as it gets, it’s way better than you recognize, and this won’t last forever.”
    Safety is awesome as long as it doesn’t keep us from actually experiencing the whole ride. I don’t mind following the “rules” as long as they aren’t keeping me from feeling everything I want to feel, and sometimes I want to feel free. Sometimes I want to drive too fast. Sometimes I want to walk alone in the dark at night in the city. Sometimes I want to talk to strangers. Sometimes I wear my seat belt and sometimes I don’t.

  • Ivy says:

    My only question is about the hospital worker who only believes in perfect health. I know that you can’t speak exactly to how this person accomplishes going to work every day, but I am curious about how that could work. Would she live with the understanding that sickness is a (subconscious) choice or a result of choices and that 90% of the people in her workplace have made such choices? If so, why make the choice to be in that environment every day? And why make the choice to profit off all those people’s choices to be ill? Wouldn’t she have the choice to have employment elsewhere? There are at least ten more variations on this line of questions, but I think you can understand what I’m asking.
    I’d really like further discussion on this if you have some ideas.
    Thank you.

  • I think where this sort of thing really hits a nerve with people is that many times people look at someone doing something different than them is (in)directly telling them that their way is WRONG.
    For example, I am childfree – I have zero desire to ever be a mother (to humans at least – love my dog and two cats) and some people who have kids or want them someday want to interpret that as me saying having kids is wrong for EVERYONE. Not at all! It’s just not the right choice for ME. On the other hand, I don’t get upset when people do have kids thinking that they are saying I am wrong for not having/wanting them (although some people DO say I’m wrong/selfish/I’ll change my mind – to which I just attribute to THEIR small-mindedness and not MY problem).
    I love that quote you gave about the different paths of happiness and just because someone isn’t on the same path doesn’t mean they are lost. There are so many different choices! As Abraham calls it – the buffet of life!
    I think we’ve talked about the seat belt issue before. I’m of the school that seat belts DO keep us safe – ie I vibe safety with seat belts and fear without them. So obviously for me it’s easier to wear my seat belt rather than try to line up with not wearing them. I guess too I’ve had some serious positive reinforcement on wearing seat belts. I’ve had a few accidents (being hit by an 18 wheeler, etc.) where the cop on the scene has flat out said I should have died from that accident – as in that would be the “normal” outcome. Instead I walk away without a scratch. Every time – I’ve been wearing my seat belt. (Also I do intend safety when I drive.)
    Oh, and I also agree with the person who sent the note about NOT getting flu shots. At work they posted a strong suggestion to get one. I was around tons of people during the winter (the public, plenty of co-workers) and never once got sick. Because I don’t vibrate on germs and unhealthy. I fully believe I am a really healthy person, period. Works for me! and i don’t have to pay for a shot as a result. 🙂
    Thanks for the “debate”, Jeannette. It’s always a good thing when we can point out that just because one person thinks/behaves differently from another – neither is wrong.

  • Took me longer than expected, but I’m back! 🙂
    I wear a seat belt because, many years ago, I was in a car accident and it was my seat belt that saved me from head trauma. So, I feel really good about it. And it’s that simple. I do like driving without it from time to time, but that’s only because of how it feels and not what it’s going to do for me.
    I’m not sure if this will make much sense, but in the 24+ hours since I read this post, I’ve been thinking about what I consider to be the macro aspects of what you wrote about your experience.
    When I was a child, there were some very well-meaning people in my life who spent an awful lot of their time pointing out the very small aspects of my behavior that needed to be changed. Although they were well-meaning and probably loved me, it’s pretty clear to me now that they didn’t really like me.
    So, as I got older, I learned all about the art of pleasing other people. I’m sure I’m not alone in this.
    In a big-picture sense what I hear in these reactions you received is the discomfort of people who are dedicated to pleasing others or taking care of others or being focused on other people for very important reasons of their own and who are getting their buttons pushed when you move out of that arena.
    In other words, as an authority and an expert, what you write about is VERY important. And so you should not ever say anything that could hurt anyone. EVER. And it is important to point out when you do. After all, they are just trying to protect you from the bad things that could happen. Which is very well-intentioned on their part. And, of course, total B.S.
    It has taken me 30 minutes to write this because as I’m writing, I keep having personal epiphanies about how my lingering people pleasing is the reason I do this or that. And I’m noticing how much I want to please you and be your best friend and be as witty and poignant and inspiring as possible so you and all your readers will like me. It’s still there but it’s a mere shadow of its old self.
    In particular I want to thank you for being so bold. I like that quality in me and I like it in the people in my life.
    In particular, I want to acknowledge something that you have done here that I find to be quite powerful. I love, love, love that you took these lemons and made lemonade (the good kind with simple syrup and fresh lemons and lots of ice and not too sweet).
    I love that you looked at the lion on your path and discovered it was a paper tiger.
    I love that you told us that one of your customers canceled her subscription. In fact, I particularly love that. It has affirmed the true nature of abundance quite powerfully.
    Thank you Jeannette!

  • Stacey says:

    I agree that people use different roads (tools, practices etc.) on the road to happiness or fulfillment.
    Some of these manifesting methods may seem irresponsible to others, but you have to look at the energy behind what you’re doing.
    One note though– the image you used on this post of someone stepping off a cliff, brings to mind a statement that Michael Beckwith said in The Secret movie. He said (paraphrasing), “In the Universe there are laws. It doesn’t matter if you’re a good person or a bad person, if you jump off a building you’re going to hit the ground. The law of gravity works.”
    Now of course there could be an intervening event that keeps you from hitting the ground…but I wanted to add this to the discussion.
    Again, I guess it goes back to my initial statement– about the energy behind why you do something. If you’re jumping off of a building (or cliff)– you probably have some intention behind why you’re doing it any way (whether it’s bungee jumping or suicide).

  • Here is my response from Facebook.
    I am learning more and more to let others be themselves, even if what they choose to do is different than what I would choose to do. This has gotten easier since I’ve made choices that others thought were crazy / stupid. And I am encouraging my friends / family who are working towards a dream because I want them to do the same for me.

  • Petecito says:

    Irresponsible* maybe but definitely irrepressible! Another fine post, Jeanette.
    *I don’t believe that for a minute 🙂

  • Pernille Madsen says:

    I love this conversation because it once again shows me how different we all are and I love that 🙂 – and without this difference there could be no expansion, as I see it 🙂
    I used to be a people pleaser, until I realized I could never be a pleaser AND be happy at the same time, as there are too many people to please and they all want/expect/believe/need something different to feel pleased.
    There is so much freedom in not needing to please anyone other than myself now 🙂
    And at the same time I don’t need others to please me or to agree with me, witch means more freedom to them too 🙂
    One of the things I’m most satisfied with having taught my 12-year-old daughter is this:
    you must know all the rules
    you get to decide which rules to follow and which not to follow
    it may have consecuences to not follow the rules
    it may also have consecuences to follow the rules
    Lots of love to you Jeannette for beeing so inspiringly open, honest and authentic – you are a fabulous role model 🙂

  • Kim Falconer says:

    Thank you for posting here as well as your newsletter, Jeannette! I love it! And thank you for putting my reply up as well! How cool to read all the responses!
    It’s a diverse old world, one where just about everybody forgets that what’s ‘out there’ is a projection of consciousness. The inner and the outer always match. In that way, what difference does it make if you are in an inner state of alignment with ‘safety’ when you drive belt free, or strapped in, buckled up, crash helmet on and roll bar/air bags? It’s the vibration, not the ‘actions’ that determines ‘what happens next.’
    This goes for . . . well, everything 🙂
    All the protective actions and cautious behaviour in the world isn’t going to ‘protect’ anyone from something they are ‘afraid’ will happen. What we resist, persists . . .
    Thank you again, Jeannette. Love this!!!!

  • Cheryl, if we were in the room together, I would give you a big hug.
    Thanks for that reinforcement!! (the cats are FINE!)
    And Brenda, that story makes me laugh. Too funny!!
    (I did have a girlfriend whose chihuahua got sick when he got in Christmas chocolates, but I’ve always chalked that up to: he was a small dog, and had no tolerance built up. Plus, she’s kind of a worry wort.)
    Thanks for posting, you two!!

  • Brenda says:

    Whoooohooo! Thank you, Jeannette…for saying expressing everything I was feeling – perrrfectly! LOVED THIS BLOG!
    Also adore where Cheryl said that her sister describes her “as being on a roller coaster ride with [her] hands in the air.” You GO, girl!
    P.S. My dog lived a VERY long life, even though after consuming a double-layer box of Black Magic chocolates (on the sly) almost every Christmas Eve. Inevitably, almost every Christmas morning I’d awaken to a floor covered with the little brown wrappers, but not a chocolate in sight.

  • Cheryl says:

    Hey Jeannette!
    This is GREAT! You sound like me and all of the nay sayers sound like my family. Even though my sister for the most part believes in LOA, she thinks that I an delusional and crazy too. She describes me as being on a roller coaster ride with my hands in the air.
    It is always about what feels good to you and what feels good to you may not feel good to someone else. That is free will.
    P.S. My cat does just fine with lillies.

  • Thanks for that, Patrick.
    It never is about “the other,” is it?

  • I posted tis comment on Facebook after I read the newsletter, and wanted to share it here as well:
    Powerful Creator or Crazy Person?
    Love the newsletter. It all comes down to respect for the perspective of the other and the ability NOT to judge but instead appreciate the vibrational standpoint the other person is in.
    For many this is a big challenge especially when the vibrational standpoint is so different from themselves.
    You have to practice it. Practice unconditional love. Decide to respect the other one, no matter what their believes are and no matter where they are in their live.
    In the end, everyone you meet is just a reflection of your internal world.

  • Ben says:

    While I do agree on letting go of fears and negative emotions around certain things makes it less likely to attract it I don’t agree on just not taking action to protect yourself if a situation comes up and just thinking ‘the law of attaction will protect me’.
    I’t doesn’t give me an excuse to be unaware and not to do something about it if i’m in a situation. I just had a thought, doing this work better allows us to protect ourselves and take the right and effective actions if something does happen. But letting go of the emotions, patterns, past negative experiences makes it much less likely and attracts more positive stuff into your life.

  • It’s not that I expect ‘law of attraction’ will protect me, Ben, it’s that law of attraction will match whatever I signal for.
    So if I’m worried about keeping my cats healthy and I take all the steps possible to do that, that fear vibe will override any action I take and Universe will get creative in making my fears come to pass.
    However, if I could eliminate my fear by simply taking a little action, I’m golden!
    But what matters here is what I’m vibrating. I think we’re on the same page with that.
    About being unaware …
    …. I was just saying the other day how much easier it was when I was naive enough to believe I didn’t have to do anything to get traffic to my site. Being unaware of just how challenging that’s supposed to be was a true godsend in my early days of internet marketing.

  • I KNEW there were people who would get this! Thanks for confirming that for me, Julie.
    Love your YEE HAA! lol

  • Kimberly, The Fur Mom says:

    I think the post scratched people’s fears. I’m learning that people hold on tightly to their beliefs, especially the ones that are based in fear, and if they feel that their beliefs are challenged not only can they not step back and take in your message, they spend all their time defending their beliefs.
    It doesn’t really matter that you weren’t advocating not wearing seat belts or to feed your dog chocolate. It’s that you were doing it in a world where people are terrified of taking responsibility of their own destiny. LOA sounds attractive and appealing and I bet many people in GVU have encountered people who want to learn all about LOA, but then poo poo it as impossible.
    I would never feed our dogs chocolate, because I’m holding on to the fear that it would poison them. I will always wear my seatbelt, because I hold on to the belief that I’ll get a ticket. But I have no trouble building a successful blog and gaining loads of followers, because my belief system surrounding my blogs is positive.
    I didn’t read your newsletter (I can’t believe I’m not subscribed), but the message I got from your summary is that we should now take a look at why we do the things we do – is it because we’re afraid. Whenever fear is a motivator for me, then I know that I have some work to do. Woo hooo – polishing up my creation is so much fun!
    PS – love the comment about witchcraft – that was classic.

  • Julie Masters says:

    Like Stephen I’m a contrary, rebellious social heretic, and I’ve even been accused of being a bit crazy and irresponsible (although I believe some just wish they were too!!)–so I read your post with a Yeeee Haaaaaa! It doesn’t even matter what choices you were talking about! I agree completely with the first paragraph of Kimberly’s post above!!
    Julie Masters

  • You know, I get a lot of that (“can’t believe I’m not subscribed”) from people who ARE subscribed – but the emails just don’t make it through a spam filter or something.
    To anyone wondering about that, if you ever downloaded my free ebook LOA for the Real World ( you are on the list.
    Anyway, you know what I love most, Kimberly? That you and I take totally different actions on these points and yet are best of friends. It just goes to show – we really DON’T need everyone to agree with us in order to feel and express the love!
    Thanks for chiming in here – much appreciated!

  • Thank you for that reminder, Jason! I needed it today.

  • HahHAHHAHahahhaaa…
    Oh man, Jeanneatte, this is so awesome.
    Love the controversy, lol.
    I agree with Cate F-N, there’s a big difference between making a life-choice for yourself, and expressing that, and pushing someone else towards that same choice.
    You’re spot on, I whole-heartedly agree, and I’m thrilled to read this today.
    “If you’re not turning people off, you’re not turning people on.” – Me.

  • Thanks for pointing that out, Cate! You’re exactly right – this post wasn’t intended to direct others as to what they should or shouldn’t be doing.
    But rather to point out that the vibration rules – not the action. Get your vibe lined up first and foremost, and be flexible about how that might best happen. Because doing it within the rules that others impose might make that more difficult to accomplish.
    Your comments are much appreciated, Cate! 🙂

  • Cate F-N says:

    Dear Jeanette,
    I don’t recall you ever suggesting to someone else that they don’t wear a seat belt. You have always stressed that you have to have a inner peace about your choices. I will always wear a seat belt, I made my children wear seat belts, and I am at peace with that. Isn’t that your whole point? Get to the feel good place and live it.

  • Jeanette!
    Woo effing hoo!
    This post has my vibrational, master manifestor motor running!
    I’m tapping this out on my phone so I’ll be back…
    But, wow! This is wonderful!
    Much love!!

  • Always love hearing from you, Stephen!
    You made think, when you said, “If my vibration includes fear of a given situation (be it car crashes or kitties dining on lillies) then seatbelts and kitty warning labels are probably appropriate” that those actions only work if it REDUCES the fear and aligns the vibe.
    If it enhances the fear, by focusing on the very thing we don’t want, then we are not doing ourselves the favor we think we are when we take those actions.
    And I LOVE this: “I will not eliminate enjoyment because of fear. It seems like a bum trade. If my enjoyment kills me, I’m ok with that. It was good while it lasted.”
    Amen to that! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, my friend.

  • Stephen says:

    Of course you knew that I would especially love this post. I only follow my own rules in this world. Not because I’m a contrary, rebellious social heretic (I am, but that’s another matter), but because my rules are the only ones I *can* follow. The universe responds to *my* vibration. If my vibration includes fear of a given situation (be it car crashes or kitties dining on lillies) then seatbelts and kitty warning labels are probably appropriate.
    My vibe does not include fear about a fairly large number of things others regard as *facts of life.* I smoke. I drink Dr. Pepper. I eat (and enjoy!!) fried foods. I am confident none of these things are going to kill or injure me, but I really don’t care if they do. I will not eliminate enjoyment because of fear. It seems like a bum trade. If my enjoyment kills me, I’m ok with that. It was good while it lasted.
    Oddly enough, I do wear seatbelts in the car. I got in the habit when I was a cab driver because they held me more securely and that feels better when I’m driving for 12 hours a day. I do it (and everything else, really) because it feels better.
    If wearing seatbelts and banning lillies gives relief from your fear, by all means do that.
    I do lots of silly things that bring relief, just not those.

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