Detoxing in a Toxic World?
Just coming back online after a week of Perfect Health at Deepak’s Chopra Center at La Costa Resort.
My intention was to experience a physical and emotional detox, giving my body an extra chance to achieve optimum health and my mind to relax in ways it previously hadn’t.
The daily panchakarma massages, group meditations, yoga classes, ayurvedic meals and classroom instruction were quite a change of pace which quickly took a natural hold on me.
I soon found less tolerance for tv, raised voices, even for garbage (go figure). At the same time it became much easier to see the beauty all around – in food, people, birds, songs, situations.
Kinda trippy, to say the least.
One night I returned from group meditation to my room where my boyfriend watched tv. As I sipped ginger tea (several cups a day to aid detox), I asked what he was watching, because whatever it was grated on my nerves.
(I should add, detox symptoms include irritability! I maybe should have warned him before he joined me on the trip.)
Anyway, he was watching some crime drama like Criminal Minds or Law & Order – not something I usually watch – but also not something I’d leave the room because of.
As I stood there sipping my detox tea in front of what felt like toxic tv, I realized the irony. I’m getting yucky stuff out and taking more in at the same time. Ridiculous!
I realized it was time to take better care of my vibration. Things I’ve tolerated in the past really stood out now.
So, as one participant asked our instructor, how do you return to the “real world” after a week of bliss and peace?
“You don’t,” she said.
She said, “You don’t come back to the same world, or at least you don’t come back as the same person.”
It seemed a bold claim at the time, but I get it now.
The question is how do I still be with my beau who listens to radio commercials I wouldn’t listen to and watches shows I wouldn’t watch and eats food I wouldn’t eat and goes places I wouldn’t go and engages in conversations I’d rather not?
We each probably have different answers to these questions, but for me, it looked like this:
- I shared with him what I was feeling so he understood what was up
- I didn’t require him to change, or even suggest he should or needed to
- I purposely am enjoying the overlap we have in common
For example, this weekend is the annual golf tournament he always attends in Moab. It’s a gorgeous place, and I’ve accompanied him ever since we started dating. But the last trip was too much of a “guy’s weekend” for me to enjoy. (Late night poker & drinking in the community condo – big PASS.) So he’s going without me this weekend.
No hard feelings on either side.
When he came home from work last night I respectfully turned down the Ong So Hung chant that was playing. (Not his style.) Later that night when I walked in the tv room he muted his noisy tv drama long enough for us to converse. When I came back later and sat down, he turned it off altogether. I suggested Thursday night we see the movie we’re both interested in before he leaves for the weekend.
This isn’t so hard after all!
I suspect many of you have found additional ways to manage your vibration in challenging environments and relationships. Would love to hear your tips, or questions if you have them.
Thanks in advance for sharing your wisdom and experience with all of us here.