Is Your Brain Giving Good Advice?

The LOA Science Guy, Greg Kuhn, explains how he deals with his brain’s bad advice when it comes to managing emotional pain.

Enjoy learning from an LOA savvy brainiac how to work with the brain and emotions:
Greg Kuhn, Law of Attraction Science Guy

When in emotional pain, I am no different, perhaps, than anyone else. My brain usually screams, “Who did this to us?”

Does that reaction sound familiar to you?

Then my brain lays out a plan for me – old and familiar. A compelling blueprint that I used my entire life until I created the game, “Grow a Greater You”:

  1. Pinpoint who or what is responsible for this pain
  2. Detail the injustice perpetrated upon me
  3. Get angry at the responsible party
  4. Decide what the responsible party must do to rectify the injustice
  5. Hold the responsible party accountable for resolving my pain

My brain’s old, familiar plan also includes two typical techniques for communicating with the party “responsible” for my emotional pain:

1. Withdraw and give the silent treatment. Make the responsible party figure out what’s wrong. My mantra for this technique is: “If she really cared about me, she would know what she did to me.”

2. Go on the offensive and angrily confront the responsible party. Demand she face the music and make amends to me. My mantra for this technique is: “How dare you do something that hurts me?”

My brain can’t help itself. It is completely fooled by the Newtonian illusion my eyes and ears provide it. It thinks that life happens “to” me and, thus, things outside myself are responsible for my displeasing material experiences.

Those explanations are logical, after all. They make perfect sense, especially when it comes to emotional pain.

Yet our new quantum paradigms teach us that there is no “out there”; we are involved observers who create our material experiences. Because material experiences are merely our beliefs being reflected back to us.

We, alone, create the meaning and value of every material experience we have. There is no such thing as “the way it is”.

Eleanor Roosevelt may not have thought of herself as a guru of new quantum paradigms when she said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” But she was – we are just as responsible for our emotional pain as anyone else.

So I have come to expect my brain to give me bad advice when I’m in emotional pain. My brain has no idea its advice is bad in the first place.

Thus I am gentle with my brain as I remind it that we now apply our life to quantum paradigms. Which means that when we are in pain, we ignore the illusion that something outside of us is responsible. I don’t pretend there is no pain, yet I also pay attention to the helpful feedback pain is giving me so I can more intentionally align my beliefs with my desired outcomes.

This doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes distance myself from a thoughtless person. Nor does it mean that I don’t sometimes let someone know that her behavior is out of line or unwelcome.

I simply make sure I don’t pin the resolution of any pain or displeasure I’m experiencing upon that person or entity altering the offending act.

Instead I pay attention to my feelings.

I am honest with myself about the displeasure, while reminding myself that the undesirable feelings are useful feedback regarding my beliefs being out of alignment with my desired outcomes. This doesn’t “excuse” anyone for rude or hurtful behavior, but it does put me in touch with the only reliable (and real) solution to emotional pain.

It also allows me to apply my life to new, quantum paradigms. Paradigms much more accurately reflective of how our universe really works. And, today, I can intentionally grow my beliefs about any desire into an alignment which produces pleasing material experiences.

The solutions are right here, under our nose. Isn’t it fun to play “Grow a Greater You” instead of listening to our brain?
Grow a Greater You, Greg Kuhn

Greg Kuhn is the best selling author of the Why Quantum Physicists book series. Known as the “Law of Attraction Science Guy,” Greg’s newest book shares how our universe works and how you can live the most fulfilling life possible. 
You can find Greg online here.

  • February 27, 2015
  • Greg Kuhn says:

    Hello everyone.
    The coolest thing about Jeannette publishing me here is getting to spend some time corresponding with Jeannette.
    The second coolest thing (a very close second, mind you) is hearing from her friends.
    Thank you Anna and Janette, for giving me the honor of allowing me to be of value to you.
    I hope you’ll give me a bit of artistic license, Janette, with my wordplay. 😉 I love my brain too; it is an awesome tool and so handy. How cool is it that it’s not a stone tablet where everything (and every belief) gets chiseled into a “permanent record”?

  • Janette says:

    Amen to that, Jeannette!! 😀

  • Jeannette says:

    I was very interested on your thoughts on this subject, Janette. Thank you so much for chiming in!
    Your reminder to us that we are the “users” of our brains (rather than the victims) is a very empowering one.
    Here’s to becoming excellent “rewirers” via the stories we tell ourselves. 🙂

  • Janette says:

    Poor maligned brain!
    I don’t think it was Greg’s brain that was at fault, or giving him ‘wrong’ advice. It can certainly FEEL like that when we’re operating with default settings and no self-awareness. But we are the USERS of our brains. We are not victim to our brains, unless we choose to be.
    I think Greg was simply subject to a handful of old neural pathways – aka stories, or habits of belief – that he developed before becoming self-aware. I’m not a fan of blaming brains for our old stories – they are merely the container for those stories, and we get to change them (both the stories AND our brains).
    That’s what Greg has very cleverly done. He has simply changed those old neural pathways, those old stories (such as “who is to blame for this?”). And he’s done it by using the power of neuroplasticity – our capacity to literally and physically change our brains through our thoughts and behaviours.
    We can always decide how to feel about a situation by deciding what story to tell about it. Doing so consistently doesn’t switch off or remove our brain – it transforms it so that we CAN begin to include it in our decisions.
    When Greg talks about intentionally growing his beliefs – he’s talking about rewiring and transforming his brain. His brain isn’t disconnected from his emotions or his Inner Guidance. It’s all part of that big enormous beautiful orchestra of experience which embraces the holistic human experience.
    I love my brain, and I love it more and more as I teach it new and better and paradigm-shifting stories.
    Thank you for such a provocative and fascinating post!

  • Jeannette says:

    I agree, Anna, that is such a powerful realization to come to. (That we are in charge of how we feel.)
    Here’s to self-awareness! 🙂

  • Anna BoBana says:

    The reminder that “no one can make you feel…without your consent” is invaluable – wish I’d remembered it the other day when someone said I made them feel like a loser.
    My dad always said, “No one can *make* you feel anything – you do that all by yourself.”
    He was teaching me to be responsible for my own feelings, and even though I may not have *liked* it at the time (very much didn’t) it stuck – and has been tremendously beneficial in my life.
    Paying attention to one’s feelings (and thoughts) merely helps us become more self-aware – and that’s where we can make our own magic!
    Nice post – thanks, Greg.

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