Drawing the Line on Love?
My adult foster cat went MIA while I was out of town last week, so I’ve been training myself to hold pictures of him being delightfully held captive by some sweet well-meaning 8 year old girl.
I’m proud for feelingly only slightly hurt that he might enjoy someone else’s company more than mine. I’m okay with that. More power to him!
I’m also okay with the fact that when my two year old chow puppy sees his groomer he goes berzerk with joy. You’d think he was reuniting with his long lost love each time he sees her! This is his groomer, mind you. (It’s not like she’s feeding steaks and taking him on pleasant walks.) But even though it’s not the most pleasant thing they do together, he adores her.
So much so that I follow her to whatever location she moves to, just so he can continue being with someone he loves so much.
The question is, would I do the same for Russ?
I mean, if my sweetie was having an incredibly good time with someone, would I encourage him to continue? Would I easily release him so he could maintain his good time? Even drive him there myself if he couldn’t get there on his own?
I’d surely release him, ha! But I’m not sure I’d have as good feelings about it.
When he has a good time with his golf buddies, I strongly support that. (Even if it means I’m home alone.) Or when he wants to go bowling in Albuquerque with his son, absolutely. I’m all for it!
Why is it different if it were a new romantic love interest that captured his heart?
To be honest, I’m not sure it is. He hasn’t put me to the test on this, but I really like the thought that I’d be happy for him even if he fell in love with another woman. That’s what love is, right? Unconditional. It doesn’t exist only when circumstances are lined up “right.” It either is or it isn’t (love).
And if I say I love him (as I do my foster cat and my chow puppy), then I would be as enthusiastic and encouraging of my sweetheart indulging in something (or someone) he loves as much as I am everyone else.
Sounds good, anyway.
I do know this much: if I draw the line on love, then it isn’t really love. Or if it is, it’s so clouded by egoic fears that I just can’t feel it any more.
As always, I’d like to hear your take when you feel inspired to share …