Enjoying the "Limits"
This year a new friend and I agreed on a spending limit for presents we get each other.
Mostly because it seemed a good way to avoid the potential awkwardness of him opening a package of hot chocolate mix with two mugs while I was opening a box with a sapphire necklace.
So we’ve got a modest spending limit in place for each other.
And that limit feels like fun!
It doesn’t feel restrictive or “limiting.”
I’m not grumbling about how I can’t get a proper present with my hands tied like this. I’m not mad at the events that led to this circumstance. I’m not doing the woe-is-me routine that I can’t be expected to find a good gift for that amount.
Instead, I’m excited about the challenge of finding the best possible present for that hundred bucks.
I’m delighting in the thought of how I might extract the most joy out of this “limit.”
In fact, I’m having so much fun with it, that it inspired me to apply this in other areas as well. Meaning, finding ways to extract more joy out of life situations that might seem “limiting,” like
- the amount of money I make
- the state of my physical health
- the distance from my girlfriends
- the status of love relationships
- the number of animals I feel capable of caring for, etc.
If I looked at it as a fun challenge to figure out how to get the most joy and happiness out of the current situation, rather than just manifesting a new and improved situation in order to have more joy, that approach feels like it’s got some magic in it.
I talked about this in a new podcast and in a forum thread at GVU.
What if your circumstances in life were never going to change? Could you find a way to enjoy what is, rather than investing attention in changing what is?
I had a friend who struggled for years to find love. She’d never experienced a loving, healthy relationship in her life, and was desperate to have one.
It seemed to me her resistance to being single was what held love at bay, so I suggested that perhaps she might never find true love, and so maybe she better find a way to love life anyway. Since nothing else had worked.
She liked that idea so much she unfriended me.
But then wrote a year or so later to say that after a couple more failed attempts at finding love, she decided maybe I had been right, and maybe she better figure out how to enjoy life without a man.
And she did. She found a local meetup group to go on outdoor hikes with. She joined a reading club. She got serious about enjoying her career more.
And you know how this ends – she found love. Or rather, love found her. Once she decided she didn’t need it to be happy, and started getting happy in her right-here-right-now life. Love found her.
That’s law of attraction at work. It responds to our vibration; giving us more of what we’ve already got.
So when you decide what you’ve got is fabulous and amazing, when you learn how to find the joy in what’s already so, you set yourself up for a really nice upgrade. Without trying, without working for it, without figuring it out yourself.
Life just keeps getting better.
So here’s to enjoying whatever limits we might have thought were spoiling the party. 🙂