Q&A: Fantasizing to Our Detriment?

visualizing for manifesting: how will Universe know I want it?Here’s a question I hear often enough it deserves to be officially addressed in our Q&A series.

It goes something like this:

I’m so good at pretending I already have it, it makes me wonder if Universe will think it’s already a done deal for me and nothing will happen.

Or also:

I get into the feeling of having it so strongly that I don’t feel inspired to do anything to go get it. And nothing ever happens.

Here’s the version that was in my inbox today:

I often play PC games where I earn a lot of money. I think this game playing is like fantasizing that I earn a lot of money. However, I’m afraid that my subconscious thinks that I’ve got the money already and does not work on attracting it to me anymore.

What do you think?

This is your cue, fellow manifestors … is there a downside to being too great a pretender?

What happens when we get really good at fantasizing or visualizing?

Some worry Universe won’t know they still want it if they act like it’s already happened. Can pretending work to our detriment?

I’ve got thoughts to share on this and I hope you have something to say about it, too.

See you in the comments!

  • August 24, 2014
  • Jennifer says:

    I play The Sims 3, and in my experience, when my avatars/characters lives are going really well, getting rewards for jobs, meeting all their needs, and fulfilling all their aspirations, my personal reality begins to reflect the same type of happiness, things begin to “work” and fall in to place. When my Sims are happy, I feel happy. I discovered this by accident.
    I love using simulation/role playing games as a tool for part of my manifestation/creation. Reality begins to reflect a life that I want or bring in things that I enjoy, however, its not exactly deliberate creation for me. It is kinda random as to what will show up for me. It just occurred to me, that next time I play, maybe I could set an intention, then play and feel good. Maybe then, I will experience more of a deliberate creation experience.

  • Agreed, Steve.
    The way I see it is that if I’m able to convince anyone external to me (including Universe) that I’ve already got what I want – I have achieved the all important vibrational alignment.
    Because desiring it and having it are different vibrations.
    This is why appreciation is such a powerful manifesting practice. It sends the signal of satisfaction and fulfillment rather than “wanting” and “not having.”
    So I don’t think that acting or thinking or feeling like I already have it will prevent my thing from manifesting – indeed, it’s the exact opposite. Becoming the person who already has it (even before I do) is what cues Universe to deliver the real life 3D goods once and for all.
    And I think playing PC games is a brilliant way to do that!!
    As for the other often asked question about how feeling it so strongly removes any desire for me to act – all I have to say about that is that if you don’t feel inspired to do something, then that means you don’t have to do anything. Other than stop wondering why you’re not feeling inspired to do something.
    Enjoy the gig, however you can, and it’ll come together. If Universe needs you to do anything, you’ll feel the inspired tap on the shoulder. If you don’t feel that, then Universe has it handled. Relax and enjoy.

  • Steve says:

    The Universe knows more than you are giving it credit.

  • Cris, I appreciate how you’re inviting us to note those subtle distinctions in our visualization practice. It is good for us to be well aware of the energy we’re truly flowing.
    And Sabeen, I agree with you and Cris that there’s no such thing as having too strong an imagination or being too good a pretender.
    Bashar is so good at reminding me that what I want already EXISTS. Abe says it lives “vibrationally” as soon as we desired it. SO helpful to know that we aren’t trying to create something out of nothing – that thing already exists. All we have to do is become that frequency in order to experience it.
    Which is what good pretending and powerful visualizing is all about. 🙂
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us here!

  • Sabeen says:

    I don’t think there’s any reason to worry about being too good a pretender. I think there’s a misconception related to the purpose of pretending/fantasizing. We don’t fantasize in order to get the Universe to create our fantasies… The moment we had the desire emanate from us, the Universe created it. We don’t fantasize to make the Universe create anything, it’s already done. The only purpose to fantasizing is to get ourselves in the vibrational place where we can receive what was created. So no, there’s no risk that being too good at pretending will make the Universe un-create what we’ve asked for. Fantasize away so long as it feels delicious. If however there’s something off in the fantasizing vibe (maybe there’s an underlying awareness of the fact that this is a fantasy and the thing you’re wanting still still still hasn’t manifested), that can definitely hold a creation away!

  • cris danois says:

    I think that i’m so good in imagination thisis not problem cause the Universe or Cosmos, will always bring me more of what I enjoy and focus my attention. I believe there is a difference between fantasy and imagination … the imagination leads us to act in one way or another, induced feeling but fantasy is a means loose thing that keeps us in inertia, no movement, no internal or external. In fantasy there is not excitement, it is like a theatrical performance you expec … imagination, you act to be, to feel, to have that still is not! the focus is the key focus with excitement!

  • Isn’t that the essence of it, Jess? To flow pure desire rather than yearning desire? Good point.
    Karen, I LOVE that reminder that WE are (part of) Universe!! That’s not an external power we’re trying to work with – it’s who we are! goosebumps.
    I think that perspective can empower many a conscious creator.

  • Karen says:

    We need to remember that unless we think the Universe is just another word for the god many of us were taught to fear, we are not beggars trying to wrench something from a resistant SOURCE.
    We are as much the source as the part of the source we do not see.
    There is nothing the Universe thinks that we do not think. We are IT and IT is us, as the drop is in the ocean and the ocean is in the drop. We simply set our sails to catch the wave, via emotion. As a man thinketh….

  • Jess says:

    Attachment definitely plays a role in it. I know I have a graspy subconscious — if I fantasize, it’s like I’m grabbing the option and keeping it away from the universe, almost like the fantasy is written on a card and the universe can’t do anything with it because I won’t give it the card.
    That’s why I don’t do vision boards — the one thing on the board that came true was the one thing I rarely thought about and didn’t really yearn for (free banjo lessons just to try it out). Nothing else on the boards came true except for one other item. In fact, life took so many opposite turns that I ended up further away from them. I ended up not even being able to keep that other item.

  • So, holding it with a lightness is what did the trick for you, Jackie. That’s good to remember.
    And Dana, I agree! The process of visualizing or fantasizing is for US to get aligned, not to instruct Universe what to do. It already KNOWS what to do – all we have to do is get on board with that party!
    Really great input, you two. Thanks!

  • Dana says:

    I think sometimes we forget how smart Universe is.
    I’ve come to believe that it’s not so much convincing Universe, but convincing ourselves. Trusting and having faith that it is done is key, and allowing it to come in its own time.

  • Jackie says:

    I think it depends on how much want is attached to the fantasy.
    I’ve had several fantasies actually come true. I don’t recall any of them being something that I was thinking I just had to have. They have been more along the lines of wouldn’t this be fun.

  • Kati, I wish more people were speaking to the role that the subconscious mind plays (or doesn’t play) in our manifesting process!!
    I LOVE this: “It’s not the subconscious mind, it’s the belief about the subconscious mind that is screwy.”
    And I love your reminder to get back to basics – just practice feeling good. Thanks for starting this conversation, Kati.

  • Kati says:

    Since we create our own reality by setting the mood, the atmosphere, that the LOA then responds to, then I don’t see anything wrong with pretending and visualizing, as long as we enjoy it while doing it!
    The difference is whether we do it just for the pure pleasure of it or we do it to get something out of it.
    These are two different vibes.
    The second one indicates that what we want is not here yet, plus add the worry and taking score to soon, and before we know it, we are focused on the lack more than the having of it. So that’s why it doesn’t come!
    If the universe “thinks” (picks up the vibes)that it is a done deal, then the manifestations have to show it! The outside world is always 100% reflecting back to us what we vibe, so the universe can’t offer us something different from what we vibrationally offer.
    Sometimes the next step on the path is to do nothing.. Just feel good where you are and trust that you will be inspired when the time is right. 🙂
    Subconscious mind has no control over the conscious mind, so I wouldn’t worry about that, but the fear indicates that there are some thoughts/beliefs active that stop the flow.
    It’s not the subconscious mind, it’s the belief about the subconscious mind that is screwy.
    In all these cases I would just relax, pick and choose the thoughts that feel good and practice them, and let the rest go! Cos when we focus more on the goodfeeling stuff, then we move forward, but when we give attention to both goodfeeling and badfeeling thoughts equally – that’s what keeps us stuck.

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