Freak Out Factor

Okay, who else watched last night’s episode of Amazing Race?  TK and Rachel, along with Jenn and Nate, showed us perfect examples of what not to do!

For those who don’t follow reality tv, the hippie couple TK and Rachel had to complete an extra task (speed bump) since they came in last the week prior, plus they were three hours behind the other teams in getting started.  So there was a strong “freak out factor” present, as TK noted after realizing they marched right by their clue box without even seeing it.

If I didn’t like this couple, it would have been hilarious.

But for me it was frustrating to see my second favorite team (I’m still pulling for Don and Nic) walk RIGHT BY their clue box – in plain sight!! – the whole time saying things like “Where is it?  Can this be right?  We don’t have time for this!”

Oh my gosh.  I’ve done that one myself so many times it REALLY isn’t hilarious.

I tell clients all the time that we can’t get to the solution while we’re in the energy of the problem.  And these two were SO in the energy of the problem.

They eventually did see it when they walked by again, and got a good lesson from it.  They realized their tension was bringing down their game, and to their huge credit switched their attitude (and their vibe) to finish the episode in second place.

Jenn and Nate, on the other hand, imploded in a big Freak Out scene in the final run.  Jenn was bitter in saying that TK and Rachel didn’t deserve to be in the final three because they just played a nice calm, mellow game; whereas she and Nate were working SO hard – literally working up a sweat – to stay in the game.  She thought it incredibly unfair.

Well, we deliberate creators know how that works.  First of all, we don’t earn worthiness by working hard.  We already are, automatically, just by virtue of being here.

Second, working hard NEVER serves us if we’re headed upstream – which working hard often is.  (I guess some people can work hard and feel it as downstream.  I’m open to that argument.)  The fact is everything we want is DOWNSTREAM.  And the way to go downstream is to feel good, relax, enjoy, and be nice, for hell’s sake.

Here’s to my favorite team, Don and Nic, keeping their Freak Out Factor to a minimum and coming in first next week!  Yay!!  🙂

  • January 14, 2008
  • Peregrine John says:

    Yeah, they were pretty great. They had plenty of positivity and good outlook and all. But sometimes other forces intervene. They made it most of the way through the race, and that’s something notable.

  • Hmm. Upward spiral. I think you nailed it.
    You know, the goth couple had something going with their commitment to staying calm, too, but … was something else missing with these two? I can’t say I caught every episode, but the one where they had to speed bump the yoga gig was a credit to their ability to remain unflustered. Remember the flower stringing?

  • Peregrine John says:

    What do I think? I think the Harvard Hippies were the best reason to watch the show I’ve ever seen. They were fun, nice, learned to be polite immediately in whatever the local language happened to be… they were fantastic! Role models, really.
    It would be fairly easy to try to explain their success based on their high-end education and whatever family resources allowed for it, going from there to their mental and physical fitness, ending up in their clear-headed and less stressed attitude which served them so well in the game; but that’s getting it all backwards, as envy so often does. Their natural outlook and/or upbringing and/or choices gave them a way of looking at things which is neither high-strung nor lazy, but wise instead. That leads pretty easily to taking care of one’s body and mind, and that encourages the pleasant mindset, and round it goes. An upward spiral.
    That’s what I think.

  • Sounds like we’re on the same page, Mike. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here!
    So have you found a way to access the part of you that’s not embroiled in problem? I’m always open to new ideas – and ways to phrase those new ideas to clients! : )

  • “City Confidential”?! Rick!! lol Well, I can’t say anything because I’ve never watched it and I just finished watching American Gladiators. So … that shows what my taste in tv is. ha!
    But it IS super easy for us to forget to leave our “problem” energy behind before we start seeking solutions. Jenn and Nate – perfect example last night!!
    Thanks for posting, Rick! 🙂

  • These three were long shots, huh, John? Well, we do have two older guys in there … and the hippies – well, just a few seasons ago it was those hippy friends from Harvard who won! (I have a client who is friends with them – ha!)
    I have to say, those hippy guys who stayed more calm than others and had a stronger ability to enjoy and appreciate the race as well as each other – I think that gave them a huge advantage.
    But they were also smart and fit, so … someone could make that argument.
    We know from an LOA perspective that the reason they won is because they were in closest vibrational range of winning – and I’m sure the same will happen this time around, too.
    What do you think?

  • Mike says:

    Hi Jeanette,
    I guess I should start watching the show. Just last week I commented to a blog post about changing frames of reference to solve a problem: “The solution rarely comes from the part of me that perceives the problem most acutely.” Sounds like what happened to TK and Rachel.

  • Rick says:

    ~”I tell clients all the time that we can’t get to the solution while we’re in the energy of the problem.”~
    Wow … how freakin’ true is this! LOL … anyone who has ever been in a relationship and had a “disagreement” can attest to it.
    And I got to experience it around money today.
    I MISS Amazing Race. We haven’t had cable for so long and I miss it and ….. (embarassed look) City Confidential.
    Thanks for the great posts

  • Peregrine John says:

    I was thinking something along these lines when I noted that the 3 remaining pairs are all among those considered long shot picks at the beginning. Do you see proper handling of the future (for lack of a better way to put it) as a common thread amongst them, or is it primarily TK and Rachel whose philosophical approach is most helpful?

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