Gettin' Picky With It
The other day a friend texted how frustrated she was with her boss who’d sent an email about doing her job better.
I didn’t respond, even though she might think I was being insensitive or unsupportive.
Because really, I was just practicing what conscious creators know about only discussing what we want more of.
If we don’t want more of it, it doesn’t deserve to be a topic of discussion.
It’s one thing to know that – another to practice it.
I had to remind myself that when I started telling another friend how much loss I’d racked up over the last month.
Is that really what I want more of? Definitely not.
So I changed the perspective on the subject to share how life has changed for us at my house, in a more positive light. It might seem a subtle shift, but it makes all the difference.
While there may be some value in processing our feelings by talking about what’s happened, that value is quickly achieved, and no further benefit is derived by continuing to tell the story of what we don’t want.
I’m told some cultures have a practice of allowing someone to tell their sad story a maximum of three times before it’s considered done. I can see the wisdom in a tradition like that.
It’s like a scab that can’t get better if I keep picking at it. The more I bother it, the more bothersome it becomes.
Which is why it’s worth getting picky what we talk about. With ourselves and others.
If you don’t want more of it, change the subject.
Because conscious creators, of all people, know to talk about what we want more of.