Gotta Love It to Lose It
When a friend of a friend saw my “I lose weight while I sleep” mantra, she patted her back side and said she needed to do the same. Said she’d been fighting extra pounds ever since her last pregnancy, and asked how to make the affirmation work for her.
But I told her it wouldn’t.
At least not now.
The same reason it wouldn’t have worked for me had I used it at the point she’s at.
Which is not loving those extra pounds.
I could tell the way she said “fighting extra pounds” and grimaced when patting her posterior that she was not pleased with that body of hers.
(Easy to recognize because I’ve been there.)
And if I know anything, it’s that weight does not move (effortlessly) until we make peace with it.
Before she started a weight loss mantra, her first work was to love those extra pounds.
(That’s when I lost her.)
But it’s true. The reason my “I lose weight while I sleep” mantra worked is because I spent the entire prior year working on loving this whole body, including those extra pounds I wanted to melt off. (Yes, it took a year to realize that’s what my trip-up was, that’s what I needed to achieve first, and then to pull it off. It was WORK. But the diet and workouts didn’t work, so that’s all there was left.)
Bottom line is we can’t wish weight away until we accept it. We’ve got to love our body just as it is before we can effortlessly manifest change for it.
(Most folks would say we can’t wish weight away period, but that’s ridiculously untrue. It’s our thoughts that got it there in the first place – why wouldn’t our thoughts unload it?!)
Loving what’s “wrong” is a bit of a trick, if you haven’t tried it. Especially, it seems, for women because we sometimes get more hung up about body image in our culture. (And my word, how refreshing you exceptions are!)
But in order to practice successful deliberate creation in weight loss, we have to stop seeing our body as “wrong” or needing change.
By the time we accomplish that (making peace and loving it just as it is), we no longer need anything to change because it’s all so RIGHT. So gorgeous and beautiful and RIGHT!
Which is when a little mantra makes a HUGE difference. (Which, I know, is when you don’t need it any more. And that’s the KEY.)
You’ve gotta love those pounds before you can lose them. That’s how it works.
If you try loving them with the agenda of losing them – that doesn’t fly either.
You have to fall in “for real true love” with yourself.
Cutting corners doesn’t work.
That’s not to say people don’t drop weight by fighting against extra pounds. Some prove it possible as they force themselves through gym workouts and starve themselves meal after meal. It sometimes works, but it’s not easy, it’s not fun, it’s not fast, and it usually doesn’t last. (And even when it does work, if we haven’t practiced the vibration of loving ourselves, when we hit the “target” we still aren’t satisfied.)
Because … (drum roll) .. you know what I’m gonna say next, right? … what we resist, persists.
I know it’s an overused phrase – especially by me, but it’s true and incredibly helpful to remember.
My friend of a friend can’t be in resistance to those curvy new hips of hers and shift back to her pre-pregnancy size at the same time.
The same way we don’t create peace through war, or build love through anger.
Besides, what could be more rewarding than loving ourselves through and through, huh? Extra curvy butts and all. It’s a peaceful, non-resistant place to live in that space of complete self love and appreciation. And that’s where ridiculous things like losing weight while we sleep is completely possible. Just because we said so.
Your turn now … Let’s hear what you manifested by practicing total acceptance, whether it was getting out of a speeding ticket by getting okay with it, or finding the new love by making peace with solitude. Share your thoughts and inspiration!