Guest Post: Denying What Is?
Today’s guest post comes from Juan G. in Mexico, who did an excellent job of answering a big question many thoughtful creators run across. Here’s his question as well as his brilliantly inspired answer:
Is it really necessary to deny What IS?
Have you ever had special trouble with some bit of LOA advice?
So first, full disclosure:
I am a practicing psychoanalyst, with some stints at Buddhist meditation (a few silent retreats and some sitting practice at home).
Both practices are quite rational and I tend to be pretty skeptical. So I usually take a looong time before accepting anything new or “loony”, and seldom before lengthy consideration.
Still, if I’ve learned something at those experiences is that both take you a long way into accepting what IS, and that doing so allows you to avoid a lot of suffering and frustration.
Then, searching for “good vibes” I stumbled into LOA and Jeannette. As my background allowed, everything about resistance, obscure lurking wishes that go against what you say you want, and tripping thought habits made a lot of sense.
All fine. And then it came! The piece of advice that created a whole lot of noise.
It went something like this: “Make peace with what IS, while at the same time pretending that what really IS is whatever you want.”
Talk about cognitive dissonance!
I had accepted a lot, but I HAD a struggle with this one.
What about my commitment to truth?! What about accepting What IS and making peace with it?!
Psychoanalysis is all about wishes and desires, and how to stop being your best worst enemy. Buddhism is all about how to overcome ignorance, develop better thought habits and stop your desires from being a cause of suffering.
None of them advises you to deny or ignore what IS (be it actual or psychic “reality”). Both tell you everything has a cause, every choice an effect.
And this LOA was telling me to go all against I had so hardly learned? No way, baby!!!
Then Ortega y Gasset, a great Spanish philosopher came to my rescue. He used to say: “”I am I and my circumstance.”
“I am I AND my circumstance”? So maybe What IS is What IS Plus it’s Possibilities!!! And with that, I made peace with myself!
What IS is What IS, of course. But it is also the craddle of everything to come, isn’t it?
And our wishes and desires are a big part of the recipe.
Do any of you guys identify with this? Any thoughts?
Jeannette again: Thank you, Juan, for such a thoughtful piece! I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s responses here!