Guest Post: Judy Kinney

While I’m out most of this week, I asked Love Coach Extraordinaire, Judy Kinney, if she’d be kind enough to offer a guest post. She delivered! Read on to learn more about what Judy’s up to these days:

Surfing in the Desert

One of my goals for this year is to learn to surf.  OHHHHH, I can feel myself in that zone where I am simultaneously connected AND free.  I imagine myself being centered in my body, like when I do yoga, and carried along with something powerful, as if in the front row in a roller coaster. Whew!  This is my kind of heaven!

I’ve surrounded myself with women surfers since making this goal in January.   I have a 2008 women’s surfing calendar, a woman surfing as my computer desktop background, and a picture of a woman surfing on my dream board with the words ‘hot damn’ in a bubble coming out of her mouth.  Yes!  2008 is the year Judy Kinney learns to surf.

It’s June and I’m well aware that I’ve yet to put any surfing plans in place. Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve had several messages about surfing cross my path. In my June monthly CD, Abraham uses a surfing metaphor to encourage all of us to enjoy the process.  Abe notes that the thrill of catching that one great wave is worth all the paddling, waiting, and falling that inevitably comes with surfing. 

It was about this time that I realized that I have been surfing this year.  Yes, even from my home in the Arizona desert, I’ve caught some sweet, fine waves.  Who needs a board and water?  I’m still riding a great curl as I welcome a sweet, hot, and fun love into my life. I’ve caught wave after wave of inspiration, support, and fun this past six months with my coaching business start up.  I’ve also jumped aboard many a wave with my family as my  90 year old mom ages on her terms.  

I’m not saying that the ride has been smooth sailing-that isn’t what I ordered. I want the thrill of feeling ME IN THE ZONE-connected AND free.  Since adopting this “life is surfing” metaphor, I am much more relaxed about those aspects of my life that feel like paddling, floating, waiting and falling.  These are integral facets to inevitably catching great waves, yes?

So, I wonder . . . who else is making a similar connection between a physical passion and your alignment.  Does your passion for riding your bike fast downhill, doing yoga, rock climbing, rafting, dancing, or walking help you understand and tap into your natural alignment?

Meanwhile, surf’s up in Tucson!


As the Chief Inspiration Officer for Dream and Flourish LLC, Judy Kinney is a Life Coach, Event Planner, and Inspirational Speaker supporting lesbian, bi and queer women to have the lives they dream of.  She is known for her relentless commitment to inspiring and supporting LBQ women to truly enjoy dating, love and romance exactly as they desire.

  • August 17, 2008
  • I wondered why you were being so quiet, Judy! lol
    Thanks again for offering the piece while I was away. You rock!

  • Judy says:

    Thanks all for your love and perspective for this post. I’m inspired!!!
    Can I confess that I was on holiday (love surfing) w/ my sweetie when this was posted?
    w/ love

  • Anna says:

    Physical passion and alignment … oh yes.
    True At One-ness with All That Is.
    Until recently, I’d had just one such Zen-like experience: slowly wading into the thick mist of the Georgia Strait, unable to see more than 3 or 4 feet away at any time. Camera in hand, I wanted to get as close as I could to a flock of seagulls, resting on a rock formation surrounded by water. As I neared the flock, waist-deep, I could hear the subtle swirls and plops of seals playing around me just feet away, out of sight.
    Language is not sufficient to explain the sensations I experienced, and on levels I’d thought mythical until that time. I was the water. And the seals. The rocks, seagulls, mist, orcas, every critter that shed its case, every shell that eventually became the sand I walked on…
    I did get the shot, perfect in the Beauty I envisioned.
    Recently, though, I’ve been feeling that extraordinary connection more frequently, and it comes when I’m out in my yard making art, be it transformationally site-specific, functional, sculptural or simple interior design. I know when I have something really good — I can tell by the way I feel as it’s coming to be.
    Thanks for asking us, Judy.
    I have to say – You Rock!

  • Iyabo says:

    This was on the Abraham daily quote today. I know it does not belong under this post but I could not find where Jeanette wrote about expectation. Or was it on her ezine? I do not remember. However, it is good food for all of us.
    Here is to Jeanette….
    And I am also grateful for Judy Kinney’s post.
    “Expectation indicates the juncture between where you are and where you want to be… Where you want to be, is your desire, and where you are, is your Set-point or habit of thought. And somewhere, in there, is what we would call expectation. Expectation, whether it is wanted or unwanted, is a powerful point of attraction… Your expectation is always what you believe. But the word expectation does imply more what you are wanting than what you are not wanting. It is a more positive word than it is a negative word, but of course, you could expect negatively—and whatever you expect, you will get! “

  • El Baugher says:

    This is such a SUPER post! I believe 100% that you MUST MUST MUST identify with LOA to have it really “click” in your mind. I just love analogies and metephors too! I wrote an analogy for a forum group I’m in about LOA being like shopping in a department store just yesterday! It also covers why some people struggle with few results.
    Here’s a link if anyone would like to read it:
    Loving This Life!
    El Baugher

  • Iyabo Asani says:

    Wow! what a great post. Welcome and thanks for posting while Jeanette is away. I have never considered a physical passion and my alignment so I have to think about it some more. I tend not to be very physical like you are but what I do know is that I love to write and all is well in my world when I write regardless of what I right about. If something is bothering me and I just get to journaling and writing, eventually, it will come up and I will get to make peace with it and it will striaghten itself out.
    However, if I do not write, it seems to get bottled up in me and get stuck.
    My big goal is to feel relief. I will seek out physical experiences of relief in my environment and check it out with you.

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