Hope for the Ex
My ex-fiance and good friend just phoned to ask why he’s such a powerful manifestor of negative things, but not positive ones.
(There’s a belief worth turning around. But we’ll get to that later.)
Rob’s story is interesting, and probably not uncommon. So I’ve challenged him to change it, and thinking some of us might be inspired to join him.
He told about driving a customer’s car down the highway (he does custom remodel work on priceless classics), noticed a big work truck ahead of him, and started thinking, “You know, the last thing I need is a rock chip. I should probably change … ” and BAM! Before he was even done thinking the thought to change lanes, the windshield took a hit, leaving a lovely chip.
When he gets to the shop, he thinks, “I should call Todd to arrange for that repair today. But what if Todd’s out? Thursday’s his day off. Today’s Tuesday. But what if he’s not in?” Sure enough, Todd’s out, even though it’s not his regular day off.
Rob asks if he had fleeting thoughts of a million dollars spilling through the streets, would it suddenly appear?
I suggested he try it sometime. After he laughed, I asked if he has as strong a belief in free money in the streets as he does rock chips and bad timing for repairs.
Admittedly, and he’s not alone in this, it’s sometimes easier to believe in bad things than it is in really good things.
The good news is he/we can change that. Belief is just a thought we’ve repeated enough to make it a strong one. And we can change our thoughts. We humans are pretty cool that way.
So Rob’s going to try it. He’s going to practice thinking good thoughts and see how quickly they manifest. I ask him to report back.
Before he hangs up, he tells me how he’s really good at reading people, too. He can tell in advance what they’re going to do. He might think he’s psychic. I think he doesn’t yet realize the powerful effect his thoughts have on others.
For example, he says when his son comes over he knows it’s to ask for money, rather than lend a hand around the house. He can tell when the neighborhood homeless guy is going to drop by his shop asking for a loan. He’s got lots of examples of how he predicts people’s behavior.
Is he predicting? Or creating? (And what if they were the same?)
I suggest he practice his good thoughts on people, too. I told him people live up to and down to our expectations all day long, and suggest he practice holding new expectations.
I got a funny feeling his world is about to get brighter. : )