Hope Is Not a Strategy
Enjoy this guest post on why it’s wise to give up hope from my friend and colleague Cindie Chavez …
This is one of my favorite quotes, and while I usually like to talk about luck, I want to address the idea of Hope, and why hope is not a viable strategy for a conscious creator.
First and foremost, if you’re feeling hopeless, I want to help you find that glimmer of possibility that creates a spark of excitement; to move you from despairing to hopefulness, because I believe in you. I really do believe in your intrinsic magic as a human BEING, with the power to create, shift and change.
I know that things can change for you in an instant, and I also know that a big part of that will depend on you choosing for things to be different.
The catch is that if you are feeling hopeless, it can be really hard to make that choice for yourself.
When you are in despair the idea that things could ever change for you may seem impossible.
Helpless, Hopeless, Powerless. I’ve been to those places, too, and they are not my favorite places to visit.
So, yes, I want to give you hope – maybe I should say I’d like to restore your hope – because if you’re like most of us, you’ve been hopeful before. You’ve had moments of clarity, moments of “omg, this is going to be so fantastic!!” moments of wanting to throw your arms open and say “YES” to the world because the possibilities seemed so vast, so endless. You know, that whole “the sky’s the limit” type of feeling.
And then it happened. I don’t know what it was … a divorce, an infidelity, a death, a diagnosis, a company down-size, who knows maybe it was just a really bad day … and that bad day or awful event brought every hopeful thought to a screeching halt.
So I want you to remember what it felt like when you were pretty damn sure you could fly. You had a glimmer of what it was that you wanted to create and you had an inkling that you could do it. That time when you were absolutely at your best.
Time was on your side. The Universe was supporting you. The World was your oyster.
Please grab that feeling, take a deep breath, realize that you are powerful, you are unique, you can do it.
Remember the feelings you had during a time when you were at your best.
It may be that simple for you, this may be all you need to feel that spark again.
On the other hand, you may want more help. You may want to call upon your support team, whether they are humans, animals, or angels. A good cry might help. Uplifting music. A call with a coach or a mentor. A hug. A walk in nature, meditation, music, making a decision to focus on something you love doing just for the sheer joy of it – there are so many things that can shift your vibration. But one thing is for sure, if you’ve had hope before, you can feel hopeful again.
And then, once your hope has been restored, I want to help you ditch it as soon as possible.
Yeah, I’m throwing a monkey wrench in the whole bushel of hope.
I remember one of my mentors saying something like, “Hope is the most poetic form of victimhood.”
That hit me so hard, but what’s even worse is that I believe the only person who can victimize me is me. I choose whether or not to play a victim. We’re always winning the game we’re playing and if we are choosing to play the victim role and we play it long enough, well – we might just be on our way to becoming a real champion at being a victim.
And unfortunately what that means as far as hope is concerned is that hope is the most beautiful form of self-abuse.
“Hope is the most beautiful form of self-abuse.” Ugh.
I just can’t handle abusing myself this way, or watching you abuse yourself this way.
If you want to create a different life for yourself you have to stop hoping your life will change.
You must begin knowing it will change. You have to know you have the power to change it.
Decide now that you’re going to stop hoping your soulmate will show up, hoping the house sells, hoping you get more clients, hoping you lose weight, hoping that George Martin doesn’t die before he finishes writing the Game of Thrones series. (Well actually go ahead and hope for that one.)
You must start knowing your soulmate will show up, knowing the house will sell, knowing you’re going to get what you want, or its equivalent, or something even better.
You do this by becoming that person that has a soulmate, becoming that person that has more clients, becoming that person who has what it is you want. Become that person now, and those things will show up.
When you absolutely know that you are the person who has what you want, you’re home free.
Hoping for things to change is a pretty sounding way of staying right where you are.
I know you have the power to change things, because of the intrinsic magic you hold as a human BEing. Not a human DOing, or a human hoping.
Be the change you want to see.
Learn how to transform your hope into faith.
Act like you expect to act once you get what it is you want.
Think like that person thinks.
Speak like a person who has that thing speaks.
Find evidence and more evidence until you are convinced that you are that person.
It might take time, perseverance, patience even. Trust the process.
I KNOW you can. You have the power.
Cindie Chavez, “The Love & Magic Coach”, is a certified life and relationship coach (CPC), an Energy Leadership Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) and an expert in Conscious Creation. She loves helping creative, busy, women experience more love and magic in their lives, and she’d love to help you, too. Find her at CindieChavez.com.