How I Know It’s All Good
Once upon a time I read a book by Kim Falconer called The Spell of Rosette. (It’s a fab story!)
The first night I went to sleep after starting Kim’s book, I had a life-changing dream.
In this dream I experienced everything a human being could. (You know how dreams are that way – impossible things and such.)
- I was loved and I was abandoned.
- I was successful and I failed.
- I was healthy and I was sick.
- I was adored and I was shunned.
- I was murdered and I did murder.
I think I was even male and female. I experienced everything a person could experience in this dream. And felt every emotion a person could feel.
The last bit of the dream was betrayal. I was betrayed by someone I loved and in the next fragment I betrayed someone who trusted me.
I did it all – good, bad and ugly.
I woke up after the betrayal part, knowing that was the last piece of the puzzle. I’d officially experienced everything that could inspire the full range of human emotions.
Oh wait, I need to back up a little …
… back in the early 90’s I walked out of Petsmart one day and stopped at the fundraising table for the local animal rescue group.
I usually dropped a couple bucks in their donation jar, but this time I put my name on the volunteer signup sheet.
Which is how I came to spend an entire Saturday at an adoption event scooping cat litters, taking dogs for potty breaks, and wiping up spilled water dishes.
It was super busy and the only volunteer work I’d ever done before was give blood, I think. I’d fed a stray cat or two growing up, but never plugged in like this.
Litters and waters and walks – rinse and repeat. The day flew by.
At closing time when I had a chance to take a breath and reflect on the day, I felt something I’d never felt before.
I’d never known that feeling before. I was twenty something.
In that moment I knew my life purpose must be to scoop litters, because I’d never felt this good before!
(It spawned decades of volunteer work with many other groups doing many other things.)
Okay, fast forward to the impossible dream where everything happened …
As I woke up from that dream, with the betrayal fresh in my heart, in that moment I felt fulfillment like I’ve never known in my entire life.
And I’ve known fulfillment. (That’s why I told you the Petsmart story.) I know what it is to feel complete and whole.
But I’d never known it like this.
To have felt everything that was possible to feel was like winning the biggest prize. It was cause for celebration!
Not because I’d survived it, but because I’d experienced it. It was a treasure. It was complete fulfillment.
And it came from betrayal! And murder! And love! And loss! Everything you can imagine – good and bad!
It wouldn’t have been complete without all of it.
That’s when I knew – in the very core of my being – the truth of the statement, “It’s all good.”
Even when you’re sad, it’s all good. Even when you disappoint someone else, it’s still good. Even when you die or someone you love does – it’s all good.
I get it.
Never understood it at that level until that dream.
We came here for the whole shebang. Not just the “good” parts. The whole thing.
That’s why sometimes when I watch someone going through terrible heartbreak, I find myself smiling. (They’re getting some of the good parts that not everyone gets! They’re on their way to fulfillment!)
It’s why when someone’s in a major fight, I don’t always pray for peace because I know sometimes we gotta check off “battle” on our spiritual to-do list.
When I told Kim at about this bizarre dream that gave me a whole new spiritual understanding of life – and that it happened after cracking open her book – she laughed.
“Oh that,” she said, with a giggle. “Yeah, I wrote a consciousness-raising spell into the pages of the book.”
Okay, well, I didn’t know you could do that, but that’s got to be the best spell anyone ever cast on me.
(She said everyone experiences it differently, and it’s only for those who are ready and open. But I sure like how it landed with me.)
The fulfillment I felt – not just despite, but because of – the full range of feelings and experiences in that dream helps me remember that we came here for the whole ride.
All of it is a privilege.
That doesn’t mean I embrace all contrast with a smile on my face in the red hot moments of it. (After all, anger rocks! Frustration, too!)
But when I remember the pleasure that came from doing the whole range of emotions in that dream, it opens me back up to life.
And I’m not alone in this perspective …
On a GVU call the other day Nancy told the story from The Afterlife of Billy Fingers about how after the drug-addicted bad-boy brother dies he tells his sister saying something like, “Wow, what a ride!”
Not, “Well, that was unfortunate” or “Whoopsie, I screwed that up.” It wasn’t that at all. It was rich and exciting and wonderful – even though from our perspective we might look at his life like a failure and a waste.
Mellen-Thomas Benedict shares in his near death experience that from everything he saw (after dying from cancer), that he’d be happy just to even be an atom in this universe. An atom! Let alone a beautiful and amazing human being.
Jason Mraz sings that “Whether it’s your birthday or your dying day, it’s a celebration to rejoice.”
I wouldn’t expect anyone to get that “it’s all good” just because I or anyone else said so.
I’d heard ideas like this before from other spiritual teachers … Louise Hay kept saying, “All is well” and Abraham said it’s impossible to get it wrong. Which I believed.
But after that dream, I got it in every cell of my being.
It’s all good.
And knowing that is how life gets even better. Because there’s no resistance to it.
Isn’t that a cool story?
I tell it because I think we all deserve to be touched by Kim’s spell-casting skills, and that we all expand when we share insights that help us embrace life fully.