How to Change Beliefs
Deliberate creators know that life unfolds according to what we believe and expect.
So it becomes pretty helpful to be flexible in adopting beliefs that support what we want to create.
How do you change what you believe?
If you ask around, you’ll hear things like:
- you need to identify your limiting beliefs
- your core beliefs are deeply buried in your subconscious, so knowing what they are is crucial
- you may be getting payoffs from existing beliefs that you want to handle before you change anything
- understanding where your beliefs originated is helpful in dismantling them
- the key to changing beliefs is recognizing the role emotions play in keeping them in place, etc.
There are also a variety of personal development techniques designed to support changing beliefs including Byron Katie’s Work, the Option Method, Theta healing, Psych-K, subliminal or hypnotic programming, guided imagery/visualization, and many more.
Here’s my simple take on how to change a belief: practice the new thought. It works. It’s that uncomplicated!
Just pick the new thought that represents the belief you want, and invest some time in it. The more you think it, the more you build that neural pathway in your brain, the more natural it becomes to entertain it, and pretty soon, with enough repetition, you’ve got a new belief on board.
But to elaborate a bit, I’d suggest the following four steps to accomplish that belief change.
1) know that you can and it’s easier than you think.
Some folks think that changing beliefs is hard. Whatever wiggle room you have to suspect or entertain that it’s really easier than that, take advantage of it. Changing your beliefs is easier to do when you don’t make it hard. (And yes, you are in charge.)
Instead, think of beliefs as flexible, malleable, and totally within your realm of power to manage. I like Abraham’s definition of beliefs for this purpose: “a belief is just an often repeated thought.” Not such a big deal. I can repeat a new thought.
2) choose your new belief.
An easy way to pick this one is to think about your manifested desire, and then ask what you would be believing in those circumstances. (Example, when I was building a coaching practice: “I am a brilliant coach in high demand.”) Some people like to baby step their way up the ladder of progressive beliefs. Some like to make the big leap right to the big goal. Go with whatever feels more energizing to you.
Once you know what you want your new belief to be, you’ll benefit from a two-fold practice:
3) look for the evidence that supports your new belief.
Since we get whatever we look for, we will start seeing the signs that what we want to believe is already “true.” And that makes it easier to make it an official “belief.”
4) practice your new belief.
That just means thinking the new thought regularly and consistently. Yes, you could call this affirmations or brainwashing or subconscious programming. All it means is you’re creating and strengthening different neural connections in your brain. The more you practice them, the stronger they get, the easier they are to think, the more law of attraction shows up to “prove it,” and before you know it you’re home free with a new belief.
We sometimes get tripped up in embracing a new belief when real life contradicts it or when we have to take an action that’s not in accordance with it.
We’ll hit that in the next post.
In the meantime, here’s Abraham on the topic of changing your beliefs: