How To Properly Have a Bad Day
Some of us are so well-trained to be nice, cooperative and positive that we have no clue how to properly have a bad mood or honor a bad day.
When someone at GVU asked how to quickly shift out of a funk, she got this advice in the forum: “don’t resist it.”
There is something about doing funky ‘right’ that releases magical pent up energy and the more we resist funky moods, the longer they last. ‘Owning it’ is a good bet for a quick shift.
Nicole chimed in with practical tips from her personal experience:
I’d been suffering from funky vibe for 2+ years; I thought I was a hopeless case.
One day I was so frustrated, down, depressed, and hopeless that I GAVE UP. Totally, completely, ridiculously gave up. Career goals? F it. Relationship goals? F it. Manifesting anything? F it, won’t make me happy anyway. If I’m gonna feel this funky I am just gonna get down with it and live the funk large. Wallow in it. ENJOY the FUNK. Get to know it like no one has before. If I am an overachiever, I thought, I am going to overachieve funk. So there.
The next day the Universe promptly started cracking my life open.
The day after that brought a MIRACLE. A big one. Like, I know small things can be miracles, but this was a “huh!!?!?!?!?”
The following week my life changed forever. Got me tuned into a new vibe. Circumstances do not matter, only state of being matters – I’m starting to realize what this means.
I’ve had some little bumps but nothing major. I have more enthusiasm, hope, focus – a little more every week.
I am floored by how life has shifted over the past couple months. And I am pretty convinced it’s because I nailed the funky vibe so completely well, with such will and dedication.
Of course we asked Nicole to expand on how to “live the funk large!”
Which I thought might be helpful for others who only know how to resist a funk, rather than embrace it. Here’s more from Nicole:
My funks are horrible. I could not think or focus; I was a zombie. I could not wait for everything to be over. The only place I got relief was SLEEP but it never lasted long enough.
I know everyone says the yucky vibe eventually breaks, like a fever, but I was thinking “they just haven’t experienced my funk or they would know this is totally a terminal illness.”
So I GAVE UP. I had told myself (thought!) I’d given up before then, MANY TIMES, but this time was the real deal. How did I know? Because when I gave up, I immediately cancelled a trip that had been planned for over a year. I just didn’t have the emotional energy to DO IT, nor did I have the energy to PRETEND like I wasn’t completely miserable.
Therefore, not only was I not going to pretend, I was not going to go – at all. This had the potential to be a serious case of “losing face” professionally but I thought – I don’t care. I give up. Everything is meaningless. So I’m not going to try. F the consequences.
I also totally gave up on relationships. At this point, I was in the world of DONE.
Yes, I’d say that is a powerful way to embrace the funk!
She shared that after embracing the funk she is:
“now in the OCEAN OF POSSIBILITIES instead of the ocean that will drown me. I can’t explain the change, all I know is – it feels different, more free, more easy, and I am less concerned about outcomes. I still care, but I’m not attached to results. I’m more attached to the state of being. I hope I STAY that way, but just taking it day by day. It’s weird. I’m not super happy, but I’m super OK – if that makes any sense.”
That does make sense, Nicole. Love the way you experienced that.
When I personally am feeling funky, I remember to love myself through it. As in, I don’t beat myself up for having a bad day; I don’t blame myself for not being able to shift; I don’t even wonder how I got here. I just BE it. funkEE.
Because if I’m having a bad mood/day, I’m doing it right.
It sometimes involves some scowling, muttering, swearing, and slamming a door or two. Often includes laying around feeling sorry for myself. Sometimes it involves warning others in the vicinity. But mostly it’s just being present to a dark, dark mood.
And guess what? It passes.
It seems to me that the better I own it, the sooner it passes.
It’s related to what we shared in this post about feeling your feelings.
Nicole wants you to know that “even if it’s been years, the *funk itself* still desires to break.” She thought there was no way she’d ever be de-funkified after so long, but she’s now in the longest funk free stretch in recent memory.
We’d love to hear your tips for doing justice to a rough stretch. What do you do when you’re feeling out of sorts?