The Time I Got Schooled About Allowing
Every now and then someone writes with an urgent question about manifesting something fast, because things are dire and getting worse unless they can use law of attraction to turn it around now.
This is the story I share about how I got schooled in the LOA way to handle situations like that:
Years ago I went to a massage therapist who was highly recommended by a good friend. “You’ll love her,” Lanaiya told me. “She’s amazing.”
And this masseuse was different, I’ll say that. She didn’t do just regular massage – she “read energy patterns” and saw things in your field – the sort of stuff you wouldn’t expect from a regular therapist. It was intriguing.
But I did question her accuracy when she told me I needed to learn how to allow.
Clearly she doesn’t know who she’s talking to.
I am the Good Vibe Coach. I am a manifesting maven. I know all about allowing. Don’t tell me I need to be better at the surrender. I know all about that. I study Abe; I teach this stuff to others – for a living, for hell’s sake! This is what I do.
But fine. She can say what she wants. I’m not going to be rude.
So the session’s over, I’m her last appointment of the day, and we walk out to the parking lot together.
That’s when I asked her something about herself, and it prompted her to tell this story:
Just a few weeks ago she’d been working for a real estate company as an in-house masseuse. It was an okay gig, regular money, regular hours. Highly stressed people, but it kept her employed.
Until the day it didn’t. The market had turned, money was tight, and they let her go.
No clientele. No network. No backup plan.
And to top it off she had no savings and no rent money. (No rent money! The Capricorn financial planner in me was alarmed to hear that part!)
She had no answers, no solutions, no ideas.
And she thought, “Wow, something really good must be getting ready to happen.”
(Really? That’s what you thought? You know what I’d be thinking? Holy shit, I better get a job!)
But she didn’t think that.
She didn’t scramble. She didn’t stress. She didn’t plot or strategize or try to figure it out.
She allowed it.
In fact, she says she “surrendered into it.” Like falling back into it, trusting that she’d be safe. She imagined falling into a “soft, warm, puffy cloud,” she said.
Because something this big doesn’t happen unless something really good is coming, she told me.
“Alrighty then,” I thought. “You’re crazy. You need to get this handled.”
And then she tells me what unfolded …
That weekend she got invited to a party by a friend.
She had nothing else to do, so …
(Really? Nothing else to do? Like updating a resume, or spreading the word that you’re looking for work? Or asking the folks for a loan? I think you’ve got plenty of other stuff to do besides have a few drinks, girl!)
But no, she had nothing else to do, so she went to the party.
It turns out her friend threw this party in her honor.
The friend wanted to introduce her to all her other friends who she knew would LOVE to experience the gifts of this energy-working massage therapist.
So she gave a little sample to a couple girls right there at the party, and they LOVED it! They couldn’t get enough! Everyone wanted a turn with her!
They started booking her for private sessions.
And then raved about her to other friends and family. And she got booked some more.
Indeed, I realized, that’s how I found out about her. Lanaiya raved, said I absolutely must go. And there I was.
And actually, when I paid her, I wrote the check out for a couple extra sessions because I thought my folks might like to see her, too.
So … not only does she find the money for next month’s rent as a result of these sessions she’s doing, but she also raised her entire income level, upgraded her clientele, created her own schedule and work space, and enjoyed her work vastly more because now she had clients she could do this cool energy dance with. (The real estate agents hadn’t been into it so much.)
Now I understand why she would tell me I need to become a better allower.
I did not grasp the level that she was practicing it at. That’s what allowing looks like. That’s what surrendering makes possible.
That’s what it looks like in the real world.
And that’s what I aspire to … to be that trusting when it looks like things are going wrong. To be that open to positive change when it doesn’t look like I wanted.
(It’s like the same reason why the DUI driver is the one to walk away from the accident – they have no resistance flowing.)
I’d been properly schooled on the art of allowing.
So when someone writes in dire straits and absolutely must manifest something fast because things are going to hell in a hand basket, this is the story I tell. And it’s the story I remind myself when I get anxious about things …
“Something really good must be getting ready to happen.”
And it will, as long as I don’t resist and I don’t scramble. Just surrender to it all – and accept all party invites. 🙂