I Will Not Expand On That

I just finished a Money Party call at GVU on How to Sell It Out, a class to share my personal manifesting process with anyone who was interested in how to dial in vibrationally to sell out their offering.

Part of my presentation included letting people know where my vibe was before I started the process, which was sort of in the crapper.

My attention had recently been dialed in on a number of (non LOA savvy) colleagues whose offerings weren’t selling, and who were blaming the struggling economy and tight fisted clients on their lack of results.

In my call notes describing the vibrational challenges, next to “An ABUNDANCE of evidence from peers that times are tough” I wrote in strong letters: “I will not expand on that.”

Because I could feel myself ready to explain why this was so hard; why the deck was stacked against me and why it was so easy to believe that struggle was in store.

I know that contrary vibration does not belong in the story of success.  Well, maybe in the beginning for dramatic effect, but KEEP IT BRIEF, for hell’s sake.

I love that I know myself well enough to give strict instruction NOT to dwell where it doesn’t serve me or my audience … i.e. The Crapper.

Which is when I realized it might serve me well to have notes for other areas of life when I have a tendency to expand on something that I don’t want to expand.  Know what I mean?

  • Like when I’m explaining to Russ how bad the storm is that he’s about to drive in.
  • Or when I’m describing how awful this wrong brand of chewable acerola is.  (Oh, that’s wrong!)
  • Or when I talk about how frustrated I can get with my girlfriend.  (Very. Frustrated!)

Some handy dandy life notes with “I will not expand on that” would be useful at those times.

Perhaps, sometimes, maybe it IS appropriate to expand on the contrast.  MAYBE.

Like at the vet’s office to make sure they know all the symptoms that are presenting.  But I’d have a hard time making a strong argument in favor of this one.

What I will do now, though, is commit to paying good attention and honoring when it’s time to refrain from telling the big bad ugly story with all the vivid technicolor details and emphatic body language to go along.

Sometimes a simple “I was upset” or “I didn’t like it” suffices to make the point instead of a lengthy diatribe on … well, I will refrain from going there.

(Oh, look how good I’m getting at this already!)

I will also commit to telling the fabulous stories – like the one yesterday about my new socks (they’re lovely!) and even the purpose of today’s call – an excuse to talk about my filled up program; and how much I love this blind cat Elvis; and did I mention how delicious lunch was? etc. etc.

I will reliably expand on the love.

But  in the future when you hear me end a line of thought with “I will not expand on that,” we’ll know that’s my cue for redirecting the line of thought out of the crapper and back into the vortex.

Where I belong.  🙂

(Quick link here for Good Vibe U members who want to hear the archived call.)

And just a reminder to non-members, all GVU calls are free when you dial in live (no reason to feel left out). Check the calendar or like the facebook page to get call details in advance.

  • December 8, 2010
  • It is hard to take your problems too seriously when you’re thinking about them in terms of a Crapper, isn’t it? lol
    And I guess that’s the beautiful thing about the whole process: when we don’t get stuck in the crapper, but rather move along with the benefit that contrast created for us, happy endings are guaranteed.
    Sooner or later, all depending on us. 😉

  • Mitch says:

    Kay. First, the picture for this blog post is beautiful. Where do you find these?!
    Second. The Crapper? LOL That is the best term ever in the world. Second to The Vortex of course. But The Crapper makes me laugh hard. Next time my vibe is in The Crapper, I’m going to say so, and I think it will lift me up quick.
    And third! I personally think your Crapper story in this call was totally called for. It demonstrated how you were in a very uncomfortable place and that you were *still* able to find your way to a winning vibe from there. A Crapper story should always have a happy ending, and yours definitely did!

  • That’s part of the art of deliberate creation, right? Being more aware, changing old habits, and choosing where we want to go based on where we put our attention.
    Well said, Marielle!
    Thanks for posting. 🙂

  • Mariëlle says:

    I was just thinking about this yesterday Jeannette. Since my descision to always put my alignment first, I’ve become more aware of these moments that I’m telling the story out of habit or the idea that I have to tell the truth.
    But hey, I can decide how long that story is going to be, right?! 🙂

  • Julie, I totally forgot those scenes from Forrest Gump!
    That’s a classic reminder of how not to indulge in what doesn’t serve us – thanks for the reminder and the laugh that goes with it!

  • Julie B says:

    This is so good Jeannette! Reminds me of Forrest, Forrest Gump, when he would think or say something sad/bad, and then he would stop and simply say
    “That’s all I have to say about that”…
    I always loved that!

  • Harmony Harrison says:

    Loving this so much. Both the topic and all the fabulous fireworks words! (Crapper – lolol)
    It occurs to me that expanding on the contrast is like (drumroll) milking it! We know that when we milk the good stuff in the Vortex, we experience more and more of what we want, and life is blow-you-away lovely.
    There’s a difference between acknowledging something and milking it. Sometimes I need to acknowledge something contrasty, and sometimes I choose to explore it enough to understand its gifts. But this is different from milking it for milking’s sake – which is really just a habit, that’s all.

  • Thanks, Harmony. I didn’t emphasize that at all in this post, but you’re absolutely right.
    Acknowledging the contrast and being with it long enough to get the gifts is part of the process. I’ve found my bigger contrast requires more processing than the light stuff – so the ‘keeping it brief’ suggestion varies depending!
    So glad you weighed in to remind us of this – thank you again!

  • Jeannette says:

    I was trying to think of a better word, Lin, but nothing really did it as much justice as that one. It IS the perfect antonym for the Vortex. ha
    I’m already finding the line works best with someone who’s read the post – it inspires immediate and understanding laughter.
    Thanks for reading and for posting, Lin!

  • Lin E says:

    The Crapper. Haha, love that. It is the perfect antonynm for The Vortex. Thanks Jeannette… and I am stealing your line “I will not expand on that.”

  • Pernille Madsen says:

    Great post, Jeannette! And I can really relate to the “paying good attention and honoring when it’s time to refrain from telling the big bad ugly story with all the vivid technicolor details and emphatic body language to go along”. Cause this is what most people do, right? And what most of us were trained to do.
    Giving up on the dramas and not giving them any or at least only very little attention when I’m with other people is one of the things that have taken a l o t of practice for me to learn. I’ve become better at it. A lot better, actually. Recently, I’ve even experienced that it is sometimes difficult for me to tell those stories, cause I’m hearing this little voice whispering into my ear “are you sure you want to give your attention to this? you know it’s going to attract more of this into your life! Is this really what you want?”. It’s a bit disturbing, but I’m convinced I’m going to love this little voice, cause it’s so very helpful 🙂

  • Kim Falconer says:

    Captain Jack shows us what I mean, at 1.25 in 🙂

  • And it’s entertaining to boot, Pernille!
    I know what you mean about the little voice.
    It’s SO easy for me to cut someone else off when they’re telling a story I don’t want to hear (my ex was just describing the tire shop guy’s response when he saw the problem with his tire – “Dude, you could have DIED” and I said EEE NOUGH! Topic change! And he knows me well enough to take a pause breath and find a new story) … but I’m not nearly as good at cutting my own self off. lol
    Well, till now, of course. 🙂

  • Ha! Nice one! Makes me want to look for that clip online …
    Here’s the archived call link for GVU members:
    Thanks for posting, Kim!

  • Kim Falconer says:

    Jeannette, where is the link to your talk? I am going there now!
    I love your ideas on reporting (venting) contrast. It reminds me of Pirates of the Caribbean (really!) when Captain Jack Sparrow was constantly encountering some really horrific situations–like jails and drownings and skeletons pointing guns at his head–and he would just say, ‘That’s interesting . . .’
    Love it!
    Thank you for the wonderful reminder…now to hear that talk!

  • >