I’m Not Manifesting an Enemy
Here’s why I’m paying good attention this week to not make anyone out to be my enemy …
Because I know as soon as I decide someone is doing me wrong (or even trying to do me wrong), I’m a co-creator to something I don’t want.
Conscious creators are too smart to play it that way.
At least, that is when we’re paying attention.
A friend was pulled over in my car the other day for expired tags. Expired in May!
But that’s not possible, because a local shop renewed my registration the last week of May, and I have the paperwork to prove it.
Turns out someone there didn’t follow through on something, because my car was indeed not actually registered. I was not pleased with the shop’s lack of interest in resolving it. They not only told me to go to the DMV, but they also didn’t apologize or take any responsibility for it. In fact, they acted like I was putting them out.
As a result, I was quickly spinning these guys into be unhelpful, irresponsible, incompetent and downright rude service providers.
And y’all know that’s not the vibration I’m activating any more. (I’ve been in personal rehab for a new “support” vibration for a while now, and have covered too much ground to give it up!)
So I changed my mind. No relapses for me.
- I decided these guys weren’t trying to dodge their responsibility or hide their incompetence; there was probably just a computer error somewhere.
- I decided it wasn’t the end of the world if I had to go to stupid DMV; I had errands to run in town anyway.
- I decided this shop wasn’t to be avoided at all costs; this was an anomaly. They usually do great work and have lots of raving customers. I want to be one of them.
Not because I didn’t have evidence they dropped the ball here. Not because this didn’t matter (a legal car that doesn’t get pulled over by police matters to me). But rather, just because I didn’t want the conflict in my life. Who needs any more of that?
So I sat in their lobby as they went about confirming that there was indeed nothing they could do for me. (That’s what the guy told me to expect.)
I made a little peace and decided these guys are not my enemy, and that felt better. This is a small issue in the big scheme of things anyway.
And when the mechanic came out to report his findings – lo and behold it was a miracle! He said he ran an emissions test on my car again just to see if the system might let him resubmit the registration even though once it’s over 60 days expired it shouldn’t let him do that. But it did!
He didn’t even suggest charging me for another emissions test (even though he did indeed run two, counting that last one in May), and he gave me the sticker I needed to put this issue to bed once and for all. So it all worked out!
That is my mechanic. He doesn’t play a big part in my life, but he gave me good practice for the players who do matter. Like boyfriends, colleagues attempting to trademark my business name, Supreme Court nominees and the senators confirming them, etc.
I’m not going to have any enemies because I’m too smart to give anyone else that kind of power over my reality.
I’m in charge of what I create; and I know too much to adopt the role of victim in the stories playing out in my life. When I decide we’re on the same side, and basically want the same things, I give Universe the opening it needs to orchestrate a happy ending.
This can be easy to forget when caught up in the heat of the moment, so I’m putting this reminder in writing for the next time I’m tempted to turn someone into an enemy.