Just What I Thought!
That’s what I said when my new foster kitty leapt up to tackle the “Serenity” card on the bulletin board. “Just what I thought!”
When I picked him up last night from Humane Society along with two other orphans, the shelter workers warned, “Watch out, one of them is a terror.”
Really? A twelve ounce terror? Hard to believe.
But on the way home one tried breaking out of the carrier with an angry meow the entire trip. That must be the one, I thought. The other two kitties huddled together in the back of the carrier trying to get as far away from him as possible. He even attacked the syringe I offered through a hole as entertainment. Things that make you go hmmm ….
Once home he wasn’t any happier to be out of the carrier and in the cat tower. He wasn’t even content when I gave him free rein in the office. In fact, he didn’t stop complaining until he had the entire house to explore.
Which is when he hissed at every cat who came near him, and even those he approached on his own. He jumped right in the middle of my snake plant, which never looked this bad – even after several other active litters. Then he peed in the cat bed while I pleaded “no no no no no.”
Okay, so maybe he’s a terror after all. I called the volunteer coordinator (my ex-boyfriend) and suggested maybe this little guy would do better with someone else. (Actually, I was thinking the rest of us would do better if he were gone.) He said he’d see what he could arrange.
I began justifying my wimp out call. “He’ll destroy the office. I can’t leave him loose in here – if I did he’d take down everything on the board and the bookshelves. These two other kittens won’t get any peace. And I can’t lock him up in the tower because he’ll cry the whole time. And I can’t have that background noise for phone sessions.”
So this morning when this lonely little guy jumped up to take down the “Serenity” card from the bulletin board, the words that went through my head were, “Just what I thought!”
- Just what I thought.
- I KNEW it.
- Told you so.
- That’s what I expected.
- even “I always wondered …”
These phrases are tip-offs to where we use our creative power. Because if it’s Just What We Thought, then we’ve obviously been flowing energy toward that manifestation, and that makes us responsible for it.
Not the Kitty of Terror.
That guy got labeled from the get-go and here he is just living up to his label. As we think, so shall it be.
I helped create this Terror – by thinking him to be one.
So when I returned him to hopefully a new foster home today, I asked my ex to please not use the words Terror or Monster with whoever handles him next. How about “feisty” or “playfully active”? Instead of justifying my returning him by explaining how awful he was, I told how he slept peacefully in my lap this morning next to one of the other kitties. And that he’d probably just had a rough couple of days and was undoubtedly not himself, and that he’d make a great cat for someone who appreciated a “front and center” feline friend.
Which leads me to ask, who have you labeled in life? Whether it’s our Nice Boss, Bitter Ex Wife, Inexperienced President or our Slow Student – check in on whether those labels serve or not. Since it is as we think, let’s be sure we think something that takes us TOWARD what we want, rather than away from it.
(Says the girl who just returned her terror.)
Former terror, that is. From now on, I’m thinking of him as the one who gets what he wants and brings smiles everywhere he goes. Ah, that feels better!
I realized my thoughts also sabotaged me yesterday when my bank wouldn’t cash a check from one of my clients. (“Just what I expected,” I realized while waiting for the teller to return – although it was too late to effectively turn it around.)
These thoughts of ours – the whole world unfolds according to them! Isn’t that fascinating?! And fun?! It sure can be when we learn how to play this game.
Would love to hear what you’ve been thinking repeatedly, and how labels are working (or not) in your life. We all know awareness is the ticket – so let’s increase it here and now!