Kicked Up & Falling Together

falling apart or coming together?Sometimes the way we see things is really screwy.

Our perceptions can be dramatically negative when in truth our big dream is in process of coming true right under our nose.

I was reminded of this when things went seriously sideways with my ex-beau earlier this month.  We’d been peacefully co-habitating when it suddenly became much less peaceful.

I found myself in the position of having to do the very thing I’d been resisting for two years: moving.  (Can anyone say “what you resist persists”?)

With as many rescued dogs and cats as I care for, not to mention love for this house (that I’ve invested so much TLC in over the past 6 years), relocating was my absolute most undesirable outcome.

And it looked like now I had to do it.

I shed a lot of tears at the thought of leaving this place and forcing my four legged friends to endure a relocation.

Then I read Jeanna’s post about the sudden death of her brother.  She wrote:

I decided right then and there that this was going to be the worst day of my life. I’ll cry rivers of tears forever. I couldn’t imagine waterskiing, cooking, eating, drinking, laughing and joking without him.

Well, luckily there were some whispers of hope popping into my brain waiting to be noticed.

What if this was the best thing that ever happened in my life?

What if I could use this experience to live more fully, peacefully, joyously, lightly and in the moment?

What if I could connect with my brother daily and have his bright perspective at my beck and call anytime I want?

What if I could accept this reality and stop resisting it?

What if I could look back at this time and say it was a positive turning point for me?

If Jeanna could drop her resistance to losing her brother, then surely I could open to a new perspective about what it meant to be moving.

What if it was like Frankie B suggested?  When I told him over breakfast that I was getting kicked out by my ex, he respectfully said he saw it differently.  He suggested I was getting kicked up, not kicked out.

Because this change had nothing but upside potential.

It seemed obvious once he said that.

And pretty soon it was easier to drop seeing the ex as the bad guy and rather as the best friend who was the catalyst for life getting even better.

Which it just keeps on doing.  Life just keeps getting better and better – as soon as I open to seeing it that way.

So even when it looks like things are going cowsh*t and your world is falling apart, it may be more likely the opposite is true: things might actually be falling together.

It’s becoming more clear to me every day that that’s exactly what’s happening for me now.

Every time it looks like things are really awful, I’m reminding myself that it’s that much better on the other side.  And that other side is practically within reach already.

Good Vibe U members are getting the details of what’s manifesting in my life right now and how I’m managing the process.  (They’re also offering a ton of support just like they do for everyone who posts!  Thank you, fellow creators!)

In the meantime, please remember that when things seem awful, we’re probably just not seeing things clearly – and our happy ending is closer than it looks.  Sooner or later we will realize just how perfect life has been unfolding all along.

  • August 25, 2013
  • Deb says:

    Jeannette. I am seriously in awe of you. You are in tune with bigger picture right from the start. You are already creating a new, better life for yourself. Already. You go, Girl!
    I went through a breakup 8 months ago, and I am just now realizing that it was the Best Thing EVER!! I needed to be on my own to realize that I am finally free. After caring for everyone else, I can now care for me, love me, heal me, travel with me!
    Of course, I anguished for 7 months before I woke up and said, “uh, just a minute here. This has been a good thing. How can I make it even better?”
    I am so glad that you are getting there faster than I did. So, you keep doing what you are doing. Enjoy life, your menagerie, your business. Dream big. It gets so much better, because now you can do all sorts of things you couldn’t before.
    Sending you healing vibrations…

  • Namaste says:

    Really enjoyed the post, and as usual it’s coming at the perfect time. Definitely gave me some things to think about, and a possible new perspective to view the current contrast I’m experiencing. Thank you =) After I was done reading it, this quote came to mind…
    “You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.”~Jan Glidewell

  • What I like about this thread is that it really makes it obvious that life is about the choices we make. If we decide that a break-up means heartache and pain, well we go out of our way to prove our misery to ourselves. But if we do like Jeannette did, manifest a very handsome fellow to point out how everything about the Universe is conspiring on our behalf, we find all the evidence we need to see we have chosen to live our lives to the fullest and get exactly what we want.

  • Melanie says:

    This is such a great post, and such a fabulous comment thread! Such wonderful, juicy reminders here today. Thank you for sharing, Jeannette. And Frank, thank you for your spectacular comment! How does it get any better than this?!

  • TerriC says:

    Thank you always for you candor and honesty – the clarity of what you teach shows up powerfully using your own life. I love how you are always surrounded with marked routes back to the vortex. You really make contrast less frightening and remind me to keep practicing better-feeling ways to enjoy the side trips!! Kicked up indeed – was there ever any doubt your tickets are pre-paid for that direction?? *Hugs & Happiness*

  • Stephen says:

    Yep, that Frankie B is a smart feller.

  • Jackie says:

    Wow, Frank, you really nailed it this time….as usual.

  • Hi Jeannette — This is really awesome! I love all the threads that your post has kicked up as well! So effing amazing!
    Hi Anonymous (8/27/13 at 1:48 pm) — I can’t speak for Jeannette, nor would I want to. And yet, I feel pretty safe in saying that we never really know what is going on with anyone else, do we? Even when they are as transparent as anyone can really be, we only hear about snapshots in time. But people are dynamic and multi-dimensional.
    And anyone who is intentionally creating their life knows better than to do anything with life other than focus on the wanted parts and let the unwanted parts evolve. No one I’ve ever met does this perfectly, but once you know why that works (and why looking back really does turn someone into a pillar of salt), then it becomes clear why it is so powerful to take any bit of contrast and leverage the heck out of it. Jeannette is doing that all over the place in this blog and particularly in this post.
    I love your question because it really points to the rather silly idea that all anyone has to do is get in the vortex and then life is perfect. No one who actually gets in their vortex, gets kicked out because of the inevitable contrast that is always arising, and then gets back in would ever really say this.
    What I love about life is that there is an endless opportunity for contrast, shift, and change. Once I stopped trying to get better because I thought I was broken or because I thought I didn’t know what I was doing, it made much more sense to embrace the contrast and let it help me.
    The idea that wonderful relationships have to stay static in that way is one that feels very constricting. Sometimes evolution has to really bop us in the head or kick us in the ass before we really get it. Sometimes the very best relationships are the ones where the other person is awful and helps us move on up.
    And, sometimes it’s really great to have someone come in and anonymously throw shade just for the fun of it so that it becomes clear what is really essential. You’ve certainly done that for me, so thank you very much!
    ~ “Frankie B”

  • Anonymous says:

    Sorry for being a party-pooper here: is it not the same guy that you wrote about regarding the breakup in the vortex and then how most wonderful this relationship was and even better than ever – so how all of this great stuff ended up in your moving out? I thought: get in the vortex, magic happens and it is better than ever, however it looks like you never got back together really in the first place. How much magic is it then?

  • Nat says:

    Love this perspective you’re sharing Jeannette. I’ve been hearing it a lot lately. We often freak out when it looks like things are falling apart. But just like when we get our home remodeled, we need to go through the demolition phase before the final vision is actualized.
    On another note, I wonder if your cat that kept on escaping the yard knew on some level that it was time to move… 🙂

  • Mary says:

    Thank you for sharing such a inspiring and motivating post. I know everything will workout great for you and all of your animals. Everything happens for a reason!

  • Phil Giuliano says:

    Whoops – forgot to put my name on my post!

  • Anonymous says:

    Great blog, Jeannette. I remember last fall when Sandy hit NY my kittens were only about 3 mos old. After a week of no heat, no power, etc I was at the end of my rope and decided I just needed to get out of this vibe for a while – so I decided to take a drive down south to Georgia. I didn’t want to board the kitties knowing that most of LI didn’t have power so I said, OK – we’re going to have an adventure together! And we did – they stayed mainly in the carrier when I was driving – I would let them out to get some playtime and using the litter box or eat. I had to find cat friendly hotels and turns out all the La Quinta Inns are and they were quite nice and the kitties loved exploring our new room at each stop along the way.
    Bottom line is that under “normal” circumstances I would never had considered taking young kittens on a 5 day road trip – but they turned out to be fun travelling partners (more than some human ones I’ve done roadies with), I got to get out of NY for a while and see some new sights and it all came from being open to new possibilities.
    I KNOW this will work out just swimmingly for you and your animal friends!

  • Bebe says:

    It’s been a long time since I left a comment here, but I’ve been reading your blog all this while.
    At first I got sad to read what happened. Then I thought, “yeah, sounds familiar”.
    The way I see it, sometimes the Universe shouts when you haven’t heard the whispers. I mean, maybe what you really, truly want (your destiny, your gift, you name it) is somewhere else. Sometimes tough things happen because we wouldn’t shift the direction we’re going otherwise.
    For example, I may love my boyfriend very much, but if loving him keeps me from getting the place where I can help more people/be happier/realize my dreams/whatever… it’s likely that my boyfriend will breakup with me, all of a sudden, roughly, insulting me… sometimes in the worst way possible. It’s like a wake up call, don’t take it literally. It happened to me a couple times. After a while, you realize it was necessary for you to change in the right direction. And you thank goodness because it happened!
    The law of attraction doesn’t deliver what you deserve (otherwise, you wouldn’t be in this situation), but what you want most. The most important things will always be granted.
    That being said, I wish you the best. I really see you changing your life for the better (though essentially, it will be the same). You’re already so, so wise, but things like this make us even wiser. There is always potential for growth, and I think you’re on that way. Also, notice how people love you! You’re really appreciated.
    Take care and remember that every journey has a lot of fun!

  • Annette says:

    I love knowing that there’s always an adventure with you, Jeannette!
    And WHAT IF the animals thought it was a great adventure too?
    On a weird note: we used to use those cow-pies as fuel in the fireplace!
    Don’t know how it smelled, but hey! Heat and cook-fires!
    One of the best ways to use cow product . . . . lol

  • Again and again and again, Jeannette, you show us how to live it. Your wide-open way of dealing with troublesome issues is what is so refreshing — and edifying.
    I think the truest inspiration comes from what you do: showing the evolution of an experience, from muddled beginnings to working (playing?) your way upward and out of it. I appreciate your brazen openness!
    Frankie B — pure slice of genius in the moment.
    Thanks for all that you share here —
    PS: I’m already eagerly anticipating your dispatches from a surprisingly blissed-out future space . . .

  • GorgeouSophie says:

    I don’t know how you do it (yes despite the years at GVU, following your blog and so on) but this is Fabulous! You know how to wield the Magic down to a t! Dooobeeedooo, I wanna be like youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!

  • Jesann says:

    Oh, hey, at least you have time; you have mad manifesting skills; and with the experience you’ve had living in your current house, you have a better idea of what you want in terms of a place to live. I’m sorry to hear you have to go, but I think you’re going to end up fine and in a great place.

  • You know, Michelle, I’m reminded of how Jeanna told me when I was reluctant to give up the corporate job paycheck to start a coaching business that “what you’re afraid to walk away from is what you’re actually walking toward.”
    Seems so contradictory, but then much of LOA work is, isn’t it? lol

  • That contrast of life does call forth some of our best stuff, doesn’t it, Jacqui?
    And Jackie, I couldn’t agree more with you in being “better for it in the end.” So true!

  • Michelle says:

    Wow Jeanette. What an inspiration you are and what an incredibly cool way to look at your situation. Thank so much for this!!

  • Jackie says:

    Now you know what I meant when I said that I’ve come to view the girl my ex husband took up with as an angel. Sometimes angels play a little, OK a lot, rougher than we’d like but we are usually better for it in the end. And you know, if it hasn’t worked out, it isn’t the end.

  • “Sooner or later we will realize just how perfect life has been unfolding all along.”
    How utterly divine is that?!
    You never fail to ah-maze and inspire me, girlfriend.

  • Well, there was not much ease in the beginning. Or the middle, even. lol
    But EVENTUALLY, I remembered to let go of trying to manage this all in order to let things be the fabulous way they want to be. And I know for sure, things want to be FABULOUS. All I gotta do is chill out a little more and let it come together.
    Yay for that. And yay for powerful questions, Sophie! Thank you for bringing them so consistently to our party!

  • How does it get any better than this? I love that Jeanna asked so many questions 🙂
    Jeannette, I am so grateful you are going through this with ease. It would be so easy to buy into every one else’s point of view that change is difficult when really change is what we make it to be.
    I wonder what else is possible that you have not considered yet with this move?
    Much love,

  • Right?!
    Course that is the pot calling the kettle black. 🙂
    Love you, Stephen!

  • Stephen says:

    That Frankie B is a smart feller.

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