Leaving Reality Behind

Transforming Relationships with Law of AttractionSometimes it’s challenging even for LOA savvy folks to ignore reality in order to create something new.

Getting stuck in a story of “what is” when it’s not what we want can be especially frustrating when we know that we have the power to change things simply by shifting focus.

Because sometimes it’s not that easy to do.

In fact, I got stuck in reality recently.

It started when my unstable drug-dealing crackhead neighbor who made multiple death threats against several of us in one weekend (including the vet who made a house visit and the plumber). I blamed my neighbor for the reason I was upset. Here’s a little taste of what was going on:

(You can hear this story in my own words here.)

He’d recently been released from prison and came to live with his grandmother, my favorite neighbor. Very soon the entire neighborhood was living in fear and frustration, and I was getting the full brunt of his abuse.

He trained his German Shepherd dog to kill my cats, laughed out loud when he knew he’d woken me up in the middle of the night, dealt and did drugs in his front yard in the middle of the day (and night), tried to engage my boyfriend in a duel, swore at his grandmother when he caught her talking to me, threatened to kill me, swerved onto front lawns when kids are playing in their own front yards … the guy is truly off-kilter.

The “truth,” as I and fellow neighbors told the police detectives, was that this guy was a drug dealing addict who respected no one (including the police) and was a danger to everyone in the neighborhood.

My list of reasons for anguish was longΒ – and well-documented by the police. My other neighbors had similar reasons for being upset, too – which made it even more true. It wasn’t just me – lots of us felt this way! And we reinforced it with each other. The “reality” was we were dealing with a dangerous psychopath who could take all of us out at any moment.

So that’s where I was. Can you feel what a strong story I had going?

And I know how this works. I know that as long as I’m flowing anger, frustration and other negative vibes, that’s all I can attract – more experiences that feel must like that.

As long as IΒ send this energy out, I continue this same reality.

And I know that to change the reality, I have to change my energy.

So before I have any “reason” to feel differently, I have to find a way to start feeling differently. Or I’ll be stuck here forever.

I know moving isn’t the answer, because I’ll just take my ‘hate my neighbor’ vibe with me, and voila – there will be a new problem neighbor wherever I go.

My work is right here. With my best next door teacher.

What do I want? That’s the question I go to when I’m tired of feeling awful.

Well, I want Peace, Quiet, Appreciation, and Love.

I write these words down on a sticky note. They’re still taped to my computer terminal as I type this, even.

That’s what I want. How does that feel?

I conjure up feelings of peace, quiet, appreciation and love. Okay, I got it. That feels good. That’s what I’m after. That’s a good start to shifting the energy.

And two hours later the neighbor is cursing at my dogs who are barking while he conducts illegal business in his front yard with yet another shady character. As I connect with feelings of anger and resentment and fear again, I remind myself that’s not what I’m creating.

That’s not what I want.

What I want is peace, quiet, appreciation and love. I can get there. Even here, while I’m in the midst of something that would normally inspire very different feelings, I can get there. Because I’m in charge of how I feel. I’m in charge of what I create.

I talk myself to a better place. I conjure up the good feelings again. All is well. It’s okay, Jeannette. He’s just here to give you practice. It’s all good. Where would you get a better teacher than this?! Tough to imagine. God bless him for being willing to wear the black hat to teach you unconditional love.

Sometimes I could go with those thoughts. Sometimes it was more like, “He’s digging his own grave and can’t last much longer,” or “That sounds like a nasty cough – maybe he’ll get sick enough to die” or “Maybe he’ll move in with his new girlfriend” or “The recidivism rate is 87% for hell’s sake (yes, I looked it up); it’s just a matter of time before he’s back in prison.”

So it wasn’t always love and light, but I regularly practiced talking myself into a better feeling place. For weeks. I certainly didn’t get there overnight.

And I’ve been getting better at it. I can feel the difference.

I knew that if I could consistently get on the vibe of Peace and Appreciation and Love, that he couldn’t continue the way he has been. I thought he’d end up in prison or the morgue or at least someone else’s neighborhood.

But I was wrong …

Over these last few weeks I practiced finding my way out of frustration and anger to Peace, Appreciation and Love. Late Monday night I got a phone call from him.

He spent five minutes apologizing for being a bad neighbor, asking my forgiveness, promising to change (including seeking out mental health support), and wanting me to know that he respects me and would never hurt me or anyone I loved or any of my property. He was in tears within seconds of talking, and so was I after we hung up.

There it is.

There’s the Peace, Appreciation and Love I’ve been calling in. I didn’t think he was capable of it, but I was wrong.

I knew he meant it when he said it, and the next day he had a dramatic opportunity to prove it.

The German Shepherd he’s been trying to train to kill my cats actually had a prime opportunity to do so. His dog took off like a bat out of hell when she spotted Elsa (Russ’ favorite cat) across the street. Elsa ran like her tail was on fire, and my neighbor followed suit faster than both of them. He ran after his dog like his life depended on it, because he did NOT want a bad ending for my cat, certainly not at the jaws of his dog. I knew then we’d truly turned a corner.

Now I can easily feel the Peace and Appreciation and Love. Even as he’s chasing down his dog chasing down my cat (who easily found a safe spot). Nothing but love for a guy that I certainly wasn’t loving just a few weeks ago.

Over the next days and weeks my neighbor became a whole different person. He raked my leaves, he shoveled my sidewalk, he chatted with me at the fence like a friend would. He even whispered when he conducted his drug deals outside at night. “Shhh, my neighbor’s sleeping.)

It was quite the transformation.

(Interestingly enough the rest of the neighborhood didn’t feel the same changes I did. But they also probably weren’t practicing the love like I was, either.)

We live with our best teachers. Mine has taught me even better how to flow what I want, even in the midst of a very contrary reality.

(Dad reminded me at lunch this from Carolyn Myss: “Your task is to learn the lesson that the teacher has for you rather than to resent the teacher.”)

For other creators who continue to focus on the reality they don’t want – the work is the same. Find a way to feel what you want before you have any reason to. That’s the deliberate creation work for ALL of us.

Once you’re there vibrationally, the Universe MUST yield to you. And it will seem like a miracle when it does. πŸ™‚

  • October 19, 2007
  • Parul says:

    WOW!! How awesome!! πŸ™‚
    I am practicing the same thing with this guy I really really like and was facing a bit of a challenging situation.
    If I needed proof that my approach would work, this is certainly it. πŸ˜€
    Thanks Jeannette!!

  • Jackie Gaston says:

    Thanks for this. It is a primer on how to bring yourself around to the vibration you seek.

  • hey,
    i guess thats whats wrong with me too, i get up and focus on negetivity, let me try the good vibes.

  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Ha ha – yeah, sometimes comparing DOES make us feel better, huh Sarah? lol Thanks for posting!

    I often use that technique with clients (well, myself too) when we’re starting to think we have it so bad – look around and see how good we actually have it.

    Like, at least my neighbor is afraid of the police. lol Some neighbors shoot at police, so … it could have been worse! And at least I had a good relationship with his grandma – it’s not like I had issues with everyone in the house.

    All right, that felt pretty wimpy, but you know what I mean. It can be effective. Thanks for bringing that up! : )

    And thanks for the positive feedback. It means much to me!!

  • Sarah Tan says:

    Wow, I feel so different about my neighbours after reading this post. At least they don’t get into trouble with the law.

    My neighbours who are staying one floor above like to put their wet mop out to hang, and it drips on my clothes. In addition, one of them is a heavy smoker, so the smoke whiffs into our apartment quite often.

    I guess I will use the law of attraction to attract better behaviour from them, and make things more pleasant.

    P.S. I love your blog!

  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Thanks for your post, Anonymous! I’m holding good thoughts for you on getting what you want with YOUR neighbor.

    In fact, I just now hung up with the detective who called to ask how everything was (he also left a voice mail earlier this week – what great follow up!) and I said it has been about as dramatic a turnaround as anyone could expect.

    I gave him specifics about how the neighbor’s keeping normal hours, or at least not waking everyone up at night, doesn’t have “friends” coming over continually throughout the day, he’s taking his dog in at night so she doesn’t bark through the night, he doesn’t mutter at people passing by, he drives responsibly down our street, and about the phone call he made last week to me apologizing and promising to improve.

    As I described it, I realized how unbelievable it sounded. And I said so to the detective. But it all makes sense from an LOA perspective.

    What power of influence we yield when we choose to line up, huh?!

    Good luck with your situation, Anonymous, and thanks for posting!

  • Anonymous says:

    Jeannette, this was a great post. I can think of 2 or 3 “bad neighbor” things that I’m dealing with and feeling completely justified in my negative vibes. I can see that I have the choice to shift my thinking. Thank you for this story!

  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Thanks for saying so, Holly. It’s certainly not the kind of situation I’m proud to have created in the first place, but … it is what it is. Another learning opportunity! πŸ™‚

  • holly says:

    this is just an awesome post. well done you! how very amazing and inspiring. i really needed to read this today, too. so thanks πŸ™‚

  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Well, it happened to also be the big challenge in my life lately – but the process works no matter what we’re struggling with.

    Whether it’s a boss, a physical body condition, financial situation, employee, spouse, kids, landlord, house issues – whatever we’re dealing with – shifting the energy we’re flowing gives us access to new experiences.

    And man, is it fun to use! lol

    Thanks for spreading the word, Alora. And thanks for reading!!

  • Alora says:


    Wow, thanks to you for writing this. I was just working with someone who had “bad neighbor” things going on. I’m going to send her a link to this post! You’re the best!


  • Good Vibe Coach says:

    Thanks, Leslie, although you can imagine I sure didn’t feel like a superstar through the process. But, this is what LOA in the real world sometimes looks like … at least in mine, anyway! lol

  • Anonymous says:

    I don’t think your neighbor is such a dumbie contrary to what he has been portraying. I mean hello, he has managed to manifest you as his neighbor. And being the bright beacon of light you are, he seems desperate to keep the contact.

    So not such a dumbie, just doesn’t seem to have too many tools. So good for you Jeannette for raising the bar and not buying into that. And giving him a hand with learning how to be a decent human being.

    And even more to the point how wonderful you chose to maintain your power and intent. Nothing short of amazing. What a superstar you are!

    Love Leslie

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