Let Them Have It

Seems like everyone’s got an idea about how things should be different …

  • Politicians shouldn’t lie.
  • Governments should govern better.
  • Police shouldn’t be racist.
  • Minorities shouldn’t experience violent discrimination.
  • Terrorists should be stopped.
  • We should all take better care of our planet.

I’ve said these things and more. I can rant with the best if you catch me in the right mood.

But when I’m in my right mind, I know that how everyone else rolls isn’t my business.

What’s my business is ME and how I feel. That’s all I need to pay attention to.

What others are doing doesn’t have to impact me if I don’t let it. Which I know is easier said than done, but it’s worth mastering since it’s impossible to control other’s behavior.

What serves me is to pay attention to what I want, rather than try to micromanage everyone else into my idea of a good time.

Conscious creators know that, right?

And many are good at practicing it, too and knowing how to let everyone have it their way.

Even when it’s not your way.

Because your happiness doesn’t have to depend on what others are up to.

When it does, you’ve set yourself up for a very. big. challenge.

That’s trying to manage the unmanageable.

All you can manage is your own self. In what you feel and do.

That’s what’s worth being in charge of – focusing on what you prefer and doing what feels best. That’s in service to not just yourself, but the entire planet.

Because as Abraham says, we aren’t here to fix a broken planet. (It’s not broken.)

The fact is we don’t all want the same things. And there are good reasons for different desires.

We were never supposed to want the same experiences.

And that’s okay. Because having different dreams and goals doesn’t mean one wins and another loses.

We can all have what we want when we stop thinking that others prevent us from it.

(Law of attraction sorts that stuff out so we don’t have to.)

Which means it’s okay to let them have it their way. You still get to have it your way – when you mind your vibrational business.

If your way requires that everyone conduct themselves a certain way, you might want to rethink your position. For the sake of your sanity, let alone your happiness.

We would not impose peace on anyone.” That’s what Abe says when Esther gets invited to join world peace movements.

We would not impose peace on anyone.

Because we each get to choose what we want to live.

I think that’s worth remembering that all desires are valid – not just our own.

Everyone gets to want what they want; everyone gets to be right; and everyone can live happily ever after – when tending their business instead of trying to manage everyone else’s.

Letting them do it their way doesn’t mean you can’t be peaceful yourself, and it doesn’t mean you don’t wish for others to be happy, too. It doesn’t make you irresponsible or uncaring.

The conscious creator way is to tend what we can manage, instead of getting wrapped up business that isn’t even ours.

Your peace, prosperity and happiness start with being willing to choose it even while others aren’t.

So don’t put your good time on hold until you get everyone else on the same page. That’s the kind of happiness handicap you don’t want to carry.

  • July 7, 2016
  • Shan says:

    Hi Jiya Here are my thoughts on the situation you describe: be honest with yourself about how you feel. You are concerned with creating tension for others – what about you? Please honour yourself and take yourself into account. Voice your needs in your work situation – tell the appropriate person how you wish it to be. And, lastly, in the meantime, create at least a flavour of what you want for yourself. What would having clarity at work give you? How can you get some of that regardless? I hope that helps.

  • Master Manifester says:

    Amen 🙂

  • Holly says:

    Yep, needed that today. Not only for what is going on in the world, but also within my own family. Beautifully written. Thank you!

  • Jiya says:

    Hi Jeanette, thanks for this post. It has further evoked the feelings of being happy and ask this question I have been thinking of for long. How to handle situations at worm when you have to work under somebody, above somebody and in a team. These are my current situations :
    1. I have been given different responsibilities of different roles but haven’t got the one yet. I know it’s around the corner somewhere but in between that time different people are dumping different work. How to deal?
    2. I am working with two guys in a team and I find myself a part of sandwich… should I keep doing work I am expected to? If I don’t that might create a tension in team.
    So in such cases, what should we do?

  • Mindy J says:

    Love your post and that you have reminded us once again to let go of the control and tend to our own vibration.
    If I indeed believe (and I do) that everything always works out for us, there may still be chaos and suffering in the world, but in some way, some how…things will continue to work out for myself or yourself or anyone who is tending to their own vibration.
    I think what is rampant right now is the general world perception that the world is going to hell in a hand basket and there is nothing we can do about it. But as you said, if we tend to our own business and vibration, that mindset eases a bit. (Until we see another scary Facebook post!) LOL!!

  • Elle says:

    I needed to read this at this very moment! I think society is afraid of this because then there would be utter chaos or something, even though I totally agree with you Jeannette, as Abe say, that would not happen and thus thy would not impose. Such is the limited perspective.

  • Sandi says:

    Absolute perfect timing everywhere I’ve been today I am asking my opinion on this latest political dilemma, even in my yoga class. Come on people! I’m trying really hard to keep my head buried like my friend the ostrich.

  • Ming says:

    Jeannette, I love how you word it.
    When I try and have said publically something similar sometimes it just doesn’t seem to go over easy as if I’m not being sympathetic. But I believe in at least starting with me, I know I can do that much. I hope then I can be some what of an example. I’m not choosing to focus on what is going on around us. (in fact when I saw your post, I thought oh, I wonder what just happened (in the news lol)
    Thought provoking, we would not impose peace on anyone. That is a thought to definitely let roll around.

    • Jeannette says:

      Yeah, it was that Abe quote rattling around in my head that made me realize I’m thinking we should all be working toward the same outcome (peace, prosperity, happiness, etc.), but hello – that’s ridiculous! Not everyone’s going to choose that! And that’s fine! All I need to pay attention to is what I’m choosing. 🙂

  • Jesann says:

    Excellent timing, as usual. Thanks.

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