Limiting Belief or Focusing Weakness?

Abraham recently shared a way of thinking about limiting beliefs that helped take the negative “charge” off how hard beliefs seem to be to change.

We know that we create within our belief system, so if we have a belief that’s in contradiction to our desire – well, that’s gonna be a problem in getting what we want.

For example, if I believe the body declines with age, and yet I don’t want to continue ideal health, my belief isn’t aligned to support my desire.

If I believe all the good men are taken, and yet I’d like one, I’ve got a big challenge to get my good man since I basically don’t believe he exists.  (These are not my personal beliefs; I’m just making up examples.)

If I believe you have to work hard to make big money, and yet I’m not able to or interested in working hard, I’ve pretty much cut myself off from big money.

So our beliefs are key to the realities we’re creating.

And I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve contributed to the belief that beliefs are hard to change. !

Enter Abraham for a new way of thinking on this topic:

In answer to a woman who asked if there was a quick way to adopt a more expanded belief, Abraham said that what we think of as “limiting beliefs” or “belief problems” is really just a focusing weakness.

They said we have a habit of focusing on what’s loudest instead of what feels best, which is all a “limiting belief” is.  A focusing weakness.

As in, we might be seeing the irritating partner rather than seeing the loving relationship we want.  (Because the irritating partner is in our face, whereas there’s no sign of the dream come true relationship we’d prefer.  So we see what’s in front of us rather than what we prefer.)

We might be dialed in on the empty bank account instead of seeing personal abundance.

We tend to notice the troubled economy and ineffective government everyone’s complaining about instead of choosing to see thriving business and great leadership.  It’s just a lazy habit of thought.

To overcome a “limiting belief” is simply a matter of choosing a new focus: getting picky about what we choose to think about and visualize in our mind’s eye.

Which isn’t hard to do, once we decide to.  Once we commit to it.

Yes, it takes perseverence and dedication at first, but because of law of attraction draws similar thoughts to whatever we’re thinking, it gets easier to maintain that new focus the more we practice it.

We can choose our thoughts.  As we purposely do so, we create new points of focus, creating new vibrations, creating new realities.

What new thought is calling you today?

This is your official invitation to become a more powerful focuser – not just letting old habits of thought dictate what you dwell on or letting the dominant conversations around you take you where you might not prefer to go.

Let’s show how picky we can be in selecting thoughts that feel better!  I may even give myself a new title in 2010: Connoisseur of Thought.  ha!

While we’re on the topic, if anyone’s got good feeling thoughts on this topic, please do share!

  • December 22, 2009
  • Mitch says:

    I was busy with the holidays during this post, so I’m a little late to the party. 🙂 But I had to comment!
    I got Abe’s The Vortex for Christmas, and in the CD that came with it, they touch on this theme some more with the idea that “a belief is just a thought you keep thinking.” They’ve said that before, but they REALLY drove it home this time.
    It’s so liberating to know that I don’t have to “dismantle” old beliefs, and that I only need to focus on what I do want to build new beliefs. And after a few days of being really determined to do that, I can actually feel it getting easier! Not to mention that every time I shift myself a little closer to a belief that I prefer, the Universe actually shows me some kind of sign that I’m on my way! And I’m talking *every time.* It could almost creep me out if I didn’t know that this is just the way the world works. 😀

  • Sue says:

    I love the visual of the big swirling vortex pulling me in!
    It’s sort of like being in a roomful of children who are laughing and having a ball ( something I find myself in the middle of quite often ) and wishing they would go home.
    We’ve trained ourselves to pull away from our own vortex, go figure? It’s just our watching other grown ups grumble and be irritated by things that really are quite delightful, learned behavior can now be unlearned. Better yet, just learn something better. Watch out, the swirling vortex is gonna getcha! Now that’s prepaving! Thanks Janette.

  • janita says:

    Ohh THANK you so much MissyB and Jeanette 🙂 I have find my selfe in not manifesting my desire for 2009…i have waited for it…haa..and not clearing my limiting beliefes all the way out.
    I discovered a beliefe inside me for some days ago…its nearly embarrissing to say it..but its got to go for me to live my sacred dream and desire 🙂 here it goes: im a woman who men find interessting, happy and men only desire me for the sex but not to get to know, spend time with and be in a relationship with.
    So MissyB thank you foryour ” love will find me”:-) and thank you Jeanette for “after she gave it all up and quit trying – had the experience where Mr. Right came knocking on her door. ha!
    Her story is one of my favorite ones to tell to people who think you can’t just sit at home and expect the good stuff to come to you. he he
    Sometimes that’s exactly what is required to get the energy lined up!”

  • Ruby says:

    Thanks, that is really good advice. I did read some where that the ‘things that we dont like’ exist to help us understand ‘the things we do like’ 🙂
    The cycle dont sound so bad anymore… LOL! bring it on!

  • Btw, after I wrote that comment, the thing I was to manifest, happened! HA!

  • Oh, MissyB! You’re dialed on a good vibe now!
    Your situation reminds me of a girlfriend who saw the “luck” (as she considered it) online, so she signed up, too. But she was really paranoid about strangers knowing who she was, and wouldn’t even use her real name or photo.
    Of course it’s not hard to guess nothing (good) came from her online activities. But that was the SAME girlfriend who – after she gave it all up and quit trying – had the experience where Mr. Right came knocking on her door. ha!
    Her story is one of my favorite ones to tell to people who think you can’t just sit at home and expect the good stuff to come to you. he he
    Sometimes that’s exactly what is required to get the energy lined up!
    I’m already looking forward to your 2010, MissyB! 🙂

  • MissyB says:

    I’ve done it ! And it feels soooooo liberating. I’ve cancelled my membership to the internet dating sites. This is to bring it in to line with my new belief that love will find me. It will, but in the meantime – lets work on me !
    Thanks Jeannette – it feeeeels great !

  • Jessica, you are not alone.
    Your story of how naturally those unwanted thoughts gravitate back is the proof of law of attraction at work, isn’t it?!
    But the good news is that with some practice and conscious awareness we become better focusers, and then law of attraction is working on our behalf with the wanted thoughts.
    And I like the thought of rewriting the old fable!
    Thanks for chiming in, Jessica. 🙂

  • Jessica says:

    Great Manifesting! For the last few days… me having a weak focus has been the topic weighing on MY mind. I’m experienced in manifesting so easily, so I couldn’t figure out why it has been so hard lately with difficult people and situations in my life. I knew all I needed to do was focus on what I wanted, but somehow I started to think how I am plaugued by the situations going on! (then wanted to change that thought too!) I even was dreaming about them, so would wake up thinking about them and have to “force” the thoughts out by doing puzzles, or something with my mind, but as soon as I did something that didn’t require as much thought (such as dishes, driving) then the thoughts would return- seemingly on their own. I’m like- “hey, get out of my head”… why is my focusing abilty so weak?!
    So now intend to manifest that I have AMAZING and POWERFUL focusing abilities (and I have proof because when I do logic problems, nothing else in life exists! That’s focus!) So… my desired goal is to be able to focus more powerfully and deliberately on what I choose so that it becomes easy for any situation that comes up!! PS. I went directly to your neighbor story in the gift e-book which seems to relate perfectly for the challenge I face right now. In fact my issue isn’t even in my face as much as your neighbor was, but the inner dialogue and direction of thoughts is comparable. Even though I “know” this, being reminded that there IS hope and I am capable of turning this around for the best of everyone involved! It is as if the sheep is hiding in the wolf’s clothing!! haha!! Maybe we should re-write the old fable! It isn’t as scary as it looks sometimes!!! 🙂 Thanks for the wonderful inspiration and relief!!!

  • Thanks for the clip, Gillian! I’m sure lots of us will be inspired by it!

  • Gillian says:

    I found this clip about Grace Kelly on youtube, where she supposedly has been living in a world of make belief and dreamed about becoming a princess ever since she was a little girl. I thought this is an interesting proof for us deliberate creators, that visualisations do work and dreams do come true.

  • That’s right – thanks, MissyB!
    Ruby, thanks for writing. I do have a tendency to limit my publishing efforts when I’m out of sync with the good vibe, although as regular readers know I don’t always pull that off. But just wanted you to know that the cycle of good then not so good isn’t unusual.
    In fact, the “not so good” cycle is actually an important part of the process. It’s not only what allows us to enjoy the good times & moods that much more, it’s what INSPIRES them.
    So if that helps take any of the resistance off of having those bad days, please consider that thought for future “bad moods.”
    Thanks for sharing here, Ruby! Pleasure to hear from you.

  • Ruby says:

    Jeannette you always seem to be in such a good mood! And this is not a complain 🙂
    I seem to have this cycle of good days and not so good ones, its not a belief yet I see more of it everyday.
    Like today was not such a good one, I work in sales and the last 2 days I met such great clients, everything was as I wrote in my PRJ. And then today I seem to meet clients that are totally opposite.
    Logically, I know that these bad ones are residual thoughts when I started out in this business.
    The blogs are great way to stay focused and remind one self that we are loved and blessed.
    Thanks again for doing what you do.

  • MissyB says:

    Ricky Gervais Jeannette – the bloke for the uk The Office. He’s lovely !

  • Nathaniel, I get it! The theme of spirituality and connection and living in harmony was really really cool in that show. Not to mention the 3D and animation – WOW!
    Thanks for popping in – always nice to hear from a fellow movie-lover and “connoisseur of thought”!

  • Nathaniel says:

    This was a really great article. Connoisseur of Thought–brilliant. That’s what I want to be!
    Also, off topic, Avatar is the most beautiful movie I’ve ever seen. I usually only go and see feel good happily ever after comedies beacause I am picky about how I feel. But I saw Avatar and I loved every second of it. I really appreciated the spirituality of it.

  • Yay for new beginnings, Gillian! I’m super impressed with your ability to find the good vibe through that experience of contrast.
    I think your new beginning will suit you very well, indeed.

  • Gillian says:

    OMG, Jeannette! I just downloaded your fabulous Christmas Gift! Thank you sooooo much, I will read it today! Jeannette, you are a gem!
    I felt so terrible yesterday, because I went to see a clairvoyant, who told me that a guy I liked is not available (again!!! Same old story as with the other guys in the past). The good thing Jeannette, though the reading session yesterday was a disappointment and it made me so sad again and powerless, it did give me the clarity I did not have before. I became aware of my restrictive, limitting conscoiusness about the men in my life and the bondage I felt of always wanting somebody I can’t have. This reading yesterday also came timely as I set intentions to acquire emotional self-sufficiency and inner freedom in my wish-list for the past new moon in sagittarius. I suppose it was a hint from the universe to let go of all my inner bondage that I have been harboring for years and start a new beginning as a free and self-sufficient person – and the universe sends me Jeannette Maw, the angel who rescues and inspires me to a new level of truth with her generosity and expertise with her e-book! Thank you Jeannette, I give you a big hug and a kiss and I wish you Happy Holidays and a fabulous 2010!

  • Right, right, right, Janette … finding ways to feel so much easier and lighter about it all – that serves us tremendously well! Not to mention just plain feels better.
    I wondered if you’d recognize yourself in the latest ebook. Thanks for reading!

  • Janette says:

    OMG!! Just started reading the FABULOUS new e-book and found my name mentioned!!!
    You know that I LOVE that you wished me Happy Thanksgiving, don’t you? Mwah!

  • Janette says:

    Wow. This has been the theme for me over the past couple of weeks. Letting it be EASY. I finally GOT IT properly for the first time at the Abraham-Hicks workshop on the Gold Coast (I know I promised to blog about it – it’s coming soon, maybe after Xmas!!)
    One of the themes of that workshop was that it’s OKAY to find yourself out of the Vortex of well-being (readers of Abe will know what I’m referring to). If you aren’t feeling the good – don’t beat yourself up, don’t think you have to start everything from scratch, don’t think you have to do a whole lot of work (unless you really want to). Just feel around for the better feeling and that will draw you back in.
    I think this is the same thing, told differently. Our natural state is to be our true selves, to be in that place of complete well-being. If we think that a ‘limiting belief’ is a barrier to getting there, then it becomes a Big Thing and we think we have to deal with it.
    How about if the Vortex is pulling us in all the time like a giant whirlpool (anyone seen the last scene in Pirates of the Caribbean 3??)… and the thing we thought was a limiting belief is just a handle we’re still holding onto because some part of us is afraid to let go and trust?
    When I find myself in a not-so-great-feeling thought, I remind myself that my Inner Being (the big huge non-physical part of me that lives in the Vortex 24/7) is pulling me towards itself. That makes me grin – even in public (I have had some funny looks, LOL!) – and the grin is what enables me to let go.
    It’s a lovely feeling 😀

  • Sue, I totally know what you mean about taking the angst off what hard work it is to change a big bad belief!
    Focusing differently feels much more do-able, doesn’t it?
    I hadn’t read that from Deepak – thanks for sharing it here! I’d learned a similar technique from Tom Stone, but the simplicity you shared Deepak’s process with is highly highly appealing.
    Thanks for reading, Sue! You bring good energy here! 🙂

  • Sue says:

    I love this new thought, a focusing weakness! I just got the same CD last week, and it took me listening to it probably 20 times for it to finally hit me. What a super concept. It really softens the whole feeling of being a deliberate creator, by simplifying it. Thinking that I have to discover this big bad belief that is hindering me,or just understanding that I’ve been a bit weak in the focus department. And who hasn’t, after all we are taught to give our attention to the loudest of complaints, ignoring what could possibly feel the best.
    Your “Adventures in Manifesting” brought tears to my eyes, how touching these stories are. Truly beautiful!
    By the way Deepak Chopra has a great mind body exercise in his newest book that has worked along with this. Practice feeling where you are holding your not so good feeling and sit with it, till it disappears It’s a great way to dissolve a not so good focus, breaking way for better things. It helped me understand the mind, body connection in a new way. It really works, and has reduced stress in my life greatly.
    Time to go and write some stories as I want it to be!
    Thanks so very much!

  • Thanks, Toni. It was actually probably me who needed it like rain in the dry season – but either way, I’m grateful for the happy ending.
    Even more so than the ending, though, I’m happy to have had the experience. That was really something else!
    Thanks for reading and especially for commenting, Toni.

  • Toni says:

    Whau, Jeannette – I’ve never heard you tell the story of your crackhead neighbour the way you just did in “Adventures in Manifesting”. Brought tears to my eyes.
    He probably still doesn’t know what hit him when you started sending him thoughts of peace and love, but he sure needed it like rain in the dry season. Amazing…

  • Toni says:

    “Connoisseur of thought”, indeed 🙂
    Jeannette, I’m just reading through your latest e-book, “Adventures in Manifesting”, which is another masterpiece from your hands.
    Thank you so much for providing us with your personal experiences. Most of us may have heard the basic outlines of them already, but to me for instance the very detailed description of how you manifested your business is new and very inspirational.
    I’m just about to launch a similar practice myself for another big dream project, and find it highly motivating to see how you can actually pretend your dream has already happened.
    Doing it any other way is indeed a “focusing weakness” 🙂
    Thank you so much for being there, sweet Jeannette – I wish you and your loved ones a joyful Christmas and all the best for the coming year.

  • You know, Gemstone, I watched an interview with the actor .. forget his name .. the original guy in The Office (the UK version). Anyway, he was talking about how he really had a hard time with making all the money that he did from something that he just loved doing.
    And then on the same day I heard another successful person (can’t remember who it was) saying the same thing – how hard it was to get used to having LOTS of money.
    Your post is making me wish someone had told them about Psych-K for rebalancing!
    Kudos to you for doing something with your new awareness. You might be taking that for granted, but I know plenty of coaches even who realize where they have room for shifting, and don’t. (Me sometimes included.)
    So be proud. 🙂

  • gemstone3 says:

    Great topic as always Jeannette. Love the way you’re always able to phrase each topic so neophytes like me can fully understand!
    I think I posted last week that I had a limiting belief on the word abundance. Didn’t know I had it until I did a balance for it with Psych-K. It totally floored me that I ultimately thought abundance in some form was excessive and garish, and therefore bad. So it was incredibly liberating working through the process. Once I said it out loud, I was able to put behind me.
    As always, I look forward to everyone’s wise comments!

  • Ooh, Gillian, are you on my ezine list? If so you saw the coupon code to pick up Adventures in Manifesting for 100% off, right? (GoodLove is the code; the link is
    I share a couple of stories about manifesting men that you might pick up some inspiration from.
    In the meantime, here’s to emotional freedom and self-sufficiency! Very nice manifestation to claim for yourself.

  • Gillian says:

    Oh I needed this, it resonates with my story lately and my recognition that I am still harbouring some limitting beliefs about the men in my life. I find myself still dwelling in my old consciousness that all the men that I like are unavailable. I caught myself dwelling on this old theory the entire day and you can imagine how powerless and restrictive I felt. Well, you know what? No more neediness!!! I have a goal, which I still want to achieve this year:
    a) I want to be emotionally self-sufficient
    b) I want to acquire inner freedom
    And so be it!!!!

  • Well, MissyB, I’m sure lots of readers will relate to what you shared here!
    I sure can.
    In fact, maybe that’d make a great end of year post since so many folks have that very topic in mind as we start a new year.
    Thanks for the inspiration!
    PS – I LOVE the new beliefs you’re beginning to play with.

  • MissyB says:

    I’ve spent the last week afforming – how have I lost a stone in weight so easily, quickly and healthily ? I was “prompted” to lock the chocolate in the garage and have bought no more crisps – my 2 very large downfalls. And I get on the scales this morning – and NO CHANGE ! I thought it was my belief that it is these two things that were damaging my weight goal…now I’m not so sure.
    I said on Tia’s page – I know what I’d like to believe. I’d like to believe that Mr Right will find me without me actively searching, I’d like to think that I can eat what I want and maintain the weight I’d like to be and I’d like to believe that I will always be able to afford anything and everything, without the nagging inner voice that says you can only spend it once.
    So back to the top of this page to reread GVG post again and I look forward to seeing everyones’ comments.

  • Oooh, I LOVE your “new story” ritual to year end, Tia!
    How FUN! And creative!
    Gosh, I can’t wait to tell one myself!!
    Thanks for popping in, Tia!

  • I love that distinction. Been too caught up in weakened focus the last 2 days and found it SO hard to better my vibe even after 2 days of being in the dumps.
    Was manifesting something that I felt so good doing but deep inside, wasn’t sure was a good idea – and so it didn’t happen.
    How I did it was to repeat over and over (think 100’s of times) “I now ask for what’s in alignment with my soul’s purpose” until I was exhausted from chanting that.
    Took me a few hours + hanging out with a friend all afternoon + giving up wanting things to be other than they are. All this = peace once again, and peace feels GOOD.
    I’ve also decided to tell a new story each day till the 31st of Dec (more to follow in 2010 obv) and today’s is “I am aligned with love” so I’m indulging in loadsss of self love 🙂 Mwah

  • I know, huh, Pernille?! Somehow that perspective shift all of a sudden makes it feel so much EASIER!
    And you are right – feeling appreciation is a quick and effective refocus!
    Thanks for reading and especially for writing, my friend.

  • Oh what a relief – ha! – it feels like a “focusing weakness” is so much easier to change, than overcoming a “limiting belief” (yeah, I see it, this is just a belief!!).
    And it resonates very well with my own experiences lately – sometimes I feel annoyed with my sweetie because “he works all the time and leaves all the housework to me” and “he’s so tired when he comes home that he falls asleep on the couch within 15 minutes – we never do anything fun together”.
    Then I realize that this doesn’t serve me at all; it doesn’t make me feel good and it doesn’t attract more of what I want (the more I’ve practiced LOA the faster I get to this moment of realization!).
    So I change my focus and start telling myself what I’m grateful about instead – “he’s a kind and loving man, he accepts me completely as I am, he agreed to have one more child 9 years ago when I was “desperate” to have another child at the age of 40 (I’ll always be grateful for this!!!), he inspires me in so many ways, etc”
    So feeling grateful is a shortcut to refocusing !!!!
    Thanks for bringing this topic, Jeannette – and thanks for helping us all make practising the law of attraction more easy – love you 🙂

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