Lisa’s Identity Check

If you’ve ever concluded divine timing was taking longer than expected, it might be worth checking the vibe to see if who you’re being is the holdup …

Lisa Hayes shares how engaging a handful of new “data points” as part of her identity shift is manifesting her wildly successful new book. Here’s Lisa:

A full year ago I was inspired to write a book.

I started on January 1st and gave myself a daily writing goal. I stayed on schedule and by February 10th it was finished and off to the publisher. I thought it would be published and to market by April.

It wasn’t.

A lot of things got in the way. Life caused me to miss important editing and marketing deadlines. My publisher was patient, but gently let me know every time I missed a deadline that we were pushing it back, not by days, but maybe months.

Weeks and months did pass and I made peace with the fact it would launch when it was time. I told myself I couldn’t control that timing, and it would be perfect whenever it happened. I wasn’t exactly procrastinating. I just figured the stars weren’t aligned.

A few days ago as I was pondering my new year plan and decided to take it in a different direction this year. Instead of making a bunch of plans or picking a word, I opted to tease out a new identity.

Who would I be if that book was a wild, game-changing success?

I started making a list of what I call data points. I am still shooting for 100. I haven’t made it yet, but the list is growing.

I asked myself questions like:

  • How would I manage my schedule differently?
  • What would I wear?
  • What thoughts would I think?
  • What would I eat?
  • What would my office and home look like?
  • What behaviors would be different than they are now?

I thought about the deep penetrating details of who I would be. I got gut check honest with myself.

The big shocker in this process was an eye opener …

I am nowhere near as close to being that woman as I thought I was.

I know the drill when it comes to identity shifting and honestly, I was doing a half-assed job. Basically, I was fooling myself because the evidence in my physical world told a very different story.

I thought I was doing a pretty good job of being a wildly successful author – but there was no book in sight. That kind of evidence doesn’t lie.

So, even though the list isn’t complete, last week I started getting very deliberate about making some changes and upgrades. I’ve been very intentional about things in a way I wasn’t before. It’s taking some effort, but I’m better off for it in a number of ways.

A couple days ago I got an email from the publisher scheduling a final conference call with the marketing department for next week. A smart girl would have noticed the evidence shifting in response to my identity upgrade. I totally missed it.

I just kept adding data points to my list and incrementally implementing changes in my environment, my behavior, and my thoughts. It started to feel like a game to check the boxes I could, day in and day out.

I can’t say I’m there yet, but I do know I’m closer.

Want to know how I know that??

Last night I was searching on Amazon for another book, completely unrelated, written by someone else, that I wanted to send to a client. I was having a hard time finding it.

As I was typing in every key word I could think of, guess what book came up in my search.


My book, I wrote, that wasn’t even suppose to be there yet.

Mic drop moment.

I shot off an email to the publisher who responded by telling me the printing house must have been ahead of schedule. He didn’t even know it was there. He told me we’d proceed with our promo plan for early next year as planned.

Here’s the thing … All those months it wasn’t the stars that weren’t aligned. It was me. I had a lot more control over the timing than I wanted to admit.

Identity is a powerful thing. It’s also specifically unique. What I believe might be a behavior or a belief for a crazy successful author might be very different that what you think it might be. There is no one recipe. However, I do have beliefs, and until I started conforming to them, nothing was ever going to shift.

The minute I got honest about where I was with my identity and putting the pieces to shift in place, the wheels on the bus started turning pretty quick.

Simple? Yes.

Easy? Not always.

Worth it? Hell yeah.

What you want to do next year doesn’t matter. It’s irrelevant.

My question for you is this:

Who do you want to be in 2016?

Instead of planning the what, I highly suggest you start becoming and morphing into the who.

It might just save you some time. It would have saved me a year.
Lisa Marie Hayes

Lisa Hayes is the Love Whisperer and author of Score Your Soulmate, apparently now available on Amazon. 

  • December 19, 2015
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  • Dani says:

    This is a really good thing to keep in mind as the new year approaches. Sometimes it feels like we have no control over circumstances (even though as deliberate creators we know we do but sometimes we forget) but we can have control over how we choose to act and who we choose to be

  • Sandeep says:

    Thanks Jeannette
    Nice inspiration
    I’ll try with what Lisa said, “What you want to do next year doesn’t matter. It’s irrelevant…My question for you is this: Who do you want to be in 2016? Instead of planning the what, I highly suggest you start becoming and morphing into the who.”
    I am not egoistic, and also I have been trying to annihilate my ego on the other hand because I am a realized, spiritual being. So like educated people who are well-organized in their habits, I also plan and try to implement the “Whats of life.” Now to manifest things I have been deprived of, let me completely make a 180 degrees u-turn as recommended by Dear Lisa.
    Love and regards

  • Just what I needed to hear and a fantastic story! Thanks Lisa 🙂

  • Master Manifester says:

    Thank you Lisa! This is perfect for all the changes going on in my life as I step into the new ME 🙂

  • MissyB says:

    What an inspirational post and so timely for 2016 plans. I knew I wanted next year to be different, but wasn’t sure how, why or what.
    I desire a software (identity) update ! So here’s to 2016…I’m off to make a plan of who Anne is.

  • Zel says:

    Very much like Ms Manifesting’s comment about feeling like I’m making the shift, yet evidence doesn’t change, here is my question.
    After soul-searching and seeking divine alignment for a number of years (i’m now 66), yet continuing to have a mixed-up life where I do not see results, I’m starting to conclude that maybe my life is over. I don’t mean I’m at all suicidal or depressed (truly not), it’s just that I’m wondering if this physical existence is coming to an end for me. It’s the only sense I can make of this.
    What do you suggest? I’d be so grateful for new direction, new impetus, a new vibe.
    Thank you.

    • Namaste says:

      I think I get where you’re coming from. Basically, if the results you want aren’t showing up, despite trying everything you can think of to get those results for years, what’s the point of hanging out in physical reality where you’re not getting what you want? If that’s where you’re coming from, I completely get that.
      If you’ve been working on allowing specific desires into your life for years it’s really easy to think, “I’m absolutely certain about what I want and it feels like the divine isn’t listening to me.” I felt this way in my early 30’s when I was wanting the woman of my dreams to show up and I couldn’t even get a date. One day I reviewed the manifesting process and realized that there are only three components. There is the Law of Attraction, the process I’m using to attract it and me. I immediately knew the problem couldn’t be the Law of Attraction (it’s always working and proof of that was that while I’d failed to manifest the woman of my dreams, I’d manifested other desires at the same time). After thinking about it, I realized the problem couldn’t be my alignment process. I’d used the exact same process to allow other desires into my life (processes just don’t break for no reason). So I was left with the problem had to be me. This made NO SENSE. How could I be the problem? I realized the only way I could be the problem is if I didn’t really want, what I thought I wanted (the woman of my dreams). While that made no sense, it was the only logical answer. So I asked myself, “Why would I NOT WANT the woman of my dreams to show up?” To my shock and surprise, I immediately wrote down a list of reasons. The biggest was that I’m a happy workaholic and I was sick to death of having women show up in my life and become nags about my work schedule. Suddenly, everything made sense. Here I was saying on one hand, “I want the woman of my dreams.” On the other hand though (without being conscious of it) I was thinking thoughts about how I was done with women in my life complaining about my work schedule. No wonder the Universe wasn’t delivering the woman of my dreams to me. I was sending out contradictory thoughts about what I wanted. Long story short, I realized I had to find solutions to all the reasons I wrote down about why I didn’t want the woman of my dreams in my life. It took a while, but I found the solution to my first major problem. I needed to manifest a woman who was also a workaholic. If she was a workaholic too then she probably had nagging boyfriends so she’d be excited to find a guy like me who would NEVER bug her about her work schedule. I knew I’d found my answer! I found solutions to the rest of reasons. Now that I was truly in alignment with wanting the woman of my dreams to show up, four women showed up in my life within the next four weeks. I went from not being able to get a date to actually having too many options. Thankfully, the right choice soon became clear.
      In closing, you said “I feel like I’m making the shift, yet evidence doesn’t change.” If it seems like you are doing everything right in shifting to what you want, the first thing I’d look for is hidden resistance that is messing up your alignment by asking myself, “Why wouldn’t I want _____ to show up in my life RIGHT NOW?” Keep writing answers until you feel empty (it usually takes me a few sitting to do this). Then begin finding solutions and don’t quit until you find ALL the solutions.

      • Michael says:

        Great combination of how both broad and fine brush strokes can create a living spiritual portrait that is both self actuating, and spiritually accurate. Or in order to be who we truly are, we must release what we think we want.
        Like a physical manifestation of a spiritual reality, without wanting it, “it” just happens, happens, and happens again. Thank God, our Angels, and ourselves for getting out of our own way.
        Thanks you,

      • Michael says:

        Great combination of how both broad and fine brush strokes can create a living spiritual portrait that is both self actuating, and spiritually accurate. Or in order to be who we truly are, we must release what we think we want.
        Like a physical manifestation of a spiritual reality, without wanting it, “it” just happens, happens, and happens again. Thank God, our Angels, and ourselves for getting out of our own way.
        Thanks you,

      • Dee says:

        So my question to you would be, why are you a workaholic? That seems unbalanced to me. Just throwing that out to you. I don’t know. I crave balance in my own life in order to be grounded and manifest what I do want. I think the word “workaholic” seems very chaotic and ungrounded, pushing too hard. I appreciate your honesty!

        • Namaste says:

          What’s in alignment for one person can be totally out of alignment for another. For you my lifestyle would be very chaotic, ungrounded, and pushing way too hard. For me, it’s the exact opposite, I LOVE the intensity, I thrive on the single mindedness, and I crave competing against the absolute sharpest minded people in my industry.
          When Vince Lombardi (the football coach) wrote his famous speech, he was talking about guys like me…
          “Winning is not a sometime thing; it’s an all the time thing. You don’t win once in a while; you don’t do things right once in a while; you do them right all of the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.
          There is no room for second place. There is only one place in my game, and that’s first place…
          It is a reality of life that men are competitive and the most competitive games draw the most competitive men. That’s why they are there – to compete. The object is to win fairly, squarely, by the rules – but to win.
          And in truth, I’ve never known a man worth his salt who in the long run, deep down in his heart, didn’t appreciate the grind, the discipline. There is something in good men that really yearns for discipline and the harsh reality of head to head combat.
          I don’t say these things because I believe in the ‘brute’ nature of men or that men must be brutalized to be combative. I believe in God, and I believe in human decency. But I firmly believe that any man’s finest hour — his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dear — is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – victorious.”

        • Dee says:

          I just think when you put the “aholic” after a word, it’s seems unhealthy to me. This is your life path though. I just want to clarify that Vince Lombardi obviously didn’t practice the LOA. I think his speech was poignant but he missed the point. I believe in hard work just as much as anyone else. With that shows integrity and strong character, however, one doesn’t need to “kill” oneself in order to achieve their dreams or goals. This speech exhausted me reading it and I think if you or anyone else has that high intensity vibe all of the time, I’m not sure what it accomplishes in the long run but then again, it’s not my business anyway. Thanks for your comment and wishing you the best in your endeavors!

        • Namaste says:

          You wrote, “I just want to clarify that Vince Lombardi obviously didn’t practice the LOA.”
          I use to feel the way you do. Any time someone would talk about action and LOA, I’d roll my eyes. Then one day, a person pointed out to me that everyone from Hitler to Mother Teresa practiced LOA. Practicing LOA is ultimately about following one’s alignment. I had to ponder this one for a while but in time I saw the person’s point.
          You wrote, “One doesn’t need to “kill” oneself in order to achieve their dreams or goals.” Agreed =) Just so you know though, what looks like “killing oneself” to you, is the very pinnacle of the human experience to someone like me.
          Thanks for wishing me the best in my endeavors, I wish you the same =)

      • Zel says:

        Immense thanks for your commentaries, especially Namaste. Your example and description are exquisite.
        Indeed, residual resistance is worth examining.

      • Amber says:

        Hi namaste …in regards to some of the comments below about being a workaholic being relative to certain people and for you that is really being in your zone …and your below comment
        ‘his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dear — is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – victorious.”
        This really made me think wow this guy has got to be an Aries sun or have some serious mars/pluto energy in his chart …I study and love astrology and I’m seeing different ways this can be applied while using some of the LOA skills as it can help us understand our basic drives or the types of energy that motivates us and what we get inspired by in others. What is your take on astrology and how do you think this can be applied in Loa manifesting ? sorry I’m new to all of this so I’m interested in your views . Thanks

        • Namaste says:

          I’m definitely an Aries =) I’ve never had my chart done, in part, because I don’t know the exact time I was born (the time isn’t on my birth certificate).
          While I appreciate the insights astrology provides, I haven’t yet been called to study it in depth. I know that some people use their LOA & astrology skill sets to really help people ( I wish I could say more but I just don’t know that much about astrology. I do know that people understanding their basic drivers would help a lot. I use to get A LOT of crap from people in the LOA community before I figured out how to explain why I am, the way I am. From what you shared, it seems that if I’d been more familiar with astrology, I’d have had an easier time of explaining why “ease and grace” is great but can easily bore me to tears. If you end up pairing up your astrology skills, with your new LOA skills, I’d certainly be interested in checking out what you’re doing =)

      • Elle says:

        Great insights added here, thanks! Masters have said that if you are willing to go to the death, then you will succeed. This may sound dramatic for most, but it is the truth. If you do not give up, keep knocking on the door, so to speak, then it or a window will open. Something will move; it will happen.
        What I do not understand in the Lombardi speech is this part: “It is a reality of life that men are competitive and the most competitive games draw the most competitive men. That’s why they are there – to compete. The object is to win fairly, squarely, by the rules – but to win”.
        Masters have said, and I have read, that humans were not originally competitive. This is a result of the vibration of the times. As the vibration rises, there will be less competition. There will also be fewer people. I’ve read about the yugas and it is all pretty fascinating. Of course, there is not way for us to know this since we won’t be around. A lot of the stuff I read is based on yogis from thousands of years ago and entities that speak through those who channel. But is there or isn’t there competition? Pam Gout said she herself does not care about that, nor so other successful people. They just want to get better and better, but do not compete with others. I realize this is what revs you up and makes you tick, and I do not ask about what you personally do, but generally speaking. But you know, the more I study LOA, the more I find that life is what one makes of it while he/she keeps going or gives up.
        Oh, and one of my great loves was an Aries! Wonderful memories with him!

        • Namaste says:

          I enjoyed reading your comment =)
          To address your question…
          Competition can be a good or a bad thing depending on how you are interacting with it. Competition can be fun (playing a board game with friends), it can stretch you to be better than you would be otherwise (running next to other distance runners that are better than you) and it can make the game of life a lot more interesting. Competition can also bring out the worst in people etc. Some people love to compete (we see this in sports and I’ve definitely noticed it in the field of sales). Other people simply don’t enjoy that kind of tension. Personally, I have mixed feelings about competition. A part of me loves it and a part of me honestly doesn’t care (it all depends on the situation).
          Speaking specifically about Lombardi’s speech, I believe he’s correct in stating that really competitive games draw a very specific type of people. And from an LOA perspective this makes sense. Anyone who doesn’t enjoy stiff competition wouldn’t be vibrationally attracted to those kind of games (think trial lawyers and pro-athletes for example). I once read an interview with the famous basketball star Michael Jordan. I was actually a bit taken back by what he said. I didn’t realize the level of intense mind games that happen between pros on the court. It was a bit brutal even for my tastes.
          As to us not being around to see how things turn out, 2045 is fast approaching. I initially dismissed the Singularity concept, but now I’m beginning to see how it’s really possible (,9171,2048299,00.html). We very well might be around to see how everything plays out. If so, it will certainly be interesting =)

    • Dee says:

      Zel, it’s pretty simple why you aren’t manifesting. The LOA is never wrong. It is always right. It is showing you evidence based on your own vibration and what you’re putting out. If I want 98.1 FM and my radio is at 100.1 FM, i’m not going to get 98.1 until I reconfigure the channel. I believe in doing inner work. A spiritual mentor may help you tremendously. Sometimes when we have limiting beliefs, it keeps us from manifesting our desires. Or even consider studying with a LOA coach. That would be my suggestion to you. Remember. Your outer reality is a reflection of your inner reality. Wishing you the best! Btw, your life is far from over! It’s only just begun! And just food for thought. Louise Hay started Hay House when she was 60 years old.

  • I’ve been dealing a lot with the question of divine timing myself lately, so this post was spot on, but I am wondering what happens when you feel like you are making the shift, yet the evidence doesn’t change (in fact, you get more of the same)?

  • Anonymous says:

    This approach is great for many people, and with some things I have used it successfully. However on other issues, things I really, really want, whenever I implement these tips I just end up feeling worse about myself and go into a spiral of depression and self injury. :/ So it’s not responsible, but just leaving it to divine timing and doing whatever inspired actions I feel led to at least keeps me from ending up in the hospital again. I end up blaming myself and beating myself up to attempting suicide and feeling like I will never get what I want. Already there are dreams I have that I am too old for (there are really strict age limits) and have to accept that I will never live them. For other things just putting all the blame and responsibility on myself, telling myself that it’s me keeping it away, just makes me feel certain darkness I never want to feel again. When I let things go to divine timing and just trust that they will come eventually, I feel a sense of relief and inner peace.
    I hope I don’t sound like I’m discounting this technique, because it’s definitely a good one, but it may not be ideal for everyone or every situation.

    • Jeannette says:

      Yes, indeed, our inner guidance is the best ally and most reliable source of information above all else. We should always follow that and do whatever feels best. Nothing overrides that.

  • Elle says:

    Wow. The Universe responded to me once again with this lovely post! I needed this!
    I am trying to pass an exam myself that would allow me to begin my career. Along that way, I listened to all the negativity surrounding the exam, its difficulty, the competition, etc and I realized all that was not helping me. It made me intimidated of the material, I freaked, I worried so much to the point of sickness, all to no avail.
    I, too, decided another approach is suitable for this situation. Instead of being the small, scared student whose life is in the hands of committees, why not be the professional I want to be by being confident I will not only pass, but get to where I want to be smoothly and easily, without a trail of tears. I mean, goodness, I cried oceans even before anything happened. I questioned my sanity, intelligence, path up to now.
    The Universe has sent me tons of signs and continues to do so about this path. Why can’t I just go along? I know passing this test is doable and I know I am not stupid, so perhaps what is missing is being that knowledgeable person on the job? I think so.

  • Namaste says:

    Really enjoyed this article, specifically the point about timing, where you wrote, “I had a lot more control over the timing than I wanted to admit.” I too came to the same conclusion. I began wondering about timing of manifestations a while ago. I pulled out my list of successful manifestations and checked out the timing of each one. To my surprise, I saw that in all but one case, my desire had manifested within the time framed I’d assumed it would. This caused me to rethink my beliefs about timing and manifestations. Now, if a desire of mine isn’t manifesting when I think it should, I intentionally look for where I’m out of alignment, instead of just assuming the Universe is still working on it etc. Again, great article =)

    • Jeannette says:

      Wow, that’s insightful, Namaste. (That most of your manifestations came when you expected them to.)
      Here’s to all of us being in our proactive power to create what we want when we like it. 🙂

  • Gretchen says:

    Ah, loving the synchronicity of this. Just an hour ago I was listening to a recording about the shifts we can go through as we are awakening (from awareness to ascension in the eight shifts discussed.)
    It was an old set of recordings (if 2007 is ‘old’) and translated into Spanish, so it was doled out phrase by phrase. Oh, but the encouragement there. Marvelous.
    And this post compliments that listening.
    It suddenly occurred to me that my “new year” starts a little earlier than others’, my birthday being two weeks before Christmas, three weeks before New Years. I get a head start on looking toward ‘what’s next’.
    Love this. Thank you.
    [reference for the recordings: and ]

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