LOA Lessons from Brigitte Bardot

Today’s guest post is from regular reader Brigitte, who combines her love for and knowledge of renowned actress Brigitte Bardot with her personal  studies of deliberate creation.  Here’s what our Brigitte found about Bardot’s approach to life:

The 50’s and 60’s French actress Brigitte Bardot was admired by her beauty, but her personality has remained unknown. I’ve been reading about her for years to find her ‘keys to success.’

What I’ve found is a beautiful woman who created herself completely and attracted the life of her dreams, day by day! I’m currently writing a book on it, but here’s a ‘teaser’ on the keys to a successful and happy, totally Law of Attraction friendly legend of Brigitte Bardot (BB)!

1. Amuse yourself with anything, even the quotidian stuff; get amazed daily.

Brigitte Bardot was amused with the little things: anything that glitters or makes funny noises, feathers, crystals, bedroom slippers (really), someone’s foreign accent, her bed when she just made it, words that sound ‘round’ like ‘youpala’ (French for baby walker)…

2. Don’t do anything if it doesn’t feel good. Get over it quickly.
BB never did anything unless she wanted to. When something was completely unbearable, she didn’t just ‘suffer it silently.’

She walked away or refused altogether. After the storm had passed, she forgot everything about it and got happy as normal.

3. Use everything that you find pretty. Dress yourself with what you like, cast aside the trends you dislike.

She ignored the trends. Completely. What she didn’t ignore was her tastes, her favorite colors, anything that caught her eye. The clothes she wore were not in fashion at that time. Same goes for her house decore: she used shells, keys and pastel colors way before others found it ‘fashionable.’ She simply didn’t watch what everyone was doing.

4. Talk with no shame. Say what you are here to say. Tell the stories your way.

Her speech was always nice and polite, but when she found herself being laughed at or threatened in any way, she just spoke her mind. Her way to tell stories was very personal, making everything sound funnier and cuter than it was perceived by the ones who lived it. And, if asked, she always replied with her honest opinion, and let everyone know what she was feeling at that moment.

5. Laugh and smile as much as you can. It doesn’t matter if your giggles sound stupid, if your teeth are not perfect or if nobody is laughing but you.

Because she was constantly amused, she laughed and smiled a lot. When she was a child, she had buck teeth and had to wear braces. When the buck teeth were corrected, she had a gap between her front teeth. She smiled widely and laughed anyway. Sure, her smile is considered today one of the most beautiful … but was it a cute smile, or her way to smile shamelessly that makes us think it is beautiful? The truth is that in most of her photos (even today at 75 years of age) she’s smiling. Her giggles are famous.

6. Find something that you can do perfectly and with little or no effort. Do your thing as often as possible, and use those satisfying moments to create your personality and decide who you want to be.

For Brigitte Bardot, that was ballet. While she was doing her barre exercises as a child, she thought how she wanted to be when she grew up. She spent as much time as she could dancing. The joyful piano melody helped her to get determined: she wanted a life of fun and tenderness.

7. Be naïve. Don’t believe nor doubt everything they say. Concerning your projects, never second-guess yourself.

She believed all the stories they told her, although she’s always had a good intuition which told her when someone was for real or not. But when she decided to start a new project, she never let there be a doubt. She always believed that everything was going to turn out right.

8. Discover. People, objects, words, situations. Read and try to learn more.

Again, she was always amused. And that was because she was always on the look for things to discover. She liked traveling and meeting new people, even if a person was not too nice. She enjoyed reading, not only novels but political essays too! (Right-winged and left-winged.) She just wanted to know what there was out there.

9. Imagine the stuff you like (kissing your lover, winning the first prize, starring in a movie, waking up refreshed). Then behave like these things have already happened.

She spent her free time imagining. Not worrying. She liked to think about what she’d do if she was somewhere else, doing something else. She loved to see herself having a good time, and by visualizing this she was on a good mood for the rest of the day (as if it really happened).

10. Take care of your family. Avoid hot wars. It is okay to feel your emotions, but hold no grudge. Defend yourself, but don’t fight against anyone. If someone treats you truly right, be very affectionate.

She loved her family, but it was too rigid for her sometimes. Of course, there were things in her family that she completely disliked (especially when they threatened her idea of freedom) but she avoided situations of hate or anger. While she could get along with them, she spent her time comfortably, but if she couldn’t, she just kept away to avoid screams or violence, which she detested.

11. Look for tenderness in everything and everyone.
In her words, “I was, I am and I will always be wanting tenderness.” Look for the softest and nicest in others, and expect nothing but being treated tenderly.

12. Seek what you like in others and recreate it in yourself, physically and non-physically speaking.
Brigitte Bardot was naturally brunette. During her childhood, she always found the blondes very beautiful (she dyed her hair blonde and her tress became her signature). She also admired the cooks. Her mother didn’t know how to cook, so she learned herself and because very successful at it. Why live sighing and wishing you were born different? Create yourself. Completely. Out of what you have, sculpt ‘the best you’ you can imagine.

13. Believe that you can earn money whenever you want. Money and good job offers are your choice, not anyone else’s.
Finding a role in a movie was never a concern for her. She trusted. When she wanted to work, the opportunity arose. She considered herself rich when she was 20 years old.

14. Be stubborn about your talent and probability of success.
That was key. She succeed against all odds. She believed in herself first, then everyone else did.
Thank you, Brigitte, for this brilliant guest post!  (Brigitte is a 21 year old University student using the law of attraction to create the life of her dreams, and long time favorite of the Good Vibe community.)

  • July 13, 2010
  • Wow. What an eyeopener. I hadnt given BB much thought or attention up until now.
    I certainly will be on the look out in the future.
    PS my grandmother (born 1880 was a Bridget)

  • Sophie Kaila says:

    As a group celebrating Brigitte Bardot, I was wondering if Proud Chelsea’s upcoming exhibition ‘The Summer Show 2011: 20th Century Icons’ by the industry’s leading photographers would be of interest to you and your readers? The exhibition runs from 14th July until 11th September and marks 15 years of Proud Galleries. We have delved into our extensive archive of exhibitions over the years to exhibit our very greatest photography. We are delighted to present a nostalgic look at the faces and photographers at the heart of our history. Featuring some of the most classic photography of all time, never before seen in one exhibition, the show will include the striking Faye Dunaway the morning after she won her Oscar, candid shots of Blondie, a stunning windswept Brigitte Bardot to name a few.
    To receive the press release which contains further information please contact me directly. If this exhibition is of interest and you think your fan base would enjoy the collection, I would be most grateful if you could include the exhibition information on your webpage to raise awareness of the upcoming show to your readers.
    If you require any further information please do feel free to contact me directly.
    Kind Regards,

  • February says:

    Thank you for this. I love Brigitte Bardot, and thanks to this article I love her even more. 🙂 Not to mention, the “lessons” are inspiring even by themselves.

  • Barbara says:

    Wow, Brigitte! This was fantastic! I never knew that BB had such a beautiful inner beauty (as her outwardly physical beauty was always what we saw in the media). I can feel your excitement about this topic, so thanks for the uplifting vibe! Woo hoo! And may we all be BB happy and successful!

  • Algis says:

    Thank you Jeannette,
    good writing, the tips of Brigitte are actual for everyone (me included) taking his/her life into own hands. I liked this phrase mostly: “Create yourself. Completely. Out of what you have, sculpt ‘the best you’ you can imagine.” Thanks.

  • You know what that reminds me of, Algis? Yesterday someone in the music industry was telling me how Michael Jackson had it written into his contracts that he was to be referred to as “The King of Pop.” He defined defined himself, and taught others how to think of him.
    Very cool!

  • Carol says:

    Beautifully written, Brigitte! It was so inspiring that I’m going to keep a copy of it. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂

  • Madisen says:

    What an AMAZING post! I love this woman BB! Thanks for the new role model! And I too, am going to print this and keep it to remind me that what my impulses are…are right! Sometimes I need a little reminding! Thanks for this Brigette and Jeanette!

  • Julio Blanco says:

    I love your post Brigette and how real it feels. While BB was a “star” (we’re all stars in the Universe!), telling her story the way you did just brings it down to Earth where us spirits having a human experience can really relate. Thank you!

  • Parul says:

    I think I’m going to be channeling BB often now. 🙂
    Just read the post again and it still rings beautiful!!

  • Toni says:

    I think I’ve got myself a new role model! 🙂

  • Nicole says:

    Great article Brigitte! I never knew Bardot was such an amazing person, only heard of her legacy through movies. So awesome to learn more about her life and how she used LOA naturally.

  • Barb says:

    Oh, I *love* this post. Bardot is a very strong, inspiring woman, and this article shows that you CAN actually succeed by doing things you love, when you want to do them, and by just “living” and going with the flow.
    Life’s supposed to be fun, work’s supposed to be fun, and when it’s not, it’s in our ability to change it!
    I’m going to print this article and keep it in my prosperity journal. It’s so smart and so true!

  • Brigitte says:

    Holy God, you’ve made me blush! Thank you all for your wonderful comments, I’m glad you liked this tiny piece of wisdom from another Brigitte (and I was named after her, of course) that never fails to inspire me! 😉

  • Now as I sit here reflecting on the brilliance of everyone I know named Brigitte & Bridget & such, I’m feeling grateful to know Janette here at GVB, and thus feeling some magic for my own name, too. hee hee

  • Harmony Harrison says:

    What a beautiful tribute, from one gorgeous woman to another. I love these “way of being” tips from both Brigittes. The historical Brigitte has such poise, confidence, and wonder. As does the star-on-the-rise Brigitte whose work I’m grateful to read! 🙂

  • All Bridgette’s (and Bridgets, and Brigitte’s, and every other spelling!) are brilliant. 😉
    And no, I was not named after Brigitte but I haven’t minded having a very similar name.
    Nice post Brigitte!

  • Well said, Harmony!
    And I agree, Debra, it is very nice to benefit from someone else sharing their inspiration.

  • Debra says:

    YAY!! A guest post from our very own Brigitte!!! 🙂
    What a keen, cool post, Brigitte. I love the correlations between B. Bardot’s inspired, passionate example in life and deliberate creation.
    Thanks for giving us an insider’s perspective on B. Bardot and how she inspires the Brigitte that you are.
    I have to say, I agree w/BB’s approach to life…works for me…and for you…and for all those who choose it, in JOY! 🙂
    I love the way you shine… Keep it up, Sweet One!!
    XO 🙂

  • Jeannette says:

    Thanks, Parul!
    And MissyB, that’s just what I thought. (Her love for BB comes through loud and clear, and it is contagious!)

  • MissyB says:

    Superbly written Brigitte. Your love for this legend of a lady and LOA oozes from every sentence, and what a beautiful correlation. You want me wanting more of your writing and more of BB.

  • Parul says:

    BEAUTIFUL post, Brigitte/ Jeannette!!

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