LOA Success Secret #4: Don’t Make It Important
This is secret #4 from our Law of Attraction Success Secret series.
You’ve noticed it, too, I’m sure. How the things you don’t care about too much come together easier than the “big deal” desires of life.
It’s why the email from an old friend pops in the day after randomly thinking about them, but the phone hasn’t rung in weeks after interviewing for the dream job.
It’s why we can manifest a free lunch in the blink of an eye, but dropping the extra weight seems next to impossible.
People ask me regularly why the stuff they don’t care about happens so quick, while the things that really matter take forever.
* It’s the difference in the energy. *
When we make it a big deal, it might seem like that would light a fire under Universe to deliver it faster.
That approach might have worked with mom when we were little (which is probably why we default to it), but Universe doesn’t work that way.
That’s because when something really matters to us – when it’s a really big deal in our life, it’s common to have a “charge” on it that isn’t conducive to true vibrational alignment.
Feel it out for yourself … when something is really important it’s not unusual to feel a slight tension or anxiety, right? It’s a stress signal that tells Universe all is not well here, that we’re on a little bit of edge. Which is why it can’t deliver the goods since we’re not lined up for good news. Rather, we’re lined up for tension, anxiety, more stress.
The answer is to find a way to feel easier about it. To lighten up. To relax a little. To treat it like the big deal it ISN’T.
Dropping the “charge” doesn’t mean giving up on the desire; it just means don’t make it a ‘life or death’ matter.
Because if your happiness or satisfaction is conditional on this result, you’re signaling Universe for a delay. You’ve got to get happy/relaxed/peaceful/fulfilled first, then it can send in the goods.
I chill out a big deal desire in a couple of different ways:
by appreciating what’s already going right, and reflecting on all the things I already enjoy about my life. That helps me release the “need” for this next thing to manifest. Life is already REALLY good! This will be icing on the cake, but I don’t have to have it in order to feel satisfied.
Sometimes I just remember that Universe might have an even better plan than I did, so while this thing might seem like a fabulous next step in life, I’m open that there could be something even better. Thus, I don’t feel as attached to my idea.
Another way to replicate that aligned energy is to practice thinking of the big desire like it’s a small one. I remember how I felt about something that happened really easily which helps me conjure up that “no big deal” feeling, and then practice feeling that way about this desire.
Sometimes I just remind myself that everything is easy to Universe. There’s no difference between a huge pile of money and a good song on the radio. A healthy body is just as easy as a smile from a stranger. We’re the ones making some things harder than others. And we can change that.
When we stop making things a big deal, when we remember that it’s all the same and that we don’t need anything to be happy anyway, we become much more powerful manifesters.
There is a way to make something a big deal that doesn’t kink the vibe. That’s when we have strong belief or expectation and little attachment. So it’s not that we have to never have another big dream again – it’s just a matter of making sure the energy is lined up.
Even if it isn’t the desire that we make such a big deal, some of us put pressure on ourselves to prove our deliberate creation skills. And that’s more energy that can kink the alignment, so let’s not do that, either. <wink>
I’d love to hear how you let go of “big deal” anxiety to create stronger alignment to your desire, as well as examples of how something manifested after you stopped caring so much about it …