Looking at "Gone Wrong"
Does it serve us to look for why something went wrong? I suspect some would say it doesn’t, because it keeps us stuck in the vibration of “gone wrong,” but I think there may be occasions when it’s helpful to understand where something came from in order to learn from and/or break loose from it.
I’m thinking of my former LOA coach who, when I asked why she was sick for three days straight, answered, “Don’t know, don’t care, movin’ on.” I was stumped that she would have been a match to severe sickness, and even more stumped that she wouldn’t talk about it.
Then I realized it’s because she didn’t want to vibrate it any more. Duh.
But that approach doesn’t always work for everyone in every situation. And is it possible we miss valuable info from it? I suspect so.
For example, I learned a lot from my temporarily disabled refrigerator and dryer over the last year. I got that info by asking “why?” When something’s amiss in my body, one of my favorite exercises is asking the body part what message it has for me. I’ve gotten FABULOUS life direction from this little 5′ 9″ masterpiece of mine. That info also came from looking into “why?”
Looking at an ended relationship in hindsight gave me lots of good info, I think. Or did it keep me in “ended relationship” vibration? Man, maybe both!!
I just read about Greta’s stolen car in June’s Catalyst Magazine, and I’m sure there’s something to be learned there as well. (May just be that her car took the vacation she was needing herself, which she did indeed award herself shortly thereafter.)
I’m also thinking of a dear friend who had a big presentation scheduled, and allowed himself to get completely sidetracked after experiencing a near miss accident the night before. The near miss shifted his focus so dramatically that he wasn’t able to enjoy his successful presentation, and still wasn’t himself days later. He’s still talking about the accident that didn’t happen, and although I started it – now he’s talking about why he’s talking about it.
So it seems to me there can be helpful information in looking at things “gone wrong,” to a certain extent. We don’t want to dwell in a vibration that represents a “don’t want” longer than is useful. The question them becomes how much is useful?
Maybe it’s possible to look at what happened without getting in the vibration of it. I mean, could I look at my ended relationship without vibrating “ended relationship”? Rather, vibrating “curious about events that transpired”? I think so.
But, I could be wrong. Guaranteed I’ll be paying attention to the vibe next time I’m inspired to spend time analyzing something “gone wrong.”