Making It Real

will.jpgActor and musician Will Smith, in an interview with 60  Minutes, says people told him he needed to be more realistic.  But Will says he doesn’t ever want to be realistic, because the first part of achieving anything is believing it. 

He’s right.  One of the best things we can do for ourselves is loosen our grip on reality and believe in the “impossible.”
But how do we get to big new beliefs when everyone tells us to get real? 
It starts by knowing that we create reality; knowing that we decide what’s true, with our attention to it.  If we can create whatever we want then “impossible” no longer exists.  Anything we desire is within reach at that point.
Okay, that’s a good start.  And then how do we truly embrace a big belief, like being able to swim in financial abundance, or play a leading role on the big screen, or change the world for the better?
I agree with Will again when he says the first step is saying it.  He talked about how Muhammed Ali said “I am the greatest!”  Will says whether you believe it or not, the first step is saying it before there is any possibility of believing it.
Which is where our mantras, affirmations and power phrases come in.
What are you saying to yourself lately?  Many of us reinforce beliefs we’d rather not have, by saying particular things to ourselves over and over.  Things like:

  • This year is going so fast!
  • I am so busy!
  • I am too tired.
  • That’s the story of my life.
  • I never win.
  • There’s never time for me.

Is that what you want to make real?  If not, how about a new phrase that lines up with the reality you’d rather create?  Perhaps:

  • Things always work out for me.
  • I’m the best there is.
  • There is plenty of time for everything.
  • I take great care of myself.
  • I am such a lucky girl!

Years ago I met a sales professional who introduced himself to me as “the best salesperson in the world.”  He said it so matter of factly and with such confidence that I expected there was a list out there that he was at the top of. 
Just this afternoon one of my clients said to me, “I don’t worry.”  She meant it.  Says she gave it up five or six years ago.  I want to own that statement as well as she does. 
I might add a couple others, too: “I always know what to do.”  “I’m in the right place at the right time.”  “The Universe treats me like gold.”
We can follow Ali’s example.  We start saying it, and pretty soon we’ve attracted some sort of evidence of it, which makes it even easier to continue saying, which attracts more proof, and pretty soon – we’ve got a brand new full-fledged belief on our hands.
I’m a big fan of using the written word to create reality, but as you can tell from recent topics here, the spoken word has my attention lately.  I intend that you’re as inspired as I am to get conscious to what we’re saying and switch it up when we see room for improvement.  If you care to share, I’d love to hear what affirmations you use that you’re ready to give up, and what you’re replacing them with!

  • February 21, 2008
  • Oooh, Roger, I’m taking #7 as one to use myself! Great list here. And as you think, so shall it be!
    Happy creating, my handsome, charming, sexy, lucky, abundant, loving, funny, excellent friend! 🙂

  • Roger says:

    This post inspired me to make my own affirmations. Some of them I borrowed from here and adjusted to my own needs. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far and feels good for me:
    I’m so handsome and charming and sexy that getting women happens naturally
    Abundance flows to me easily and naturally
    I love and accept myself unconditionally
    I am funny and charming and everyone loves me
    I excel at everything I do and everything I start
    Everything always works out for the best for me
    I take excellent care of myself
    I am a very lucky man
    I’m the best driver in the universe
    I always feel what I need to do at any given moment
    I’m always at the right place at the right time
    The universe is a friendly place full of love
    It feels good to say these 🙂

  • So nice to have the best personal trainer in San Diego reading and posting here, Charlie!! Thanks for joining us!
    I got goose bumps reading your post. It IS just like that! Daring to say it! And then being able to see how it’s already true in many many ways …
    You rock, Charlie!! I have to tell you something, my friend. I have LONG been thinking what an extremely powerful combination a professional trainer who knew/practiced LOA would be. And here you are!! One day, might you be the best personal trainer in Salt Lake?! Or maybe offer remote sessions?! I’m getting excited at that thought!
    In the meantime, friend, do us a favor and reply back with a link to where others can find you. A personal trainer who studies LOA?! You are worth your weight in gold!! Not to mention the best in all of San Diego.
    (Next post, maybe you can be the best in all of California? That would be a fun one, huh?)

  • Charlie says:

    I am replacing
    “I am just starting out and don’t really know what I’m doing”
    “I am the best personal trainer in San Diego!”
    Even though that is a bold and lofty statement, in the minute or so since I typed it, I have come up with lots of supporting evidence!
    Here is some of it:
    my training method is super effective and fun
    my attitude is positive, encouraging, and friendly
    my website is easy-to-use and attractive
    I’m the only trainer in SD who lets you book online
    I have gotten great feedback from some big trainers
    all of my clients love my services
    Thanks for encouraging me to think this way!

  • That’s a good one, Sharne! I can feel how empowering that thought would be. Thanks for sharing it here!
    I have to admit, I like how that sentence – for me – WOULD dismiss someone else’s thoughts that I might not particularly appreciate. Because certainly they could easily see the truth of it (so they couldn’t argue with me when I said it), and I know, even if they don’t, that the somewhere I’m going is a good place.
    Yeah, I like that. I may use it!
    Thanks, Sharne!!

  • Sharne Warren says:

    When things don’t exactly seem to be going where I want or someone is talking to me in the same way my favourite attitude and saying is that “everything leads me somewhere”, and the feeling I have is it is somewhere I may be even more excited about.
    The statement isn’t dismissing my momentary disappointment and is leading me into a ‘something better’ attitude. It’s like a bridging moment.

  • Yay, Leslie!!!! Woo hoo!!!! That’s so great that you shared that win here!
    “Ever flowing, growing, and shaping.” I like that. That might be MY new affirmation this year while I do “best shape ever.” Very cool!
    Thanks for posting your results!!! And keep up the fun “work.” 🙂

  • Kirsten, I’ve had at least a dozen people swear by that last affirmation you listed. Louise Hay, right?
    Rick, your freakin idiots phrase reminds me of when my beau and I are having a frustrating moment with each other, I’ll top off the dialogue with a big hearty “I LOOOOOOVE you!” and a good giggle. It’s SUCH a mood-lightener! I didn’t think of that as an affirmation, but it TOTALLY is designed to reconnect me to the love I have for this occasionally frustrating man.
    Which, I have learned, when I experience him as such I’m usually projecting. But that’s okay, I love me, too. 🙂

  • Leslie says:

    I have a sucess story, woo hoo. I have been focusing on iniating more flow with money in my life – so my affirmation was It is safe to let go of this problem ie, poor income, lack of right livelihood, not deserving, etc.
    So I have been going to a special exercise class, a bit mediative, a bit yoga and very personal. I had a break through and an awareness last class that I could be more fluid in my body, that I could have more flow, that I didn’t have to accept the falseness of carved in concrete. That my body is ever flowing, growing and shaping.
    I felt the flow vibe.
    Love Leslie

  • Rick says:

    I’m replacing
    “It’s too late now” with “There’s lots of time”.
    ” I ALWAYS do that” or “I HATE when I do that” with “I LOVE when I do that”.
    “Freakin’ Idiot(s)” or any other the hundreds of similar phrases with “Thank you for blessing me with this clue or lesson”.
    Thanks for the opportunity to reinforce these Jeanette!

  • Kirsten says:

    Affirmations I get jiggy with (*groan* I have a punning habit):
    “It is easy for me to make positive changes.”
    “I now create a life filled with rewards.”
    “All is well in my world.”
    Many affirmations I use I’ve adapted from two classic books, Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain and You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay.

  • Young Bucks, huh, John? I hadn’t heard of it. Sounds like it should be required reading for all new parents. Thanks for passing it along. I like the idea of applying that unconditional support and encouragement to oneself.
    Thanks for posting!!

  • Wow, Leslie! “It is safe to create miracles” and “I am ready now” are FABULOUS!!! Thanks for the tapping tips, too. I’ve never done that before, but I can sure see how it would be effective.
    Can’t wait to see what you do after working with these! woo hoo!!

  • Ah yeah – that WAS a great show, Zoe! Thanks for the reminder!

  • Peregrine John says:

    Will Smith always seems to me to be enormously positive. Now I know why! Liked him a lot before; and even more now.
    Yesterday, having heard about it from several disparate sources, I picked up Young Bucks. I had suspicions about it, and was very happy that they turned out to be true! It’s one of those books that can shift your world view, even if you have no kids of your own. The very beginning pages – and it is a very fast read, let me tell you – have mostly to do with preparing yourself to mentor a child in the ways of financial independence and entrepreneurialism. I immediately thought of both Jeannette and Robert Kiyosaki, because the key to the whole thing is not your own business-building history, which most of us don’t have, but rather a shift away from “I can’t” sorts of myths and mindsets. If you can stop yourself from stopping a child’s natural abilities, instead encouraging them and guiding them in the ways that your experience is useful for, then they can fulfill their dreams.
    I figure I can apply that to myself, as well.

  • Leslie says:

    I have been working on my flight and fight response which has been somewhat jammed on me for the past few years. It is challenging to iniate change when you are stuck in survival mode, so I have been working on being kind to my body and using affirmations to affirm that it is safe for change.
    Here are the affirmations:
    “It is safe to get over this problem.”
    “I am okay no matter what happens.”
    “Everyone is okay no matter what happens.”
    “I really want to get over this problem”.
    “I am ready now.”
    And actually I have learnt this from Carol Tuttle who teaches tapping that goes with this. You tap from the front of your temple around to the back of your ears, as you say the first phrase. The reason being this is the flight and fight meridian (energy flow) and it is probably jammed (haha) and so tapping in the opposite direction of the flow will hopefully unjam it.
    The second motion is to smooth over your ears as you say the okay phrases. wow that really calms me down.
    The last two statements you tap the front of your body at the base of your collar bone (K27 points).
    The idea is that you might want and know you need to change but your body could be bucking the tide and holding you back locked in survival mode. And I don’t know about you but as soon as I feel safe, I am ready to accomplish miracles.
    There you go, ” It is safe to create miracles.”
    Love Leslie

  • Zoe Routh says:

    Wil Smith is a great actor. I saw him recently in the Pursuit of Happyness – awesome movie for all conscious creators. True story about a man and his son an how he uses the power of focus and intention and acting as if to go from hopeless to multi-millionaire. Want to change your money vibe? Check out this movie!
    Sounds like a Hollywood movie – the impossible made real 🙂

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