Making Peace When It Sucks
- A cheating spouse leaving with all the money.
- An ungrateful boss demanding you do more with less, on a job you don’t even like.
- A deadly diagnosis from the doctor.
The worse it is the harder it is to be okay with.
And yet, deliberate creators know that some how some way that’s exactly what we’re well served to do – find a way to relax about it. To drop the resistance. To get okay with things.
Because the more we don’t want it and the more we push against it, the more we empower the very thing we don’t want.
Kind of a screwy deal, huh?
But it’s how the system is set up – we get back whatever we put out. Wherever our focus is, that’s what comes to life.
Which is why fear, anger, judgment and resentment are powerful magnets to attract what we’d rather have nothing to do with.
The challenge is how to break the negative bond and set ourselves up for happier endings …
The good news is we all have happy endings in store no matter what we do or don’t practice here. Some folks who have traversed the path ahead have returned to tell us the ultimate ending is a sweet experience indeed.
But those who’d like to find their way to peace and joy right here and now will want to learn how to make peace with the things that don’t seem very lovable.
That’s a hard thing to do when we’ve been trained to believe that we get rid of something by fighting it. It’s natural to worry that giving up that battle will leave us vulnerable to the very thing we don’t want. Turns out, it’s the opposite.
Back in my corporate days, I didn’t want to continue the ‘inexplicable’ weight gain my body was experiencing. But everything I did (watching what I ate, working out more) just put on the pounds. It wasn’t until I gave up all the efforts to change it and instead learn to love my body as is that the weight started to ‘inexplicably’ drop.
Making peace just means finding a way to feel better with what is. And we’ve got to lead the way – not wait for things to change so then we can feel better.
Because that routine doesn’t work.
We get what we vibrate.
Whether you’re dealing with a broken heart, a diseased body, an exhausted bank account, or a dream that seems like it won’t come true, it’s worth processing the feelings involved and making your way to peace. Abraham tells us that the way to manifest something is not to care about it too much. Attachment to a certain outcome is a pretty good way to guarantee we won’t get it.
Your journey to vibrational improvement may look downright unpeaceful at times, but you can trust your guidance to lead you there. Even if it leads you through swear words and tears and who knows what else – keep reaching for what feels better.
And remember: it is a process. Don’t beat yourself up for not being there already (if you’re not). Get okay with whatever you’re feeling now, and you’ll do just fine.
This process of feeling better actually happens quite naturally when we allow the emotions to move on through.
You’ll eventually find your way to letting go of the fight and to getting right with yourself. And that is a sweet spot to live.