Manifester’s Path to Perfect Solutions

what to do when you can't decideIt’s close, but not quite?  Can’t decide whether to stay or go?

I’ve written before about how to handle indecision, but here’s another piece of law of attraction advice on the subject.

When you don’t know whether to say yes or take a pass, think about what benefit(s) you’re wanting from this experience or decision, and then get your attention on THAT.

So it goes like this:

1. Focus on the heart and the essence of what you want, and then …
2. Let go of trying to figure it out or decide.

With your attention squarely on the heart of what you want (not distracted by aspects or features that aren’t quite right), Universe will lay out your best path to it.

Maybe it will be this thing (or person) you were looking at; maybe it’ll be something else altogether.  Something that’s an even better fit.

  • It could be a training program you’ve got your eye on, but you don’t want to travel across the country for it.
  • Or maybe it’s a house that’s perfect except for the asking price.
  • Or maybe a new client that would be nice to have, except the project isn’t exactly your cup of tea.
  • Or an employee that fits most of the requirements, but is missing a key one.

When you’re faced with a “close but not quite” situation, remember to get your attention on the heart of what you want, then relax and let Universe connect the dots to it.

It’s easy to get sidelined by focusing on the misaligned aspects of what’s in front of us, but when what you’re looking at isn’t exactly what you want, it’s time to redirect your attention in a way that lets Universe make it perfect.

Because we’re deliberate creators. We don’t have to compromise.

In fact, sometimes I put together a list of my favorite options from each alternative, then turn that list over to Universe to manifest in one solution.  It works!

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Having said that, it’s worth quoting Abraham when they suggested to a guy who couldn’t decide whether he should take on a day job or stick to his plan to be self employed as an artist.  Abe said:

you can always hold out for something better, because better is always coming.  But we don’t know why you wouldn’t choose whatever is more enjoyable along the way.

What this guy wanted was to be connected to fun-loving, vibrant people, working on exciting projects that allowed him to express his creativity.

Abraham suggested that his day job could be exactly that.  Taking it wouldn’t mean he wouldn’t eventually be living out the vision he had for his ultimate success, but that it could be a nice stepping stone along the way to it.

Food for thought if you’re having trouble deciding whether to plug in or pass.

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And if that doesn’t help, or you have to make a decision in this red hot spanking moment, try this tip I picked up from Boardwalk Empire the other night:
“Flip a coin, when it’s in the air you’ll know what side you’re hoping for.”
Easy peasy, huh?

  • January 6, 2012
  • Ruby Gangadharan from offers excellent decision making tips here:
    here’s an excerpt:
    These are my top tips when making a tough decision (or any choice for that matter!)
    1) Get Coached:
    Many folks oversee this crucial element at a time when we could use an unbiased perspective. Find a Coach that you trust and whose values you admire. A coach can provide an environment where you can discuss openly your true feelings, without judgement. You don’t have to prove anything and your coach will be your biggest champion.
    2) Keep others out of the equation:
    ‘What will they say?’, ‘How will they feel?’, ‘What will they think of me?’. This is a trap you don’t want to fall into. Keep others opinions out for the time being. People can get stuck doing things they don’t want to because that is what everyone expects them to do. Not us!
    3) Align your decisions with your Core values:
    Your decisions cannot be outside of your core values. It won’t work for long. Whatever you choose they have to stay aligned with your personal values. If you don’t know your core values, it’s worth doing an exercise and figuring out what yours are.
    4) Commit to your happiness:
    Make a promise to yourself that you will always stay in situations that make your happy. And keep that promise and see yourself flourish in the decisions you make.
    5) Be Flexible, things change:
    Everything we know is energy and energy needs to be in motion. Your decisions are not your life; they are what give you life experiences. If you aren’t happy with your decisions, Change it.
    6) Don’t be too hard on yourself:
    When you do change your mind, it doesn’t make you a failure. We all try and plan the road we intend to take but sometimes there are new layouts, twists and turns. Give yourself a break, will you?
    7) Choose the 2nd best option:
    Courage comes in all forms. We hope we could see everything in black and white but sometimes we aren’t ready to see. And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to choose the second best option. And that’s OK!

  • Jacqueline F says:

    Hi! Just came upon your blog looking for Law of Attraction blogs. I love this post. I’m going to bookmark it from my blog if that’s fine. Your site seems to have a lot of posts I’d love to read more into. I’m always interested in LOA techniques on what’s worked and what hasn’t worked for people!

  • Baker says:

    This is great. Although many people find it difficult to simply tune into heart space for these decisions, and let it go you provide quality info on why this is key to making the best decisions for ones self. Excellent post!

  • helen says:

    I guess the old saying “when in doubt….don’t” doesn’t only apply to the situation of accepting a marriage proposal 🙂

  • Mara Enid says:

    I love the flip-a-coin example. It’s similar to a story I heard from a coach who was talking to a client who was trying to decide whether to move to California to be with her boyfriend. The client kept going back and forth and then finally the coach said, “You shouldn’t go.” And the client said,”You really think so?” and started justifying why she should go. The coach simply said, “I don’t care which choice you made. But you just showed which choice you really want.”

  • Ming says:

    Ha! Didn’t I just write you to help me on making a decision?
    Easy peasy 🙂 Just going with the flow.. I like that, there’s always something better coming along!!

  • Yay for simple, huh, Katy & Kim?
    I hope I’m attributing that tip correctly … I’m pretty sure it was from a guy on Boardwalk Empire.

  • Kim Falconer says:

    “Flip a coin, when it’s in the air you’ll know what side you’re hoping for.”
    Easy peasy, huh?

    I love that, Jeannette! It’s like we have to put ourselves in a ‘do or die’ situation to know our own hearts.
    I love that about people! I love that about me!
    Thank you for another fabulous post!

  • Katy says:

    Having been in recent ‘decision’ type situations…I can say that this concept does help immensely. And I love the ‘flip the coin’ example…lol how true and how funny to know something so simple can help us to really tune in to our real feelings on just about anything!

  • Annette, you are such a powerful manifester!
    In fact, you can give Universe even more room to play by focusing on what it is about Florida that you want – it might know how to bring that to Phoenix (closer to a sweetie? better weather? more interesting diversity?), or it might know an even better place to put you.
    I’m gonna take that excellent advice myself on a particular intention I have for myself. lol

  • Annette says:

    I have been wanting:
    *The Guide position (I got it!)
    *A place of my own (I got it)
    *To move to Florida! – I haven’t got it! WHY? Because I keep tossing the coin. Move up & up at the Phx Zoo v. move to Florida.
    Yes No
    Bottom line?
    I want to be doing what I am doing here in Phoenix, but in Florida!!
    Enjoy what I am doing now,be the Best Guide I an BE and aim the happy energy SouthEast.
    I know where, I know what.
    Let go. Universe knows How.

  • Shibani, thank you for taking the time to say so!
    It means the world to me to hear that.
    Much appreciated! 🙂

  • shibani says:

    i love this !
    reading ur blog always cheers me up !, ALWAYS !

  • Ooh, Leigha! Great tip! Sounds like something Tony Robbins might suggest – or Abigail Steidley.
    Thank you for sharing that!

  • Leigha says:

    I love it…yes..”relaxing” and “trusting”…I find that when I physically lean back this is much easier, just a tip I’ve picked up along the way 🙂

  • Right, Nancy – I think of the “deliberate” part as getting intentional with the focus. Just finding a better feeling thought puts the “deliberate” in deliberate creator.
    PS – love the magic 8 ball!

  • …and when a coin isn’t handy, this option works pretty good, too:
    Many blessings,

  • Interesting suggestions, Jeannette. I am realizing for perhaps the first time that the term “Deliberate Creators” implies some kind of physical (deliberate) ACTION…when really, more often than not the most effective action is *letting go*, *trusting*, and *relaxing*. 😉
    Many blessings,

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