Measurements That Matter
Deliberate creators know the “secret” is all about feeling good.
When we find ways to feel good, we create the vibrational alignment that ushers in the good stuff we’ve been wanting.
The challenge we sometimes face when it comes to feeling good is taking a measurement of reality.
Like balancing the checkbook. Or stepping on the scale. Or listening to voice mails for the message we’ve been waiting for.
Sometimes that measurement – or score – supports our feel good vibe; often it doesn’t.
So what’s a deliberate creator to do? Never again consult something that might jeopardize our fantasy of things getting better?
(I personally don’t think that’s a bad idea!)
But Abraham’s advice is simply not to take score too soon.
Earlier this week someone asked what to do when she’s been feeling good consistently and then steps on the scale to find that nothing has changed.
I’d reminded her the importance of self-love and self-appreciation for weight loss, and asked whether she would weigh someone she loved; whether her feelings about them would be dependent on what the scale reported. Which was a ridiculous thought – of course we don’t condition our love on our sweetheart’s weight. Why then would it be any different for us?
What should she be measuring then? she wanted to know. The inches with a tape measure? Or the fit of old clothes?
No, none of that!
“If you have to measure something, measure how you feel.”
Because that’s all that matters.
When the goal is simply to feel good, taking score loses importance. But if you insist on marking progress (which many say since we get what we focus on, measuring progress is a good idea), measure what really matters: your vibration.
If I felt better marking progress by measuring the vibe, I’d do it with an eye toward feeling better.
So if I’m feeling like 7 on the ten point scale, what would take me to 7.5? More comfortable clothes? If that one “ugh” appointment wasn’t on the books? If it was movie night?
Incorporate your answers into your day.
Getting caught up in “what is” is easy to do, so learning the habit of focusing on what you’re creating rather than what you’ve already created is super helpful.
Having said that, there are times when I do take stock. I look at the big money picture a couple times a year; I occasionally look up GVU and blog stats for fun. But only if it is for fun, not out of need or worry.
There are two conditions I require be present before taking score:
- I’m feeling pretty freakin’ good (aka In The Vortex, to you Abers) and
- I have good reason to believe I’ll like what I see.
Which is why I don’t know what I weigh right now but do know my calves are looking fabulous; I’m not sure how the stocks have done but know the gold account is up 30%; I don’t know how many unread emails I have, but know there’s one from Frank Butterfield suggesting a joint venture with Communion of Light that really lights me up. I have no idea how many times I’ve been broken up with, but I remember the really nice first kisses.
Focusing on what we know feels good sets us up for success.
And focusing on what matters keeps us on good track.
The contrast will work its way in whenever it does, and learning to manage it by taking the dip then keeping an eye towards what does feel good is powerful deliberate creation.
My advice? Pay attention to what you’re measuring and whether it’s serving your vibe or not. The “How do I feel right now?” and “What would feel even better?” questions serve well. And …
If it’s a score you absolutely have to take, find a way to feel good (or at least better) about it beforehand.
- Intend you’ll like what you see
- Think of the reasons to believe it’ll be good news, and above all
- Remind yourself that how you feel isn’t dependent on what it says.
When you get conscious about managing your energy, you can’t help but make good progress toward your dreams come true.