May 26, 2008

Memorial Day & LOA

Recently I wrote a piece on Memorial Day for my local Catalyst Magazine.  It’s LOA related, so I thought I’d share a condensed version with you here:

For over a hundred years Memorial Day is marked as an occasion to look back and honor soldiers who died in service to our country.  Although not everyone celebrates the day in remembrance of those who have passed, the holiday is a good opportunity to practice with how we think of the past.

Since our thoughts are things that create our reality, just thinking of the past is also an act of creation.

Sound crazy?  Our thoughts really have the power to change what’s already happened?

I have a tough enough time convincing people they can even create their future, let alone their past.  But listen to what researchers are finding:

With latest science supporting what many spiritual traditions and new age gurus have already said, it’s well on its way to being common knowledge that thoughts are things with the ability to alter the world around us.

From science conducted in Einstein’s day to leading edge physicists working with quantum “entanglements” – not to mention the proven healing effects of prayer – we are already learning eyebrow raising facts from our scientists about the power of thoughts to shift our reality.

So, if thoughts are so powerful, what does that mean for thoughts we have of the past? It’s an intriguing question that’s captured the attention of leading edge researchers.

In the year 2000 mathematics professor Leonard Leibovici conducted a study on the effects of remote, retroactive intercessory prayer (published in the British Medical Journal December 2001). The results showed that patients with a hospital stay between 1990 and 1996 who were prayed for in the year 2000 had significantly shorter durations of fever and hospital stay, and, in general, got better faster than the control group.

Come again?

These patients were prayed for several years AFTER they’d already left the hospital, and yet it affected their recovery in duration and quality while they were admitted?

That’s what the science says.

This was neither the first, nor the last, research to violate our basic assumptions that cause precedes effect. A sizeable body of scientific evidence defies our beliefs about causation.

In addition, Washington University researchers recently used functional magnetic resonance imaging to determine that identical areas of the brain are activated whether participants are recalling or imagining. This and similar studies lead many to conclude this means the brain can’t tell the difference between recollection of the past and imagining of the future. Which means, as succinctly summed up by author Lynne McTaggart, “time doesn’t exist in the brain.”

So if time doesn’t exist in the brain, and we hear from metaphysical teachers as well that time is an illusion, is it possible we are limiting ourselves by thinking the past is something unchangeable?

When physicist Helmut Schmidt’s study of retrocausation (20,000 trials were carried out over a four year period) revealed participants’ abilities to affect pre-recorded tapes of right vs. left ear clicks, Schmidt concluded it wasn’t so much that participants were changing the past, as they were “reaching back in time” to influence the past to unfold as it did.

Similar studies have been conducted in various manners to show participants have the ability to alter results after the fact.

What does this mean for us?

Who knows for sure, but it seems worth checking out.

In her Living the Field Community Blog, Lynne McTaggart suggests “imagination could be used to ‘fix’ past events that are still unsettling to you.”

One of my more open-minded clients applied this possibility to her struggling relationship with her mother.  (Those of you in my last group class know who this open-minded client is!)  They had experienced a falling out several years ago, since which time they had virtually no interaction.

After hearing about the illusion of time and our ability to affect the past, my client changed her recollection of the argument with her mother. In her present day mind, she downplayed the big blow up that led to the cutting of ties, thinking of it as a minor argument rather than a relationship-ending brawl. She imagined both she and her mother got over it and that there were no hard feelings.

She held this thought a couple of times for a few days and then forgot about it, which was easy to do since they were no longer talking or seeing each other.

Within two weeks she received a care package from her mother, with a handwritten card as if all was well between them.  No big apologies or reflections on what had gone wrong in the past, just a friendly note wishing her daughter well.

A week later they had the unusual circumstance of being on the phone together, at which time a friendly conversation ensued – again, as if nothing negative had transpired in the past.

(Anyone want to join me in re-thinking our 2004 presidential election results?  lol)

Regardless of whether or not it’s possible to alter our past by holding new thoughts of it, there is one undeniable benefit to changing one’s perception of the past:

When we hold a thought that doesn’t feel good, it not only affects our physical well being, but as many would argue (myself included) it also affects what you attract in your future.  So finding a way to think of a negative past in a way that feels better is the least we can do for ourselves.  Just changing the story internally, even if nothing shifted in “real life,” allows us to flow better-feeling emotions  which improves our physical well being as well as our point of attraction for future unfoldings.

Author and life coach Martha Beck offers a powerful technique for shifting the vibe when we’re feeling stuck in an old, ugly story.

To let go of a thought pattern about a past event that’s not serving you, try retelling a backward version of the story using these steps:

1) Identify one of your favorite things in life: a relationship, situation, or object without which your world would feel much less rich.
2) Recall a positive turn of events in your life that enabled you to have this Favorite Thing.
3) Now go back a step further in your life history and describe something ELSE that happened to make THAT event possible.
4) Keep following this chain of life events backwards until you can think of one piece of “bad luck” or a “bad event” that helped your Favorite Thing come into your life.

As Martha says, “what differs significantly between the forward looking story and retelling the backward version is the effect it has on you as the Storyteller. Viewing life this way can literally transmute your past – even the worst of it – into the path of your best destiny.”

Those who understand the importance of feelings realize the wisdom in finding a better-feeling perspective on our “negative” histories.

So this Memorial Day, just for fun, if there’s something in your past you’d like to experience differently, practice seeing that past event through rose-colored glasses. Maybe it’ll change the world, maybe not.  Either way it feels better.  And that’s reason enough, right?

  • And Paulette, look at you, too! lol
    You two have made my night! Thank you for your posts here! I’m sleeping with a smile as I think of you and your new powers!!

  • I don’t know what I like more about this, Kim – your experience or your sharing of it!
    It means SO much for us to share these things with each other, because it helps the rest of us see what’s possible and also plants a strong seed of belief.
    Thank you!
    Your experience is amazing AND not surprising in the least. lol Don’t you just love this life?? ha ha!
    Good on you, girlfriend!

  • Paulette says:

    I love it!!!
    Mine was trying the technique, and the morning after, I received a packagae in the mail. It was a copy of a magazine which contained an article that I had submitted (did not make the cut) over a year ago!! You bet that I am going to make this a staple in my “bag of valuable tools!”

  • Kim Falconer says:

    This is a powerful post!
    You won’t believe what happened when I thought about my past in a different way!
    ohhhhh you WILL believe but it’s such a vivid example.
    I have a girl friend I’ve known for 20 years–been through all the divorce and bringing up kids – single mum thing together. A great friendship until we had a falling out in 2001. We haven’t spoken nor seen each other in years. Grudge city, on both sides!
    Then I read your blog.
    I felt inspired to do one sweeping re-write of my past ‘failed’ relationship, men, kids, friends, cats….I didn’t really want to think of them individually so I just got a cloth and wiped the chalkboard clean. I said, “everyone I’ve ever loved adores me, and I them. My relationships have always been golden. I so love that about my life!”
    I felt that as real for about thirty seconds, no ifs, ands or buts!!
    That was Thursday at 8:05 am.
    In the afternoon, five hours later, I got a phone call from my estranged girl friend! We chatted and laughed and giggled and shared a freight train of news. It was like there never was a falling out.
    Because there wasn’t.
    Neither of us mentioned the past.
    It was truly as if it had never gone bad.
    What do you think of that? 30 seconds of thought changed years of animosity. Again, why don’t they teach this in primary school?
    Thank you, Jeannette.
    You’re a golden ray of light in the world!

  • Martha, you’re a hoot!!

    I have so much fun re-reading your post that I won’t be surprised when it manifests in my own life! lol

  • Mags, that’s awesome.
    For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been productive and creative and successful.
    And legen-wait for it-dary!

  • Paulette says:

    I love it and I can’t wait to try it out on “You know what?!!!!”

  • Thanks for reading, Benjamin. I’m glad you’re connecting easily with material that inspires you!
    And Leslie, sometimes that taking responsibility DOES feel like firewalking, huh? lol
    Yet it’s so powerful and liberating to assume responsibility for our feelings. Well, wait – I’ve never really firewalked – but I imagine it might be just like that: powerful and liberating.
    Huh. You’re on to something here!

  • Oooh, Mags!! That’s brilliant! I am SO using it!!
    Thanks for sharing it with us!
    I’m putting it to work TODAY.

  • leslie Richter says:

    I think that when I found you on the internet Jeannette I was blue and searching for something to feel good about myself and the life I had created for myself.
    On a small island buying a business is dicey and I bought the local flower store hoping I could make money instead of just getting by with my healing work.
    And going back more I was discontent with my relationship and living on a small island and was hoping buying a business would put a band-age on my feelings.
    What I am most proud about with this journey is that I grew up and became accountable for my actions, feelings and thoughts.
    I must have said in a previous life I will walk through fire to find Jeannette because that is what I did. Let’s face it, when we walk backwards like this we can’t help but see it was all so worth it because we are looking at what we have now.
    What’s a little firewalking in the bigger scheme of things.
    Love Leslie

  • Benjamin,Espada says:


  • Benjamin,Espada says:


  • Excellent article, Jeannette – very interesting!
    Recently, someone on one of the forums that I belong to suggested wording affirmations in the form: “For as long as I can remember, I’ve always… (had a good relationship with my mother/been wealthy/been confident…)”. I’ve tried it a couple of times, and it certainly makes a difference!

  • You’re welcome, Pedro. Thanks for reading, and for posting!

  • Pedro Avalos says:

    It seems to me, after reading your article, that seeing that past events through rose-colored glasses is a good practice and it does change the past event in the sense that it stops being a cause to attract things like the past event and you start attracting a better future.
    Thanks for your teachings, Jeannette.

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