The Single Most Underrated Manifesting Method
After coaching lots of conscious creators over the years, as well as taking notes from my own practice, you know what I’ve noticed about our manifesting process?
We like specific steps or formulas.
We like clear, detailed instruction. Preferably in three precise steps.
The most frequent request from LOA Recon podcast listeners is “more manifesting methods.”
Because there’s a part of us that thinks there’s a mystery or secret to this magic, and if we just followed the right manifesting formula or process or technique or method – we’d be golden.
Plus there’s an ingrained habit or belief that we have to work for what we want, or that it should be hard work to get there. That we have to pay our dues in order to expect something good.
That’s why we like pray rain journaling (a page a day until you fill the whole journal), and visualizing (15 focused minutes a day – don’t skip!), and powerful affirmations (lots of repetitions out loud), and positive aspect lists, and 68 second vibration activations, and EFT for navigating challenging emotions, etc.
Look, I’m a fan of these processes, too! I do at least one every day. Happily!
And they work. I am proof.
When I started a coaching business I read perfect client lists day and night and made pray rain journal entries about what great work we were doing together. I set my environment up to look like it was happening, and I affirmed the hell out of what a brilliant coach I was …
I did every process or technique I could think to do. Because this one mattered and I didn’t want to screw it up.
And that’s what a lot of people hear when they ask how I created that dream come true.
The lists, the repeated thoughts, the acting as if – they scribble notes so they can follow my same proven process.
But here’s the thing …
I also went on a lot of dog walks up the canyon.
And lunch dates with dad. And rollerblading with friends.
I knew that feeling good now was key to success. Not waiting for the success to roll in so I could relax and enjoy. But to be better aligned by relaxing and enjoying now.
A while back an interviewer asked about my “secret weapon” for success.
The obvious answer is leveraging the law of attraction, but hand in hand with that is foster kittens.
And movie dates.
And Sunday brunch with the aunts.
And browsing the bookstores for nothing in particular.
And anything else that’s my idea of a good time.
Because feeling good now signals Universe that you got what you wanted, and it strives to deliver more of what you want.
Remember when Abigail Steidley laid down for five days and all her things came together? She relaxed her way into alignment!
A lot of us already know this, and yet still have trouble practicing it.
Is it our Puritan work ethic heritage? Our discomfort that others will think we don’t deserve it if we haven’t struggled our way there?
Whatever it is, it doesn’t help us get where we want to be.
If I had to say what my secret weapon was, it’s that I know to prioritize a good time.
(And as a rising Capricorn, that has not been my nature. I used sticky notes to remind myself to have fun, because I have it in me to overwork. Fun comes more naturally now.)
- I know the aligning value of watching a good movie with a good friend.
- I know how important it is to read a book for fun.
- I know that dog walks are essential to my success.
- I know that making sure to look up at the stars and turn on the music and eat the cupcakes and hold a lover’s hand and cultivate a new friendship and laugh at dog videos online or whatever else my idea of a good time is – I know that’s smart manifesting.
That’s a powerful alignment practice.
So let’s remember that it doesn’t always have to be finding a new manifesting technique or learning someone’s secret LOA formula – it really can be as simple as discovering our own answer to the question, “What would be fun next?”