My Best Successes Came from Crap

My Best Success Came from CrapAnyone who’s heard one of my interviews or read Adventures in Manifesting knows my best successes came from crap.

Meaning, it was very high contrast that inspired the biggest wins of my life:

  • threatening to be fired led to a miraculous new client dropping right in my lap
  • a nervous breakdown in the backyard led to a life-saving turnaround with foster dog adoptions
  • pressures of the corporate world and huge financial fears led to a swiftly thriving coaching practice
  • the worst breakup ever led to relationship bliss and happiness like never before.

I’m not such a fan of huge contrast now that I know better how to manage it, but it doesn’t change how valuable it is for creating really great stuff that comes next.

That is, when we know how to work it.

In each of my favorite success stories, the key to benefiting from all that contrast was an effective redirection of attention. That is a crucial element.

But none of those big wins could have happened as fabulously without the high contrast.

I share this because it’s really easy for some creators to think that things “gone wrong” in life are a sign of failure or doom – but it couldn’t be more opposite.

The worse it is now, the better it gets next. That is, when you manage your focus (i.e. vibration).

It’s one reason I get so excited when a new client shows up with something really awful on their plate. Oh, the places they’ll go – when they learn how to use it!

That’s what this entire blog is devoted to – inspiring fellow creators to get crystal clear and conscious about redirecting our all-powerful attention. When we know how to do that, nothing can stop us from creating whatever we dare imagine!

It’s worth remembering next time it seems like you’re dealing with a lot of “crap” on your plate. The unwanted stuff is a sign of good things coming!

Because that undesirable stuff works to your highest benefit – when you practice vibration management.

So if you’ve had a lot of contrast in your world lately, that’s a good sign that things are about to get very, very good.

  • April 2, 2013
  • Laura, I am in LOVE with your story!! I was literally laughing out loud with delight and joy in that last paragraph.
    You ROCK!!
    Thank you for the delicious example of contrast leading to good. I’m so happy for what’s unfolding for you!!

  • Laura says:

    This is kind of a novel, but I felt compelled to share:
    I’ve been practicing appreciating contrast and finding reasons to be grateful within contrast, unconsciously for a while, and very consciously for about a year. Truly wonderful things have happened this year, but just this week I’ve had the complete MAJOR CONTRAST to MAJOR ALIGNMENT turnaround.
    I recently moved to a new city to pursue my dream career in a very competitive creative field. I had a lot of experience and clout in my home city, but of course I had to start almost at the bottom when I got here. A few years ago this would have seemed so unfair, but I’ve made a point of being grateful for the opportunity to meet new people, to brush up on my most basic skills, and also reminded myself to be grateful for this time in my life, because when my career really takes off I’ll definitely miss the comfort of being “nobody” within my field. I’m thankful for all the free time and for a day job that I like but don’t care about enough to take it home with me, etc.
    A few weeks ago I got an opportunity to be part of a project that would have been “beneath” me in my hometown, but it seemed like exactly the next step towards getting where I want to go. Before we even started meeting about this project, I got the sense that it was poorly managed and not something I want my name attached to. After our first meeting, I felt it more strongly, but because of scarcity thinking, I still wasn’t ready to let go, I mean, it’s a big city and a competitive field and here’s my FIRST opportunity to take a step up, so I’d better hang on for dear life and put huge amounts of energy into it because it could be my ONLY chance to do this kind of project!
    Our second meeting apparently was rescheduled, but our leader was not clear about letting us know this. Some of us showed up at the original time, this past Thursday, only to comb through our emails and discover ONE sentence in the middle of an old email suggesting a POSSIBLE time change. At this point, I’ve spent two weeks HATING this project and resenting everyone involved while trying REALLY REALLY HARD to overlook my reservations and focus on what this project could possibly lead to.
    On the way home from the meeting I shouldn’t have shown up for, I got in a really scary car accident. No one was injured, but I hit the guardrail going 60 or so and totaled the car I share with my fiance. I was found not-at-fault, but of course I had something to do with it– I’d been drawing negativity toward me for weeks! I knew it was a wake-up call from the Universe, I just still couldn’t tell if it was like “wake up! This is a good opportunity, stop focusing on the negative” or “Wake up! You hate this and don’t need it, tell everyone you’re leaving before you become integral to the project!”
    I made a point of expressing my gratitude– no one was hurt, I didn’t even ding another car so that’s not an issue, the car was paid off, my fiance had actually been dreaming about test-driving a Mini Cooper and that’s the car he got from the rental place so he’s pretty happy, and again, I wasn’t hurt. I was close to home when it happened. We have great car insurance, and we’ll get nearly blue book value for our old car. Honestly, if I had to total the car on the freeway, this was the way to do it!
    Less than 24 hours later, I got an email telling me I was recommended to apply for a showcase. I’m deliberately not being specific because it’s SUCH a big deal and when I see the reactions of the few people I’ve told, it makes me a little more nervous because I realize all over again just how huge this is. Just being recommended to apply is a huge honor. If I get selected for the showcase, that will be a major step in my career, and if I’m a finalist from the showcase, I’ll be in a second showcase that will be “judged” by the TOP PERSON in my field. In the whole world. Plus plenty of other people I’d like to meet.
    Preparing to apply to this showcase has been NOTHING like preparing for the other project I was working on. I’m inspired, the work is coming together smoothly if not easily, and I’m just so excited about it. I worked on it for 3 hours before having any coffee, which I’m pretty sure has not happened since I was like 14. I feel different. I’m reminded that I may not have started here with the same status I had in my hometown, but I still have the experience and talent that I developed there, and I don’t have to use it on projects that don’t satisfy me. Even if I apply for the showcase and get rejected, I’ll have my application to build a portfolio from. I still haven’t told the leaders on my other project that I’m leaving, but writing this out it seems even more clear that I can afford to leave, even if this new opportunity doesn’t work out the way I hope (but I feel very optimistic).
    Thanks for letting me ramble! I love the blog! xoxo

  • Tesha says:

    Thank you Evan, I just want things to be better.

  • Tessa says:

    Cat, Thank you.
    I didn’t know WHY what happened to me happened and this explains it.
    I was hired for a job two years ago. My boss was unreasonable in expectations and, for the first time in my life, I was fired two days later.
    I was then rehired back by the same person (two weeks later), and have now mastered my job.
    My Boss is now creating a NEW position FOR ME that did not previously exist (yes, the Boss that fired me).
    I am now, very good friends with my boss. In fact, such good friends that should I move to a different job, we will remain friends and keep in touch.
    When this happened I knew this was contrast. I didn’t ask for a specific outcome, I just knew that I did not have all of the information at the time and somehow, as ugly as the situation appeared, it would all unfold to my benefit. AND IT DID!

  • Cat says:

    Danae, Evan — I’m glad I could contribute something useful to you!
    I felt this quote of Walsch’s really helped me not to “count my chickens,” so to speak. Meaning: In Abe’s setup, you 1) have what-you-don’t-want (Contrast), then 2) have what-you-do-want (Desire), and then, 3) if you can stay in your Vortex long enough, you GET what you want (Manifestation). But the moment we look around and go, “I’ve been in my Vortex for 68 seconds/ten minutes/a month and a half/seven years; where’s my stuff?”, we’re OUT of the Vortex. So the idea that you 1) have your Desire (which, yes, was probably born out of Contrast to begin with, though not necessarily), and THEN 2) the Contrast shows up, and it’s SUPPOSED to show up, and NEEDS to show up for you to have real fulfillment from your Manifestation… The idea that, yes, IT’S REALLY WORKING PERFECTLY, even if it doesn’t look like it… There was an immediate relief in that for me, one that I felt as viscerally in my energy as if an uphill slog had suddenly turned into a downhill slide: Whee! I don’t have my stuff…and it’s okay, RIGHT NOW! 🙂
    (And, after all, is it REALLY possible for a Universe that brought forth life NOT to be working perfectly, EVER?)

  • Except maybe Evan. Your guidance rocks, my friend!
    Thanks for posting – I can feel your high vibes from here! 🙂

  • Evan Griffith says:

    Cat — that is pure revelation. Thank you —
    And Tesha — it is true. From this will come a surge into new areas so profoundly beautiful that tears of joy will come to your eyes in appreciation for these (seemingly awful) experiences that opened the way for you.
    I’m living from there now. You will too, I promise.
    I am sending you uplift right now! As I am sure many others are too, who are reading this.
    You are in the right place. There’s no better guide than Jeannette.

  • That is a lovely way to think of it, Cat! Thanks for sharing, my friend.

  • Danae Sinclair says:

    OMG Cat that is *stunning* – I’ll have to check out that book now!

  • Cat says:

    Neale Donald Walsch, who was the first “place” I ever heard about what I would later come to know as the Law of Attraction, has something to say about this that, in my opinion, goes just that tiny bit beyond the Abe-Hicks idea of Contrast that really helps remind me to appreciate the crap. From his book “Happier Than God”:
    “The Law of Opposites is the second of the five great Principles of Life and it works in perfect harmony with the Energy of Attraction. This principle states that no sooner will you call something into your reality than its exact opposite will also appear — and always *first*.
    […] “The moment you choose anything — any outcome, object, or experience — the *exact opposite* of that will come into your life in some way. It may show itself in some far distant quarter, or it may pop up right in front of your eyes, but it will be there, absolutely.
    “It is *necessary* for the ‘opposite’ of whatever you are choosing to create with the Energy of Attraction to show up, for the reason that *life cannot be experienced in a vacuum.* A *context* must be produced in which you may experience what you have chosen.
    “Because not many people know this, they can easily turn negative in their thinking just when the universe was preparing to place before them all that their hearts desired.
    “They do not see the appearance of the opposite as a sure and certain sign that they are on the right path, heading toward their chosen objective. Rather, they see it as an obstacle, a blockage.
    […] “Endeavor to see the appearance of the opposite as your first indication that Personal Creation is working flawlessly. Remember that the *first step* in creating anything is creating *a context in which it may be experienced.* Do not resist the opposite of anything that you wish to experience. Instead, embrace it.”
    🙂 The part that reads “the appearance of the opposite is your first indication that Personal Creation is working flawlessly” just SANG to me the first time I read it, and continues to today. 🙂

  • I like your style, Danae!
    In fact, that’s another way we open the door for all the good stuff – just even CONTEMPLATING what we’ve conjured up with all that desire.
    Wowza, right?! 🙂

  • Danae Sinclair says:

    YAY! Timely as always – was just reminding myself this morning that I’ve had SO much contrast that I’ve lined up the MOST AMAZING life for myself! And I’m now ready for it, allowing it and vibing for it to come pouring in. SQUEE!

  • Tesha, that means you have got some great things in store! Anything you can do to find any relief will help let those great things in.
    I’m rootin’ for you! 🙂

  • Tesha says:

    I freaking hope so. My entire life has been a mess for the last16 months: (

  • Oooh, and it started doing that, Carolyn, as soon as you embraced that thought!! Way to open the door to the good stuff you cooked up from all that contrast.
    WOO HOO!!

  • Carolyn says:

    ” And if you’ve had a lot of contrast in your
    world lately, that’s a good sign that things are
    about to get very, very good.”
    Thats sooo me right now. Thanks for the reminder that its about to get very very good.

  • Thanks for the endorsement, Frank! And for this:’
    “when we get OK with the worst-case possibilities, they always transform.”
    That’s been my experience, and that thought can be very reassuring when we’re knee deep in the disliked stuff. lol

  • Well, hell yes to all of the above!
    I’m just stopping by to say that and to say that THIS IS WHAT CONTRAST IS FOR!
    And… like with all things… when we get OK with the worst-case possibilities, they always transform.
    Why? Because we drop the resistance with moves the essence of whatever the matter is from having unwanted aspects to having wanted aspects.
    LOVE THIS Jeannette!
    Also, and PS, if you are at all thinking of signing up for the above-mentioned course, I HIGHLY recommend it!

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