My Rookie Manifesting Move
Have you seen my foster puppies? They are absolutely darling.
I welcomed them into my home when I was feeling a bit out of sorts. Life was zigging while I was zagging, and I felt a bit drained of joy.
I knew the puppies would put me squarely in the vortex again.
Except they didn’t.
(Yes, delicious moments here and there – but not solidly dwelling in it like I anticipated.)
Me. Puppies. No vortex?!
That’s unheard of!
But it makes sense. Because puppies can’t make me feel fabulous. That’s on me.
Same thing with this upstairs bathroom remodel. I thought for sure I’d feel better once that was done.
Except, I don’t.
Instead it’s offering great reasons to feel more of what I already did: not quite right, damage is done, woe is me.
Like, it’s not quite right how the mirror didn’t fit squarely on the wall. Just like it wasn’t right how someone abandoned a pregnant dog at the shelter.
“Damage is done” showed up with a shower rod drilled too high into the new tile wall. Just like the damage was done after momma dog spent a few nights in the guest bath with her new pups.
And “woe is me” that I’m stuck with all this demolition and reconstruction in the house, while I try to get work done, not to mention help mom clean up after nine puppies. Same “woe is me” feeling that my boyfriend wouldn’t help me with these foster pups.
Those vibes didn’t change because the bathroom was redone.
Law of attraction prevents it.
Law of attraction can only bring more of what I’ve been flowing. So until I change my vibrational instruction, it’s going to be more of the same.
That’s why sometimes people remain unhappy despite achieving incredible “success.” The fame and fortune can’t change how we feel. In fact, sometimes that just makes it worse because now we have this fabulous achievement and we still feel like crap. It could lead to hopelessness, if we didn’t understand how the system works.
I can change the a lot of the details of life – but until I change my vibe, I’m gonna feel the same way no matter what else I manage to create.
It doesn’t take incredible success to feel incredible. It just takes you. And your thoughts in this moment.
Expecting puppies to make me feel better, or a remodeled bathroom to lift my mood – that was a rookie move on my part.
Just like folks who think being debt free or quitting their job or divorcing their spouse will make them happy.
None of that stuff can change how we feel. It might seem like it does sometimes … for a while.
But sooner or later your dominant vibration will prevail. And it can spoil even the most perfectly planned parties when that dominant vibe isn’t a good feeling one.
Which is why I’m writing this reminder to myself and others who sometimes fall for this routine.
We aren’t using our manifesting powers to create things to make us feel better. We’re using our ability to manage how we feel to get what we really want – feeling better. (Which also happens to lead to great stuff that makes it even easier to feel better.)
It all begins with how we feel (i.e. what we vibrate).
Let’s make quick work of it and start where it really matters, by cultivating habits of peace, appreciation, enjoyment. By setting intentions to feel now how we want to feel, regardless of what is or isn’t happening in our lives.
Yes, there’s a time for feeling out of sorts – that’s part of the gig and it is not a problem. But when I’ve had enough of that, the answer isn’t puppies or new bathrooms or new boyfriends or bigger bank accounts or new jobs.
The answer is to practice some vibration management. To purposely find ways to feel better right here right now. A new happiness journal, a decision to practice better feeling thoughts (Pollyanna is a great re-inspiration for that), a recommitment to self-care, as well as a reminder to be compassionate with myself in the process – those are my standbys for vibration management.
How about you? Do you have a particular mantra or question that helps reconnect you to joy? A process to make peace with what is?
I’d love to hear your practices for managing how you feel without looking to the manifestation of something to do it for you.