No One Wants to Win the Lottery
This weekend my sweetie participated in two events at his employer’s Corporate Games. As regular readers know, my boyfriend likes to win – not just play, not just compete – he wants to be #1.
His experience reminded me of the question people often ask in terms of how law of attraction works when people want the same thing but only one can win. Like a lottery, a job or even a girl.
If each competitor wants to win and they’re each vibrating “win,” how could everyone get what they want?
This could be a long post, but I’m shooting for short & sweet.
Whoever is in closest vibrational alignment to winning will do so. But just because you’re competing to win doesn’t necessarily mean you’re vibrating “win.” Your energy could be “want to win” or “wish I could win” or “what if I don’t win” or “hope I don’t lose” or even just “do my best.”
Vibrating “win” with clarity and confidence is easier said than done. And truly, Universe is pretty creative in delivering to us exactly what we’re vibrating, as Russ experienced.
Before I continue, though, let me say it’s important to drill down to what we really want. It isn’t usually as simple as “win.”
Example: I don’t think anyone truly wants to win the lottery. I suspect what they really want is a higher quality of life, to be free from financial worries, support loved ones better, etc. And sometimes that happens as a lottery winner; sometimes it doesn’t. Getting clear on what you genuinely desire is crucial to achieving it.
Someone who thinks he wants to “win over” a particular person probably isn’t seeing things clearly either. What he really wants is more likely the feelings he thinks being in relationship with that person would give him.
We often miss the real target.
Back to my sweetie’s story: for these corporate games there were many competitors who wanted to take home the gold, Russ included.
When he came home Saturday with a gold medal for bowling, he was pleased but nonchalant. Turns out what he really wanted was TWO gold medals. Especially the one for golf, where the competition was steep. That would mean more to him.
He just phoned to report that he also won the gold in the golf competition. Was he satisfied with his two gold medals now? Not remotely.
Turns out there was a three way tie on the golf course. Instead of conducting a playoff, they awarded gold medals to all three four-person teams. So 11 other guys are carrying around the same gold medal my sweetie is. He felt a little ripped off.
Not at all what he imagined having two gold medals would feel like.
What he really wanted was probably something more like acknowledgement that he’s the best. I’m sure if he’d walked away with the gold by default because no one else showed up or were disqualified due to violation of stupid rules, he wouldn’t have been satisfied.
Aren’t we funny?!
Last night I watched a portion of the girls gymnastic national competition trials on tv. One competitor wanted to defend her title as champion; another just wanted to make the national team; another was quite pleased at evidence she was the national favorite; another wanted to do her best and make her parents proud, another young one wanted to gain experience for future high level competitions.
It was easy to see how each of them could get what they wanted, and still not be the “winner.”
In fact, the girl who scored the highest was talked about as being very relaxed, having a good time and clearly enjoying her performances. Not a surprise, huh?
My point: 1) it’s worth getting clear about what you really want and vibrating that, and 2) don’t underestimate the Universe’s ability to deliver on it. Apparently they make extra gold medals just in case. 🙂