No Such Thing as Wasted Time
There are few things more frustrating than feeling like we wasted a bunch of time.
Especially for folks who are busier than they like to be, it’s easy to resent time spent on things that don’t improve our quality of life.
- Like investing months (or even years) in a relationship that doesn’t come to fruition.
- Or spending weeks on a healing modality that doesn’t improve our condition.
- Or even time spent commuting to work or holding for tech support or preparing for an event that gets canceled.
Believe it or not, I recently complained about how long I have to hold down the flusher on my toilet. You have to hold it for a count of seven for it to work right. At first, who cares? It’s a couple seconds. But over time … seven seconds adds up!
What a waste of time.
And I’ve also been the person who could feel like I spent ten years with the wrong guy, and wasted three years house hunting all over two different states. So I get it what it feels like to lose a bunch of time on something.
But here’s the thing …
There’s no such thing as wasted time.
Conscious creators know this better than anybody, because we know the value of contrast.
The system doesn’t run without it. Without contrast, there’s no desire, and no expansion, and no chance to live a better life.
Contrast is what fuels the whole gig. Without it, there’s no party.
(That’s Abraham teachings 101.)
So that means any time we’re engaged in something we don’t like, there’s a benefit in it.
The trick is just to allow ourselves to receive the benefit.
And all that requires is … (altogether now) … finding a way to feel better.
If you let the contrast continue to beat you up (which is what we do when keep focusing on it), we hold ourselves apart from the good stuff it launched.
So when I get mad about the multiple phone calls made to Rise Broadband tech support (30+ minute hold time just to get a live person), and the complete lack of improvement after talking to that live person, I’ve just hatched a desire for a supportive, responsive, competent, efficient, enjoyable internet service provider.
If I keep complaining about how much time I’ve wasted talking to technical support reps, I don’t get to experience the benefit of that contrast.
Because life wants to get better for me. And it all starts with recognizing those opportunities for improvement.
I love Abraham’s reminder that we get to decide how much contrast we engage before we turn toward relief. That’s worth remembering that it’s up to us how long we suffer.
And all we have to do for that relief is to find a thought that feels better. That’s it. Universe handles the rest.
There are also those occasions when we’re not doing anything (besides beating ourselves up for not getting anything done). That can feel like a waste of time, too, when it’s actually instrumental in allowing the good thing that comes next.
So the next time you find yourself complaining about what a waste of time that was, look under the wrappings and notice what desire that conjured. What new and improved thing/experience/person did that just create?
The person complaining about an hour long commute might have a work-from-home gig in their vortex. The girl mad about six months invested in a jerk has in store a dream come true love relationship. The guy angry about ten chiropractic appointments that didn’t help his back pain has a wonderful solution waiting in his future.
All we have to do is get our attention turned toward what we want.
When you think about what amazing thing that “waste of time” gave birth to, you’ll realize that these moments are keys to a dream come true life. 🙂