Not Intended for All Audiences
Ready for a breath of fresh air? Enjoy this most excellent guest post from my good friend and colleague, Frank Butterfield …
Picture it: The year is 2013 and the place is a Starbucks in northwest New Jersey.
After a fabulous weekend in Vermont with amazing friends alongside beautiful Lake Champlain under a canopy of golden autumn leaves, I’m zipping my way down the east coast towards Key West.
Why? I don’t know. It just feels better to do so.
I have my Earl Gray tea and am watching the NYC-bound commuters come in and get their morning fuel, enjoying the sight of so many handsome gentlemen, and enjoying the fact that my day has three calls scheduled and a drive down to Baltimore and anything else I care to add to the mix.
I’m reading my Facebook and a friend (an awesome coach) posts a question about clients and marketing and I write that I’ve noticed that the less I reach for clients, the better things go.
I get called out. I am told that the way I run my business is ruining other people’s lives.
This awesome coach (he really is) is now the wing that some nestlings have found and now that they are on the right track with his program and his approach, they are sure to find flight and become the very majestic eagles they have always been destined to become.
This kicks ass! In a major way!
Only… my process (I have a process?) and the way I do business (I have a way of doing business?) have hurt these nestlings and they must be healed. Or, to quote verbatim, “people are going broke doing business with you.”
Now, I don’t know who these people are specifically. And, I don’t know what I was doing or what they were doing that caused them to go broke (they went broke?).
If they had come to me and told me this, I would have said, among other things, “OMG! You need to find someplace else that feels better! Stat!”
But, instead I have a bit of a broadside followed by shame and confusion and guilt. Which are mine, 100%. I can temporarily pretend they aren’t, but they are.
On the practical side, I stayed true to myself by acknowledging how wonderful it is that these folks found him and his work. I stand behind that 110% because I know it is absolutely true.
Now, today, after sitting with this, I’ve realized a few things.
Based on what this coach said, he isn’t really that familiar with my work, even though he claimed to be.
These people who found him have done the right thing for themselves, and that is what is most important since I truly want everyone to actually have what they actually want.
What this coach has done here is help me get more clarity than ever before about my work.
I don’t market my services like anyone else I know. I just follow what feels better to me.
I don’t do business like anyone else I know. I just follow what feels better to me.
What I offer is very unique and not a fit for everyone and that’s exactly right.
I also now get it that he is lumping me in with other people that I am assuming would be called “Law of Attraction folks.”
In other words, we’re the people who advocate that if you just throw it over to the Universe, you can sit on the couch all day and eat bon-bons and you’ll get everything you want. You know — like they said in The Secret.
Except, of course, that’s not what my work is about at all. Nor is that what any of these so-called “Law of Attraction folks” are saying or demonstrating either.
What he helped me realize is that I believe in what is coming through me because I walk that talk. I live my life according to the ideas that are coming through when I am channeling my handsome non-physical friends.
And, in fact, I’m doing exactly what I have always wanted to do — in terms of how I create money, how I live my life, and all the good stuff that I am willing to allow.
Oh, and there’s the rub: all that I am willing to allow.
If you have dilly-dallied with these “Law of Attraction” concepts, you might not get that the real “work” is to continuously open up more and more to allow what you actually want. And while stuff is part of what I want, I’m much more interested in awareness, experiences, and qualities in the different relationships I have.
I do get all sorts of stuff that I want because I ask for it. But then I do have to actually ask for it and I do have to actually allow it. And, if you understand this whole intentional and deliberate creation thing, then you know that this sounds laughably easy and is fundamentally simple in concept but is a lifetime of exploration (delicious exploration, I might add) in application.
My life is infinitely better than it has ever been that I can ever remember. And, as good as it is, it will be getting better and better.
So, I’m deeply appreciating my friend the coach for what he brought forth in his dismissal and warning. My work is not for everyone. That’s why I offer hours and hours of free samples of what it’s like so anyone interested will know if it is for them. But, mostly I let the Universe sort that out for me. And that’s working better and better, the more I let it happen.
What do you do when someone comes along and tells you that you are crazy for believing that you can intentionally create your life?
Find Frankie B and his non-physical friends at Communion of Light, where those hours of free samples will deliver delightful inspiration on a wide variety of helpful topics. Big love, Frank!