Not Too Seriously

Seth Godin and Mike Dooley are the only two authors I read in my in-box every day.  (I get Abe quotes, too, but not daily.)

Mike’s Notes From the Universe remind us of our power, life’s magic and how much we are loved.

Seth’s emails consistently inspire me to think bigger, question the status quo, and get on track with making our best offering in the world.

Today’s note from Seth was a rant about how Americans watch too much tv and don’t read enough books; about how irresponsible we are for having more opportunities than ever to educate ourselves but are dismally unlikely to use them.

Which reminded me of my tendency to make good use of my time.  To make the most of what’s available to me.  To not miss a single opportunity to grow myself and evolve spiritually.

It’s why I diligently read Choice before I browse O magazine.  It’s why I have the blogger’s guidebook on my nightstand (encouraging me to finish) instead of Kim Falconer’s Path of the Stray (tucked away as a special occasion treat).  It’s why The Good Wife is a guilty pleasure while I regularly share things I learn on 60 Minutes.

Seth’s note today reminded me I’ve got some of this backwards.

While it wasn’t his intent, I realized it’s easy to take myself and life too seriously sometimes.

It doesn’t all have to be about learning and growing and improving.

Sometimes – in fact, I might argue most of the time – it’s more important to relax, goof off and enjoy.

For those of you who know me for practicing quite a bit of that, I’ll say that relaxing and enjoying are habits I have to continually consciously cultivate.  (Whoa – say that three times fast!)

Because I do have it in me to work too hard; to want to get it right; to earn it before I enjoy it.

And that’s no way to live.  (At least not what I choose.)

Which is why I’m pleased to bring you this video I found while goofing off on YouTube this afternoon:

There is no deep message; no spiritual insight; no lessons to be learned.

Just the chance of a laugh or a smile.

Because that’s how I roll.  (hee hee)

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

Which is why I’ll continue my commitment to facebook posts about rescuing grasshoppers from blind kitty Elvis and am setting an intention right now to sign up for a daily email laugh.  (If you know a good resource, please share!)

This reminder from Abraham helps me stay loose and keep it fun too (“Step 3 is your work, which means CHILL OUT”):

So after reading Seth’s stern admonishment to read and learn more, I’m reminding myself I’m here for a good time; not a long time, not even an important time … just a good time.

And usually that means I have no idea what’s going on in the world news and love watching Survivor instead.  😉

  • October 20, 2010
  • Suzie Cheel says:

    How timely as I have had an afternoon of taking myself to seriously, so another Good Wife (I promised myself I won’t watch the new series that has just started here this week:))
    Thanks for the video, how clever was that.
    This reminds me to get out of my head and into my heart, yest again

  • I love how she uses the word “delicious”. Its such a juicy, full of life word! This video was a great reminder that the first thing we must maintain is our vibration and that our actions will follow that aligned vibration.
    Its also a good reminder that we should take things a little more lightly, there is no right or wrong way in which to learn this. Our experience, is our experience and we can take it as fast or as slow as we like. And that is just how it should be =)
    Thankyou =)

  • Yay for not justifying relaxing, Helen!
    And also for showing that it can be done right there at work, even.
    You rock!

  • helen says:

    thanks some really great reminders in here. I know how to relax but often I feel like I have to justify it!!! well no more of that and I am off to create a relaxing atmosphere here at my work desk. LOL ……………

  • Marielle, that quote gave me goose bumps! How beautiful!
    Thanks for popping in with such an enjoyable way of embracing the message. !!

  • Mariëlle says:

    This post makes me think of the song of Alanis Morrisette I saw on Facebook recently. It’s called Incomplete.
    “I have been running, so sweaty my whole life, urgent for a finish line. And I have been missing, the rapture this whole time, of being forever incomplete.” – Alanis
    Here’s the link to the song:
    It’s not about learning anything. We’re here for the experience, to remember who we really are, what we’re capable of, what’s already in our Vortex and how to line up with it.
    Answer: Loving, Appreciating and Enjoying!
    What a great way to live.

  • I don’t think you could find a more eloquent example of saying “To each his own” Nicole!
    That was lovely. 🙂
    I especially like how you found enjoyment despite not being a fan of what was showing (which I can relate to – I haven’t watched it and am glad for it, although I admire anyone who can find enjoyment wherever they do find it).
    Which makes me want to say Namaste to Jersey Shore lovers! lol

  • Nicole says:

    I stopped by a friend’s house last night and “caught” her watching Jersey Shore. She knows I really don’t like reality tv and she kept telling me I could turn it if I want to.
    I would much rather watch something that feeds my soul, rather than mind numbing tv! But, even tho I’m not going to start watching Jersey Shore, I felt bad that my judgments against it make her feel bad! So, I said, no, you enjoy this show, I’ll watch with you to enjoy your company. I focused on the experience of being with her, and didn’t let the craziness of the show imprint on me.
    So with that thought, I wonder how Seth would feel if all the tv watching Americans started watching documentaries, or Joseph Campbell lectures, or symphonies, or some other intellectually/spiritually enabled programming. Would it be such a ‘bad’ deal then? I know lots of people who would be miserable only watching those types of programs, while my family is miserable watching sitcoms & realty tv.

  • Lin, that is one of the reasons I love your blog SO much!! ha
    Keep it up, please!! I love it when I don’t learn any big lessons or hear any important life messages from you – rather just an honest to goodness out loud belly laugh!
    (Although I guess that IS a big lesson/important message, huh?) 😉

  • Lin E says:

    Jeannette, thank you. Here I’ve been thinking what I wrote in my blog today had no real message (which it doesn’t) EXCEPT… I get such a kick out of writing random stuff. Thanks for reminding me that it doesn’t need to make sense, and that having a good time is a priority!

  • Barb, I appreciate the spotlight you gave those words, because all this 2012 evolution of consciousness talk sometimes makes me think I’m here for an important reason that I better not screw up. ha!
    I love your habit of asking “Do I love this?” and honoring your answer! Nice way to do life.
    My closet has a fair number of Life Is Good items which has sewn in on sleeves or inside tags the mantra: “Do what you love; love what you do.” Nice to meet someone practicing that.

  • Barb says:

    “I’m here for a good time; not a long time, not even an important time … just a good time.” Thank you for this, Jeannette. I wrote it in my journal yesterday because it so resonates with me. Just like you, I love gathering information, learning, growing… and just like you, I tend to take everything I do very seriously and responsibly. Which is good but sometimes it can get overwhelming. (I have a fun and travel bucket list that’s getting longer and longer and of course it stresses me out 😀 )
    Wayne Dyer says in his book “The Power of Intention” that the main law of life is “Don’t take yourself so seriously”. Tonight I had a dream about my Dad who passed away 13 years ago. He had a tough life but he enjoyed it nonetheless. He focused on the good stuff, never complained and always expected the best. He had an amazing sense of humor and was incredibly creative. He didn’t plan and he never paddled against the current, he was the master of going with the flow. He was a very happy person. And he knew life was supposed to be fun and only then everything else.
    This is one of my favorite quotes: “Work is meant to be fun, life is meant to be fun, and the world needs what you have to offer. (…) Let all that you do flow from your purpose and passion, and you will experience and attract true happiness, abundance and success. (…) Follow your bliss.” (Jack Canfield, The Key to Living the Law of Attraction).
    I’ve recently started exploring Ayurveda and I recommend it to everyone. It helps you restore your balance by learning to listen to your body and emotions. Ayurveda encourages you to live by your own nurturing rules that bring you comfort, not by the rules of others or by the “should’s and must’s”. When I face a decision, I always ask myself: “Do I love this?” And I know that when the answer is “no”, it’s not the right thing to do, no matter what other people (friends, family, experts, gurus) say.
    HAVE FUN AND DO WHAT YOU *LOVE* is my mantra 🙂

  • Scott says:

    Great article! Lately, I have been noticing how easy it is for me to over think things and completely stop enjoying life.

  • An important reminder, Stephen – thanks for it!
    Scott, I am capable of the same thing (overthinking), so I can appreciate your comment.
    Thanks for posting, you two!

  • stephen says:

    Sometimes all it takes is remembering that I am a human BEING, not a human DOING.
    Abe reminds me that I can’t get it wrong. Nothing I do has any effect on what I manifest. The only thing that affects my manifestation is my vibe and the only way to change my manifestations is to change how I BE, not what I DO.

  • Katie, I’m in LOVE with you!! THAT’S what I’m talking about!!
    (And to think LOA for the Real World made it to your “should” list – oh my! lol)
    Way to get dialed in on what I believe is a much more enjoyable experience of life, “guilty pleasures” and all. (No matter what everyone on my facebook page is saying about how much they love life without their tv. tsuh!)
    I’m quoting Esther and Jerry here: “Life is supposed to be FUN!”
    ha ha

  • Katie says:

    This came at the most perfect time! I was just driving to work and in my thoughts was saying, I need to finish that book, I need to re-read your LOA for the real world, I need to journal more, etc. etc. So I will sit tonight and watch my HGTV, do a Sudoku puzzle and snuggle my puppy and enjoy every second. Thanks so much!!!

  • Jennifer, I feel quite inspired to follow your lead! I’ll post pictures of the canyon hike on facebook afterwards. 🙂
    woo hoo!

  • Jennifer Hooper says:

    As always, Jeannette, a great reminder!
    And on that note, I think I’ll take off a day next week and go hiking.
    Thanks for the nudge!

  • Pernille Madsen says:

    Thank you for constantly reminding me to HAVE FUN, Jeannette. I was taught to always do business before pleasure and have practiced that most of my life, so making room for fun and pleasure doesn’t come naturally to me.
    You are the person who has most inspired me to make room for pleasure also and I am very grateful for that. It makes life so much better!!!
    Although there is still room for improvement, I more and more often hear myself telling others to do the opposite; Pleasure before Business 🙂

  • I wondered if Pleasure before Business was why we hadn’t seen as much of you in the GVU forums lately! I know this much – whatever you’re doing, you’re committed to enjoying it.
    Thanks for sharing your example with us here, Pernille.

  • Monika, I laughed out loud to read that in the beginning you practiced overcoming perfectionism by deliberately making little mistakes!! ha!
    Kudos to you for embracing “laziness” and making it such a positive experience. Off to check out the resource you shared – thanks for that! 🙂

  • Stella, that post is exactly why I want to make sure I’m signed up for your newsletter!
    I’m not sure I did it right, but I’m off to double check now.
    Thanks for chiming in on this one! 🙂

  • M(onika) says:

    Dear all,
    I think I was a little bit like you described – in the past.
    Meanwhile, I must have evolved into the third laziest being on earth :o) (my cats are the two laziest ones above me)
    Some years ago, I learned that my perfectionism was getting me nowhere. Living, working, doing things means you will automatically make *mistakes* and these aren’t that bad really. I learned to allow myself to make mistakes – in the beginning I would deliberately insert typos into texts and email messages! 😀
    Lately, I’ve learned how to relax more with “breathing meditation” following these instructions
    It takes only a couple of minutes but it never fails to relax me. I also do this when I’m in an uncomfortable state of mind/emotion e. g. tension, sadness that I don’t want to dwell in.
    I am so lazy nowadays that I just like to sit in my favourite park and look at the trees and the sky, the birds and squirrels for a long time. I like to just enjoy the quiet and peace before I *must* go back to the civilised world and do my civilised human things 😉 I am so lazy that I enjoy reading this Blog much more than doing my work 😀

  • Hi Jeannette, this is so true and I find that what has worked for me is harmonising with lunar rhythms ~ during waxing moon I indulge in bliss and this stimulates my creativity, then during waning moon I do the introspection and growth and learning. It wasn’t a conscious decision at all, I just noticed I would have ‘waves’ of these activities and then put two and two together when I checked my calendar!

  • Jeannette says:

    Annette, you’re reminding me of a conversation I had with something this morning about when even self-love practices become a “should.”
    There are SO many opportunities for us to lighten up, aren’t there?!
    I love that you’ve got such great awareness going for you!! 🙂

  • Annettie says:

    Sooo . . all in moderation, eh? Another message in a line of similar messages this week to spend energy wisely. There are times when I MAKE myself relax, and this is not good. There is energy ramping up when I do that!
    But then there are times when I get in the habit of going going going – not good either.
    Vortex time – – if that means spiritual growth & learning in the moment – YAY! Naptime in the Vortex? YAY! Naptime under the coffee table at a friend’s house? Double YAY!
    Reading about and discussing deep spiritual theories and practices? Yay again!
    Now if I could do the spiritual discussions while under the coffee table . . . .

  • Nice to hear I’ve got good company in committing to more Vortex time with the relaxing practice, Angela!
    Thanks for reading and for posting on this one. Would love to hear your progress and what habits work well for you on it.

  • Jeannette,
    I agree! We need to take time to relax. I believe I’m a lot like you. I’m always reading and learning and rarely do I relax. The truth is, I actually don’t know how to relax. I’m going to work on this. Thank you!

  • Ah, I love it when that happens! (When we get immediate manifestational rewards for treating ourselves well with fun & relaxation!)
    Thanks for the suggestions, Ande – I didn’t know but am off to check it out now. 🙂

  • Ande says:

    Fun video! Love it. Thanks for the pick me up.
    Two daily grin suggestions: and Knowing how you love your fur-kids, you may know about them. But they’re two of the few e-mails I always open daily and they always at least give me a smile, sometimes an outright belly laugh. 🙂
    I was reminded of the chill out, relax lesson in the last couple weeks when my body used illness to stop my overwork. Once I settled in to relax, I started healing and also had some shifts in money and work.

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