Only Definition That Matters

Have you ever chased something before (or someone) only to discover after you got it that it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be? I suspect most of us have experienced this at some point in our lives.

What’s up with us? Are we destined to be perpetually unsatisfied? Is it human nature to continually reach for something new? Does the cycle of wanting, achieving, and then just wanting more continue our entire lives?

Probably. But it’s also worth checking out whether you’re trying to fulfill someone else’s definition of success.

I don’t fall for this one often these days, but years ago my marriage, career, and even my car reflected someone else’s idea of success. After spending too much time with an unlucky husband, a puzzled employer, and a sports car that my dogs couldn’t sit in, I realized this wasn’t my gig.

I eventually had another go at it, this time without giving a rip what others thought. As a result, I painted a much different picture than before; one that is more fulfilling than I ever dreamed. Who’da thought I’d be happier scooping litter boxes at the animal shelter than graduating cumma sum laude in three years?

You may be surprised to realize where your “feel goods” come from, but it’s crucial to get in touch with. What’s the point of becoming Master Manifestors if we create things that don’t bring us real joy?

Take the King of Bhutan, for example, who declared his country’s measure of prosperity to be GNH (Gross National Happiness) rather than the traditional GDP. He uses well-being instead of consumption as the measure for success. How cool is that?!

Check-in on your current intentions and manifestation projects. Are they genuinely yours? Or are they someone else’s idea of what yours should be? Read further for help getting clear on what your definition of success is. As a wise person once said: “There is only one definition of success that matters. Yours.”

  • April 1, 2007