Our Role in Co-Creating
This is a topic I rarely broach. Feels kind of voo-doo-ey to some, including me sometimes. But it’s undeniable, so here it is.
Those new to deliberate creation sooner or later ask how much effect, if any, they can have on someone else. After all, we can’t vibrate FOR someone else, so how much can we REALLY create our own reality, if that reality involves someone else, and that someone else might want something else?
Well, you might be surprised.
But the fact is you’re already doing it. Just not deliberately most of the time.
I expect my boyfriend to be mad because my ex is here helping clean bunny cages, and sure enough, he is. (At least I also expected him to leave me the chocolate devotion ice cream from Coldstone before he drove home in a huff. Got even more mad when I didn’t get upset that he was upset, which I also expected him to do. That was NOT deliberate creation. That was crappy default creation on my part.)
People live up to and down to our expectations all day long.
As we anticipate our boss being contradictory and unsympathetic, we create her that way. When we imagine her as understanding and helpful, we come to work to find a whole new person in the boss’ chair.
Doubt it? Put it to the test.
Expecting your neighbor to be nosy, uncompromising or annoying? Give something else a try and see how they change. Wishing your spouse weren’t so stubborn about not wanting to go with your suggestion? Imagine them open instead of closed, and then get open YOURSELF. It allows for miracles.
Have you ever noticed yourself reacting strangely or out of character with someone in a particular situation? Likely you were experiencing the effect of their intentions. “I don’t know what came over me!” we’ll say, genuinely perplexed.
Those who have worked with me heard about when I first learned law of attraction, my boyfriend at the time didn’t miss a beat in implementing it himself. Within days of my first deliberate creation “miracle” (Jeff’s adoption), I realized I was having WAY more sex than usual. I mean a LOT more. After the third day I thought, “This isn’t like me! What’s going on?” I immediately realized my astute beau was also a quick study of LOA.
I told him to stop because it wasn’t ethical.
That didn’t scare him.
So I told him to stop because if he kept manifesting that I was super-interested in sex, he would very likely drive me into the arms of someone else, because I was now dead set against sex with him.
The fact is that our vibrations affect those we interact with. When we become more deliberate about the energy we flow, it shows. (And whether or not it’s ethical to manifest certain things for others is not anyone else’s call to make, contrary to what I said to my guy years ago.)
My advice: check in on your expectations of others, and make sure they’re in alignment with what you want.