How to Pretend When Reality Disagrees

How to Pretend When Reality DisagreesLOA savvy folks know the power of acting as if you’ve already got what you want.

Becoming the person you want to be – before reality agrees with you – is incredibly effective at aligning your signal to allow your desires to manifest in 3D reality.

This works no matter what you’re manifesting – whether your goals are professional, spiritual, relationship, financial or physical health.

Yet lots of creators don’t practice it because they quickly run into challenges with pretending it’s already so.

Like, the guy manifesting financial abundance doesn’t know how to “be rich” when he has no money in the bank.

The woman wanting love and romance doesn’t know how to feel loved and adored while she’s alone and single.

The person desiring fame and fortune for her artistic talents doesn’t know how to overlook the fact that her work isn’t going anywhere.

You readers probably have lots of tips for getting around “reality” in order to embrace the identity we aspire to. We’d love to hear your suggestions!

In the meantime I’ll share a couple of my own creative workarounds for those who have trouble being rich while reality says they’re still broke:

When you want prosperity but you can’t buy what you want …

… know that rich people sometimes don’t buy everything they want, either! Sometimes they hold out for a better color or a different model.

Sometimes they shop around before they decide on what they like best.

Sometimes they know it’s wise to run it by the spouse before they pull the trigger.

Sometimes they prefer to live a simpler life that isn’t filled with things having to be stored and maintained. Sometimes they like to sit on a desire for a minute to make sure it’s not a passing fancy.

Or sometimes the salesperson is a jerk that they don’t want to deal with. Or maybe they don’t want to buy during retrograde mercury.

What I mean is, you could still be a rich person whoΒ isn’t buying everything you want right on the spot. Sometimes they walk away, too.

Just because you don’t buy it doesn’t mean it has to compromise your identity as one who is rich beyond belief.

Here’s another common obstacle for those ‘acting as if’ they’re rolling in money:

When you want to be rich but your bank account says otherwise …

… you know what? Sometimes rich people have low bank balances, too.

Maybe because they keep all their money in a different (higher earning) investment account.

Maybe it’s because they just donated the bulk of their liquid assets to a worthy cause, and they know their account will be flush again in no time.

Maybe they don’t have any money in their wallet because they don’t carry cash. Like how Howie Mandell (I imagine) doesn’t handle money because he’s germophobic.

Right? It makes sense that there wouldn’t be any money there.

See how these things still go together?

Here’s another situation:

When you want to help someone out financially but you can’t afford to …

Look, sometimes a person with all the money in the world doesn’t give money because he knows there’s a better way to help solve a problem.

Sometimes a kind word or an expression of encouragement does wonders. Sometimes a suggestion or a referral makes a bigger difference. Sometimes giving your time is more helpful than throwing money at it.

I’m saying you could still be rich and find another – even better – way to help a friend out.

Sometimes rich people have their assets temporarily unavailable. It happens.

Sometimes they drive a car that isn’t their favorite. (Maybe theirs is in the shop, or they let someone borrow it for a special occasion.)

Sometimes they don’t wear the most expensive clothes. Maybe they’re in the process of losing weight, so they’re not redoing their wardrobe until they stabilize.

This is just their ‘limbo’ wardrobe.

Sometimes wealthy folks declare bankruptcy. They have good reasons for it and it makes financial sense. (Hello Donald Trump.)

Sometimes rich people get calls from creditors. (It could be a wrong number. It could be a bill or a payment that got lost in the shuffle. It could be a stolen identity, who knows?)

Sometimes people with plenty of money don’t go on expensive vacations. Maybe they’ve got something big going on at work, so they’re skipping it this year. Or maybe they’ve never slept under the stars in a sleeping bag, so they’re going camping instead of cruising this time. Maybe the travel agent totally screwed something up and that’s why they’re in coach instead of first class.

Stranger things have happened!

What I’m saying is thatΒ it doesn’t take much imagination to keep your new identity intact even while you’re walking through the world in your “former” reality.

It’s worth conjuring whatever story works to maintain the new identity that takes you where you want to go.

Pretending you’ve got what you want despite a contrary reality isn’t all that hard. πŸ™‚

Let’s hear your workarounds for being able to “act as if” when the circumstances don’t agree. Fellow creators get hung up in practicing this with weight loss, professional success, and romance almost as much as they get stumped on money.

Got any tips? I’ll share a few more of my favorites in the comments …

  • December 17, 2014
  • Barbara says:

    If I feel I’m not aligned to the “as if” vibe on a particular subject, I usually choose another topic that I do feel good about and “milk it” until I feel really good. The good-feeling momentum of scripting that out sets me up nicely to then turn my attention to the original subject that didn’t feel good at first.

  • You know, Janette, that story doesn’t surprise me. It seems like the ones who are already living it are least likely to put on airs. Good to know for those of us who are still on our way there!!

  • Janette says:

    Some years ago I worked in Harrods (the very upmarket London department store). During training, we had it drummed into us that we were NOT to treat people any differently based on how they were dressed. There had been an earlier incident where staff had evicted someone for being too scruffy, only to discover it had been the child of a very rich celebrity. Embarrassment all round!
    And I saw this over and over again. Celebrities and various members of their families, especially those who lived locally, dressed just like me.
    For example, one day I saw this very tall woman mooching through the cosmetics hall. She wore raggedy jeans and a sweatshirt, and her long blonde hair was kinda ratty. She was scowling with concentration and not especially pretty, and she wore no makeup. She certainly didn’t look like a successful fashion model, actress and celebrity.
    It was Jerry Hall.
    Rich girls – even the most high fashion ones – sometimes choose to dress just like ordinary shop girls.

  • And that’s how it’s done! Nice going, Practically Always Pollyanna.
    Thanks for sharing your empowering example with us!

  • Practically Always Pollyanna says:

    I love, love, love this post. It’s so much fun to play with scenarios like this when we need to ramp up the feeling the money vibe and the possibilities are endless. We rent our Spanish house and with it comes a beautiful communal pool and tennis courts… which of course we own πŸ™‚ That’s an easy one to imagine in September when we literally do get both to ourselves! I also live in between two affluent coastal towns and a quick fix is always to go out for coffee at one of either ports, observing people, feeling ‘at one’ with them, and imagining my yacht’s in the harbour πŸ˜‰ My daughter’s Thursday dance class is also choc full of kids who go to private school, with very wealthy parents. I can be whoever I want to be in their company and I have come to the point that I feel I belong, which is really liberating because for so long I had struggled with the money thing. Now hanging out with people like that feels so inclusive. When they talk about their lifestyles, mine easily fits in because I will say things in a certain way, ignoring the things I don’t want to give attention to and hyping up the best bits I and get super excited along with them when they talk about their amazing skiing holidays in the Sierra Nevada. I walk away feeling uplifted, empowered, carefree about my finances and really, not so very different. It’s just great. I also tell myself a new story about the local shops in both towns – which is that I will pop in to look for x,y or z when the kids aren’t with me… Mommy can try things on in peace, handle the giant vases of flowers and select her vintage champagne without wondering if there will be any breakages that way! And the same goes for the restaurants. We eat in the cheaper tapas bars because we save the 5 star restaurants for date night of course πŸ˜‰ The feeling of abundance soon weaves its magic once we engage our creative streak! Merry Christmas Everyone!

  • Cat, that is not just a great manifesting tip, it’s also very helpful to understand that comic strip! I get it now!! ha ha
    I am totally using that!
    And Kersey, it’s easy to see how anyone who feels an abundance of time is indeed rich – especially in cultures that emphasize productivity over leisure and enjoyment.
    Thanks for chiming in, you two! πŸ™‚

  • Kersey says:

    Great post! πŸ™‚ I actually live in a pretty wealthy area and get to observe rich people upclose…lol. I think about what Louise Hay has said about how abundance comes in many forms. For me, I *love* having an abundance of time. Just sitting in a cafΓ© leisurely sipping coffee/tea makes me feel rich. I once worked as a personal assistant to a wealthy family and they were always stressed out and over-scheduled. Another trick a good friend recommended was to hang out in luxurious settings and APPRECIATE your surroundings. She would go to a nice bar in a hotel like the Ritz and just sip wine and bask in the opulence of the bar, etc. All is well! πŸ™‚

  • Cat says:

    I do something I call “Calvin-and-Hobbesing,” which will either be so routine to people as to not be worth mentioning, or will take a bit of explaining…
    For those who may not have read the comic strip, Calvin was a hellion of a kid with an imagination so vivid it brought to life his stuffed tiger named Hobbes. One recurrent plot was Hobbes lying in wait at the front door to attack Calvin when he got home from school…and the trippy thing was, Calvin’s beleaguered mom would then actually ask him how he got so beat up! (Meaning, even though Hobbes was just a stuffed toy to her, she could still see the physical results of Calvin’s imaginings!)
    More to the point of how I do my pretending, there were also times when Calvin, bored of school, would daydream himself as, say, intrepid planet-hopping explorer Spaceman Spiff, trapped in the clutches of some evil alien race — and one of the interrogation questions down in that rank, dank dungeon would be, “What’s 3 times 7?” (to which Calvin would shout, at the figure who was really his poor, unsuspecting teacher, “You’ll never make me talk, alien scum!”) πŸ™‚
    Without shouting “alien scum” at people, what I call “Calvin-and-Hobbesing” is about weaving your “real” reality with your desired one. So, you’re driving home from work, and you imagine that your Soulmate is waiting there with a hot dinner and a warm hug. Or you imagine that you’re really driving to the airport for your vacation. Or that you are driving home, but that “home” is your beachside dream house. Or that you’re not driving, but you are *sitting*, sipping sparkling cider and having a wonderful conversation with friends. Or whatever. Just use some of what’s materially present to feed your visualization with sensory stuff, instead of sequestering your visualizing from your “real” life and having to call it all up wholly in your mind’s eye. It’s like having half of your imagining done for you, and it feels more real to your body.
    I absolutely LOVE your examples, Jeannette; thanks a zillion! Your ideas will help a LOT with those moments when the Contrast tends to jar me out of Talking-Tiger land and into Stuffed-Tiger land again. πŸ™‚

  • I love that, Steve! Feels very empowering and easy to embrace.
    Thanks for adding that tip to the conversation!

  • Steve says:

    Change the time frame.
    Say “remember when…” Remember when I didn’t make much and was struggling. Remember when I was looking for a job and thought I would never find one.
    Put yourself a bit into the future and have a look back.

  • Frank, you are brilliant as usual! I love the feeling of flexibility that you shared, and also the dressing down thing! In fact, that’s very much in line with what I read in The New Elite – a book that studied the habits of the very wealthy. Most rich folks aren’t trying to stand out – rather, they want to blend in and fly under the radar – just like you said!
    Thanks for chiming in on this one. Undoubtedly your comments will be a great help to many!

  • I love all of this — perfect timing (of course!)
    I think this is the most subtle of all things having to do with intentional manifestation to put into play. I have a lot of practice with this under my belt and have found that the best ways to do this (the ones that yield tangible results) are actually quite small and rather easy to get to.
    And, I love hearing, time and time again, from my non-physical friends, that physical reality is actually quite flexible and responds to my expectations and intentions all the time.
    I love the feeling of that flexibility.
    And, I love remembering all the many times in the past when I thought it wouldn’t happen, and then it did.
    I love turning that awareness into this story:

    Although I always manifest what I want, I used to believe it was necessary to flush out the doubt and fear first.
    Now I know that this isn’t necessary because life just keeps getting better and easier and there is so much that just happens because I imagine it and I don’t have to do anything to make that happen.
    In fact, what I really notice, more and more, is that, while I may have passing thoughts and opinions about what might or might not happen, they are just that: passing. They pass in and they pass out and I forget about them before I can even notice.

    There are two other things I want to add to your “Sometimes rich people…” list:
    Sometimes I, as a rich person, take my time in making up my mind about what I want to experience and to have because I really enjoy savoring the possibilities.
    Because I actually do.
    Sometimes I, as a rich person, intentionally dress down because I like to fly under the radar and enjoy the deliciousness of being easy with everything. The truth is that I can wear anything I want because I can wear anything I want. And I like that.
    And I do!
    Thanks so much

  • One of my favorites for when we’re manifesting a leaner body but the clothes we’re wearing keep reporting the same old size? Take those damn size labels out. Or better yet, replace them with the size you’re claiming.
    (I know people who have sewn in the size label they prefer! Talk about affirming!)
    When it’s time to go shopping and only the “bigger” things fit – you know what (here’s my story that works for me) – manufacturers are so inconsistent in their sizing that I know this number means nothing. Yes, I’m buying a size 10. But that doesn’t mean I’m not rocking a size 8 in this body. That manufacturer is high.
    Who cares about the numbers anyway? Do I feel good in my body? Hell yes. Well, that’s all that matters.
    Also, I remind myself, I like things loose and roomy. They cut this to be tighter than I like to wear it, so it makes sense I’m picking up an extra large. Makes total sense. My identity is intact.
    See how that works?
    In real life I once gave away size 14 pants because they were too small while I was comfortably wearing size 8s. Those numbers are useless – don’t let them tell you who you are.

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