Q&A: Commitment and Feeling Good
You all shared such helpful perspectives in our post on the vibration of demanding (consensus is it’s a powerful way to go), that I’m soliciting your input on another big topic for manifesters.
We often hear advice to choose a powerful manifesting technique and then make it a regular habit. Even if just for 30 days, something like daily meditation, affirmations, visualization, or gratitude can transform a life when practiced regularly.
- Tony Robbins says, “Results come from rituals.”
- Abraham says, “It doesn’t take more than 30 days to talk yourself into being a perfect match to your dream.”
- Mike Dooley says, “Visualizing once or twice a day for five or ten minutes is ideal.”
Shoot, even I say one page a day, as if your desire has already happened, is all it takes.
And the evidence shows success comes when we make strong commitments and engage regular habits to create that success. (Like Olympic athletes who train mentally and physically for years, and happily married couples who honor vows to love each other for life.)
But what about when engaging in the ritual or habit begins to feel like a “should” and we find we have to make ourselves do it in order to honor the original commitment?
I experienced this recently, when I was inspired to commit to 29gifts.org to give one thing every day for 29 days straight. Just seven days in I was already feeling the enthusiasm wane and the resistance grow – of having to think up something new, something that I wasn’t already going to do – to honor my pledge. As soon as it felt like “pushing” I gave myself permission to unplug (because I know resistance won’t take me anywhere good).
Which has also happened to me with yoga, meditation – even Jack Canfield’s self-love practice of saying something nice in the mirror every night – I have yet to make it to the full 40 days. (Which is when he said all his negative self-talk disappeared. I’d love to experience that!)
So while it’s easy to see the benefit of committing to engage empowering habits, how do we balance that when the “feel good” of it dissipates?
I know some of us are really good at powering through that dip in enthusiasm in order to get the benefits that come from regular repetition of empowering habits.
And on the other hand, I know others are so committed to feeling good that they drop commitments in a heartbeat as soon as they feel like “shoulds.”
This is why Wayne Dyer quotes Abraham with: “Nothing is more important than that I feel good” and why Abraham suggests the best marriage vow we could make is something like, “I like you pretty much, let’s see how it goes.”
So my question is, how do you experience the benefits of an empowering habit or ritual while still honoring what feels best (when you don’t feel like doing it any more)?
Is it that rituals are overrated? Or that you’re able to tap into a stronger “feel good” by honoring the commitment? Are we experiencing a self-sabotage by disengaging from what we know would work? Or is there a secret to making a commitment in a way that it doesn’t devolve into a “should”?
Let’s hear it from you experts who are living this stuff day in and day out!