Q&A: How to Allow (Step 3 It) Without Giving Up?
Ready for more Q&A fun? Here’s one on the subject of allowing I think we all can relate to:
Following is an excerpted question from a note that came back after I offered coaching on getting out of “asking” energy and into “allowing” energy (re moving from step 1 and into step 3), without giving up the desire:
Q: “I DO feel good even though it is not here yet. However, I cannot escape the “when the hell is it going to show up??” I almost feel like saying- forget it universe, I don’t want it! I have said- Ok, Universe, I am letting it go, you make it happen. But, since I have ‘let go’ I want it to manifest now. I don’t get why it wasn’t manifested!”
“Honestly maybe I don’t know how step 3 feels. I’m beginning to feel like this is a hopeless cause! I feel like it will never happen. I have not felt like this before. It could be because I was seriously expecting to manifest this goal immediately after speaking with you.”
We know what Abraham says about desire and allowing:
(excerpt from the January 2008 Mexcio cruise workshop):
“You cannot continue to tell the story of where you are and move in the direction of [what you want]. Your work is about letting what you’ve asked for, be.”
Abe continues with an explanation of the difference between pure desire and yearning:
“Pure desire is: I want it, I got it, it’s coming, I know it. Pure desire has no doubt woven in it. I’m a worthy being, life has helped me know that I want that, and I’m looking forward to watching the natural unfolding of it, because I’ve asked for it and it’s done.
“Yearning is: I haven’t had it, but I’ve really wanted it, and I’ve done the work and I’ve wanted it well. And see my book, I’ve written it down 1,000 times. I really want it. And it hasn’t come yet, but I know it will, I know it will, I know it will, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, hasn’t come yet, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, I went to that workshop, I know it’s coming, I know it’s coming, he’s got it – damn! I know I can do this, I’m really good at this, I know I can do this, I’m getting kind of sick and tired of it, I know I can do this, I know I can do this, I’ve wanted this my whole damn life, and it’s about time that it starts coming to me because it’s not fair …”
(I laugh every time I listen to that one! It’s a classic!)
Abe says you want to feel fresh and light and free and frisky about your desire. That “when you want something purely, it feels good. And when you talk about it you get that rush. And when you want something that you don’t believe, that you doubt, then it feels like work.”
I know many of us accidentally get into the allowing space by giving up – that’s what’s sometimes required to eliminate the negative “charge” we have on it after frustration has built to this point. But there’s a better way …
So the question becomes when you’ve been wanting this thing long enough to be frustrated that it hasn’t materialized, how do you get yourself in a space of allowing at that point?
Can’t wait to hear your words of wisdom and insights from personal experiences, everyone!