Q&A: How to Deprogram Beliefs from Parents?
This girl is so easy to love! Here’s a question from Laura I wanted to toss to the Good Vibe community, since it is one many of us have worked with (and perhaps are working with now):
Jeannette, I have a question for you.
I was brought up with parents who had a lack vs. abundance attitude regarding money. Even though we were well cared for, the fear around not enough money was so prevalent in my household that it became so ingrained that:
- money is hard to get
- feeling guilty about spending money is normal
- other people can be rich, etc. you get the idea.
For many years I rebelled against this type of thinking about lived way above my means as I never wanted to feel the deprivation that my mother did.
As a result, I have been irresponsible, gotten myself in debt and never felt I could get out of the viscious cycle… It was almost as if I needed to spend the money I got since I never knew if I would be able to do/buy this thing again.
I know this thinking was backwards and I have seriously shifted my thinking on this, but there are times when it is very hard to get beyond the thinking that I WILL NEVER HAVE ALOT OF MONEY BECAUSE I NEVER HAVE.
Other than affirmations and new thoughts, have you discovered some other way to unprogram the voice and beliefs of our parents that can be so powerful since they are ingrained at such a young age?
Would love to hear your experience with this (with your parents) and anything you’ve used with clients. Thanks so much.
What do you think, everyone? What words of wisdom and experience can you offer in response to Laura’s excellent question?
Thanks in advance for your generous input!